To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

@Dibbydoos
Is that all you got mainly 🤔 from @KarenNotAKaren mumsnet thread then?

How offensive the word Big girls blouse is then,

Classic virtue signalling at its finest that you are so easily offended triggered by that comment.!

I noticed you and the others on this mumsnet thread, who are so easily offended about this Big girls comment,

Are not getting worked up in a lather and easily offended and triggered by the the fact that her husband does not do a bit of research use his brain cells that he got and find out which are the most suitable beneficial clothes washing detergents out there ,

Why aren't you offended about that he is sexist husband expecting his wife 🤔 to allways do his clothes washing,

why can't he get off his lazy back side arse for a refreshing change and actually make an effort to do his own clothes washing if he is that particular about things like that cause of his allergies then?

It's quite weird how you miss that point isn't it the easily selectively triggered when its suits you offended by allmost anything bridgade,

I think @KarenNotAKaren husband is a sexist lazy Big girls blouse ,
i agree with you,

Hope that comment gets you worked up in a lather the classic virtue signalling nonsense society
Makes me laugh that 🤣 you are not banging on about that point i made how sexist her husband is too.

My husband is also annoying about washing so now it’s his ‘thing’ and he does all the family washing.

I'd refuse to wash his clothes. I'd do mine when he's not there and ignore all moaning

Did you tell him about the wet washing

I can’t have Formil in the house.

However, OP, I suspect that your DH’s extreme experiences have now caused him to be hyper sensitive to all sorts of things rather than immune. This happens with trauma. Look at all the trigger warnings on MN.

It sounds as if he is nervous and sensitive to anything changing in his environment.

He might be sure he is OK, holding it all together in other ways, but has become sensitive in this way.

Might this be what is going on?

Me too, but I live with an extremely overzealous and generous applicator.

When I was living independently I still used fabric softener and radiator dried and had no ill effects.

I think it is just the perfumes as walking past lush and other highly scented shops also sends me into a wheeze.

Sounds like a bloody ruse so he doesn’t have to do any washing to me. Lucky with his “allergies” he has a maid to do all this for him. How would he cope living alone?

I know it must be wearing if he moans a lot but whether this is an allergy or a phobia it is real to him. You sound very unsympathetic (sneeering!).

I have a laundry room upstairs where I dry clothes on airers and if I don’t keep the door shut my teen son sometimes has an allergy reaction which includes itchy eyes, runny nose, feeling like he is breathing in dust/damp. If it happens (which is rare as I keep the door shut) he just takes an antihistamine. It is more likely to happen if he is over tired.

Knowing something was line dried or objecting to it seems a bit much and more like a phobia. You would think that washing was better being dried in the fresh air and out of the house.

I love the expression Victorian maiden, I will channel this energy myself for 2024 misses point entirely.

I wouldn't say big girl's blouse. I agree he is a twat though!

What does he say when you tell him the washing that he's so terribly allergic to has been sat there for ages without a single reaction from him??

PS, I did have to chuckle at the ad that came up on my screen as I read this thread

Argh he sounds unbearable! I would’ve lost my patience by now and insisted he gets tested before I make any more changes to how I do the washing.

I assumed your use of “big girls blouse” was a pun - if it was, bravo, I enjoyed it! If it wasn’t, I still wasn’t offended by it, no need for PPs to get their knickers in a twist 😉

I'm not being funny about his allergy, as I'm allergic to heat and exercise
But I've spent the past 37 years back and forward between dermatology, immunology, doctors, consultants and it's a very visible allergy which I can be seen taking medication for!

I had a friend who was dramatic about being allergic to my dog.
I would have sympathised if it wasn't for the fact that I too am allergic to some dogs and picked my dog on the basis she is very unlikely to cause allergies
Friends dd now owns a dog, the type which would cause me severe allergic reactions.
Friend has photos of him with said dog on his lap all the time.
I will never believe he's allergic to any dogs.

😂

OP, have you checked the washing machine for mould?

I had a problem with mould round the door seal, and my washing machine engineer told me that some liquid detergents cause that.

I think tumble drying would probably kill at least some of the mould, so that wet washing hanging up would give off more mould spores than tumble dried washing.

Have you tried unscented detergents like this range?
https://www.ecoverdirect.com/departments/zero.aspx?deptid=ZERO&gad_source=1

I realise you did an experiment with leaving wet washing in the room with him when he was watching TV, but could he have been distracted by a particularly exciting programme at that time?? One trial is not really enough.

If there is no problem with mould or perfume, it could be psychological and then it would be worth looking at treatment.

Oh, FFS!

🙄

If he was allergic to the fabric conditioner or detergent, surely it's still there after tumble drying? I think he's being a bit of a knob.

I’ve got a Neff washer dryer - vented not condensing - and I have to say I’m very happy with it. It’s a very good dryer as well as washer.

I had to leave behind separate Miele washing machine and dryer which I would be hard but I don’t really notice any difference other than slightly smaller range of programmes.

@Gingerbee

Maybe you know with the costs of living crisis and spent 🤔 out with Christmas time,

@KarenNotAKaren

Just hasn't got a bean no wonga money 😕 to rush out and get her husband the latest expensive upgrade washing machine to pander to his whims or his maybe allergies,

even he has got a allergy to do with clothes washing detergents he shouldn't expect her to do this,

It's quite simple the remedy he finds suitable detergents that are beneficial for him they are out there,
he needs to do a bit of research and do his own clothes washing would make himself more useful in their house,
instead @KarenNotAKaren cause she is female expecting her allways to be the go to person to allways do the household clothes washing, 😤

How sexist is that then,

From the great big girls blouse one.!

He is quite happy no problem in actively practicing convient and beneficial everyday rolesc sexism such as that, when it suits him by constantly being whiny ,
but can't get off his sexist robust arse of his to address his allergy issues,

How beneficial to be like that and pretend you haven't got the ability to get off his back side and make an effort...

Firstly stop using derogatory descriptors that do nothing but put females down.
Secondly, YABU. If it affected your health you wouldn't do it would you? And btw it's not the wetness, it's tge fabric conditioner or ruminants of washing powder that's affecting him. You might want to try different brands.
Get a drier that works or put up a decent shed, add a dehumidifier and dry in there.

Omg, l have just put my washing from the washing machine into the dryer and my eyes are stinging and watering a bit from reading this, it’s never happened before, l think l have caught his symptoms 🤣

But surely if it was the detergent it would be the same if tumble dried?
He's moaning about wet washing and line dry washing so.. it's not wet!

Or husband.

I think you have to be seen to be helping him with his problem.
Get a better tumble dryer.
Include him in the 'search' for a better laundry solution. Get him to smell the washing powder , liquid etc.
We use non bio fairy and no conditioner or softener.
Wet clothing lying around can be bad for people with allergies and cause damp issues. I notice that damp clothes take on other scents from cooking etc
Get a decent dehumidifier for when you have to dry things indoors.
Line drying smells nice but again takes on the pollutants snd pollen from outside.

Get him to see a Doctor about allergies and seek advice from one of the ex military support groups.

I hate the smell of wet towels in the bathroom.

His allergy is real to him!

Put him in charge of the washing and drying. You should offer to do all the cooking or dish washing or something in return. This trial won’t last long. He is kidding himself

DH is a big girl's blouse

Wow - managing to be both misogynistic and misandrous in the same statement. That's quite a feat!