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To think there are a lot of nasty people on Mumsnet?

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Poile · 09/01/2024 14:31

Just that.

Have seen so many directly aggressive and passively aggressive comments on here that it makes me think that many mumsnetters are just plain nasty. Assuming to due to unhappiness with own life.

Some examples stick out - when people ask to guess their age some of the guesses are just rude and over the top inaccurate. One poster even questioned a person’s gender even stating they had thick eyebrows which were not groomed due to depression. The disingenuous of “please don’t think I’m being rude but …”.

Also saw someone ask for help with their curtains and the amount of snide remarks was shocking.

I also think a lot of people in here think their way is best and the only way. Insufferable.

To me the people who will kick a person when they are down just seems disproportionately high. Obviously the fact it’s an anonymous forum adds to this.

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ilovesooty · 09/01/2024 14:40

WeeJimmycranky · 09/01/2024 14:37

There's a thread a week saying this on average. I don't think it's that bad but I don't read every topic of course.

There was one only yesterday.

Megifer · 09/01/2024 14:40

"Guess my age....oh no im not 21 I'm actually 96" posts are fucking tedious though tbf.

Emmainexile · 09/01/2024 14:39

It’s to be expected though, happens on all internet forums to a degree

Think of the type of people who use online forums, most will be unable to make meaningful friendships irl so rely on online forums for socialisation or support. If they struggle irl they’re usually not going to be that great a person.

I’ve lost count of the number of posters who complain about having no friends, struggling to make friends or not being able to understand how people have friends in general.

fatphalange · 09/01/2024 14:39

Yeah it's the internet. You get a mix

gamerchick · 09/01/2024 14:38

Handitback · 09/01/2024 14:34

It’s not great.

I wish the mods were on it. I know you can report stuff but it’s often hard because a lot of it purposefully stays within talk guidelines but is really horrible nonetheless.

Mumsnet isn't moderated.

You do need a thick skin to post threads like that OP. It's not going to change on here.

Forgottenmyphone · 09/01/2024 14:37

yanbu, but I’ve also received a lot of support, and night watch is a life saver

WeeJimmycranky · 09/01/2024 14:37

There's a thread a week saying this on average. I don't think it's that bad but I don't read every topic of course.

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Poile · 09/01/2024 14:37

It’s the kicking of someone who is down over really inconsequential stuff that annoys me

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Wytchy · 09/01/2024 14:36

I don't know how many individual posters there are on Mumsnet on any given day but I'm guessing it's a lot. So it's inevitable there'll be a load of tossers in the mix.

The ‘guess my age’ threads make me wince because angry people are drawn to them like moths to a flame, just so they can tell a woman who clearly looks anywhere from 30 - 40 that she looks the same age as their 68 year old mother, only more haggard.

HoldMeCloserTonyDancer · 09/01/2024 14:35

Unfortunately it’s not just mumsnet; it’s in everyday life too

Handitback · 09/01/2024 14:34

It’s not great.

I wish the mods were on it. I know you can report stuff but it’s often hard because a lot of it purposefully stays within talk guidelines but is really horrible nonetheless.

barbarahunter · 09/01/2024 14:34

Yes there are some posters on here who are aggressive when they have no need to be. There's also a lot of funny, knowledgeable, kind and generous posters on here.

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