To think there are a lot of nasty people on Mumsnet?

Totally agree! This post is old but I can say I have seen and read many nasty comments from people and couldn't agree more!

Perhaps they genuinely feel the op looks older. That happened to me. I thought I was complimenting someone and it turns out she was much younger than I’d guessed.

Yeah, it really isn't though.....

@Beeinalily , but it was designer earrings or something wasn't it?
Fruit bowl are sort of for helping yourself to.

I get fed up with the way people get obsessed by details. Recently a poster thought that a member of her family had stolen something, I for one wouldn't have known what to do in her place and would have been very upset. But what did people latch onto? She put the item in her fruit bowl. Now in our home practically everything gets put in the fruit bowl until it's put away properly! A lot of posters also seemed to decide that the adult hard drinking relative was Tiny Tim. I felt very sorry for the OP, and I doubt if she'll venture back to update us.

I noticed a long run of threads where the nasty lot were first on. You could almost rely on skipping the first page to get to considered responses. I haven't checked recently though.

Sure, makes sense. My point was more about the recent cluster of resurrections and how different the attitude of commenters is then/now.

Maybe if people used AIBU for genuine topics they wouldn’t get cheeky replies. Guess my age? What do you think of my curtains? Go away.

The trouble also is that many of the tw*ts and troublemakers lack self awareness and don't realise they're the problem. I read this thread back and noticed that one of the people I've reported in the past for awful behaviour to others is actually on this thread.

Over night, when the MNHQ mods aren't working, there's a team of volunteers who can hide posts/threads if they're reported.

Here, in the 'Mumsnet Stuff' topic

When the moderating team is back, they'll review the threads or posts that the Night Watch team have reported, and will either reinstate or delete. Usually they delete, as TNW are pretty good at spotting the trolls.

What do you mean, "if"?

Use the report button.

Yep! I've noticed some really argumentative people too.

It’s the keyboard warriors. You have to be thick skinned to put yourself out there on the internet. I always hope those on the receiving end do not take the Nast comments personally.

Night watch?

It’s like real life really, some are great, most are ok but there are some real cunts out there! You can disagree with someone without being a twat about it.

I had one poster who seemed to be stalking me. She was unhinged with outrageous views (not sure if it was a troll) and for a few weeks she replied to virtually every comment I made. I did report it and it stopped. If she was genuine and is still on here under a different username (and not banned!) she’s clearly realised the error of her ways!

Too often its hard to find threads that don't descend into nastiness. I can't stand the ones where OP is called unhinged, hysterical etc. Really derogatory. If a man landed here and called women that there'd be howls of Sexist!!

Ironically the “how to hide a body” thread was quite genial 🤣🤨

@Dutch1e I resurrected an old zombie thread because the HA i rent from was insisting their computer was right and that tenants owed rent when they didnt. Its similar to something big thats all over the press. Felt vindicated so i do think its ok to ressurect threads in some circumstances

Interesting that you say that. I've recently left Reddit (and all other social media apart from this site, if Mumsnet counts as social media) precisely because of the tiresome snark from people who pretend there is no nuance in life.

Maybe it's the subs (or Facebook groups) I joined. It just ground me down.

To your original point though, yes, I think there are an awful lot of commenters here who are only looking for a fight. There have been a few zombie threads randomly resurrected lately and reading how many conversations actually evolved in an organic way without immediately leaping to "you're a dick." " No, you are" made me a bit nostalgic.

(Edit for typo)

You can disagree with someone without being a twat though.

Exactly! Shame not many people appear to be particularly skilled at this.

Internalised misogyny. Men are regularly rude, patronising and aggressive online.

Must admit to reading AIBU for a laugh most of the time, it’s ridiculous! You’re right, it’s an online playground full of bullies and berks!

Topics where you will not get support:

• you are trans/non binary or want to support someone who is
• even vaguely pro surrogacy
• Being a SAHM
• Wanting more than 2 children

The rest is more varied and you get a wider range of views more in line with the general population.

Avoid AIBU like the plague. Mumsnetters love jumping on there to go YES YABU or Um NO OBVIOUSLY YANBU YOU IDIOT. It’s never nice.

I agree that pregnancy, infertility and parenting type stuff is more constructive.