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What's reasonable re neighbours noise?

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Lorelaigilmore88 · 06/01/2024 02:41

Live in a terraced house, never heard anything from old neighbours so was very fortunate for several years.

New neighbours moved in 6 months ago. Young couple now with a baby. Pleasant enough, exchange hellos on the street, they've put my bin out when I went on holiday and I hadn't asked them too which was nice...
They are fairly quiet but louder than the old neighbours, playing music, baby crying occasionally, tv noise... I am generally not bothered by this, my view is daytime noise is fine and to be expected in a terrace. My two can be noisy on occasion - but my household noise stops at 8pm. This is when my children go down and after that my house is quiet.

But approx once a month, always on a Friday night, the neighbours seem to throw a party with friends until about 4am. Its going on right now. I currently feel like I am connected to a rowdy pub. Right now they are tunelessly screaming along to Amy Winehouse. The music is so loud I am amazed my two are still asleep.
I am more than happy to go around and tell them to turn it off, which i think they would. But I didn't because I thought, is them doing this once a month unreasonable? This is their first house, I remember throwing parties when I first moved out...

But at the same time, I am sat here awake getting miffed thinking about my alarm going off at 7am and getting the kids to sports clubs tomorrow first thing.
What do other people accept re noise on a infrequent basis at the weekend?
Also they are now singing beautiful liar, Beyonce and it is painful.

OP posts:
Squiggles23 · 06/01/2024 05:24

You are far too nice OP! That’s not acceptable at all, once a year maybe (with warning). They live in a terraced house so should be being respectful of neighbours. Also if they have a baby it’s pretty concerning.

I would go and speak to them in the day, talk about your children and how it’s keeping them up (even if it’s not). I would also put in a noise complaint with the council each time.

Hope you got a bit of sleep x

HelpMeGetThrough · 06/01/2024 05:17

I wouldn't retaliate and get in a battle with them.

I'd go around again and tell the "friends", their actions have now got the neighbours reported for noise nuisance and you have a recording as evidence (and I would record it).

I'd probably follow it up with a letter to the neighbours to say that any further nuisance and you will keep reporting them.

daisybe · 06/01/2024 04:03

I'd just call the noise nuisance team at your local council. They send someone out to check it out and will talk to them. A person of relative authority might make them think twice.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 06/01/2024 03:59

Just been round because I am exhausted... I was polite, a friend of the couple answered, said the couple are asleep (how I have no idea since I'm next door and can't) she apologied for the noise and turned it off. I have just got back into bed and its back on the same volume.
My alarm will be going off at 7am and the petty person in me thinks it would be a good idea to play my own booming music. I won't though.
But I am disappointed its back on. I hope this doesn't mean they aren't as reasonable as I thought they would be.

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Offleyhoo · 06/01/2024 02:59

I agree with pp, midnight non ideal for you but not overall unreasonable but regular 4am loud parties def not ok. Hope it stops soon and have a quiet/nice word with them as other than this they sound nice and good neighbours are worth their weight in gold.

Ponoka7 · 06/01/2024 02:58

I agree or 1-2am at the latest. Come summer you've got people mowing lawns early, so even if you didn't have clubs, you'd be woken up.

BruceAndNosh · 06/01/2024 02:46

Once a month, til 4 is excessive
Once a month til midnight I'd tolerate.