Can't believe I'm on here asking this but a friend suggested it.
My long term partner had what I would call an emotional affair earlier this year with a work colleague. Thousands of messages between them which were all secretive from me (until I found them whilst looking at something else on his phone and she messaged)
We have done lots of working through this including him blocking her, us working on why this happened and our relationship in general, and an understanding that he would distance from her at work. I have been moving on and we have been in a very good place.
I decided to go to his Christmas work do and she was there. Although they didn't interact and weren't sat together, whilst I was there some of his colleagues were bantering with him about something funny which had happened which included him and her - she had the decency to look awkward when she was pulled into the conversation but it was quite clear from the way their colleagues were talking that her and my partner are still close at work and there are lots of jokes and banter between them in the workplace. I felt really uncomfortable.
Afterwards, DH apologised that she was brought up and said that he is just friendly with her at work as he is with his other colleagues, as no one in the office knows about any of it and it would be awkward if he suddenly stopped being friends with her. I was and am still really upset about this and expected him to put more boundaries in with her and distance himself.
AIBU?