To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

Laughed way too hard at all that! 🤣🤣🤣 I note that @FayCarew has buggered off now she's been called out as a snowflake?! With the big girls blouse excuse of people derailing the thread?! Oh dear, well never mind! Bring back the old sayings all day long for me!!! I've been referred to as a big girls blouse as a kid, I didn't faint with the outrage of it all, I thought it was funny... And suck this up snowflakes, still do!!! 🤣🤣🤣

@AutumnFroglets was just illustratrating with her latest irrevant comment how 🤔 ridiculous the easily selectively offended by allmost anything and everything is,

The irony was lost on someone like you @FayCarew
how hypocritical is that,
that you said that @AutumnFroglets must have underlying issues L.o.l 🙄😂

this is exactly what i think about easily hyper nonsensical sensitivity offended by everything bridage such as yourself,

It bores the pants off 🥱 yawn me

It reminsant of Mary Whitehouse of the 70s or 80s with her bible bashing like minded ones about society ills ect,

It's like they they are the lot of them hyper sensitivity easily offended by allmost anything are channelling Mary Whitehouse beyond her life and now the grave,

I suspose it makes their boring mundane lives a bit more interesting than it really is
adds a bit of contrived spice to stop their lives being endlessly groundhog mind blowing 🤯 mundane boring 😴

Sorry but he sounds like a massive wet wipe 😂

With you saying he’s ex army is it less about the actual washing and more that the smell of damp is like a trigger for him.

My granny says "Big girl's blouse." Love it . 😀

You're derailing the thread. I'm out.

No, the big refers to the man, not the blouse or the girl it belongs to. Its Like saying you big wimp or big baby.

PTSD manifesting in sensitivity to detergent?!

What a wimp. Let him do his own washing.

I looked up "big girl's blouse" out of interest ( too much time on my hands obviously 😬🤣) and there doesn't seem to be an "original meaning". It was a phrase that seems to have first been used (but not explicitly given a definition) in a TV program in the 60s and repeated in the Guardian (in the 80s) where it was defintely used "as a slur" to insult the skills of male footballers. So I'm not sure where people are assuming its "original meaning" from. I think some people use it as a misogynistic term, and some people obviously use it simply to mean flimsy or weak. When I was at school (70s/80s) it was a term used to imply boys were effeminate or weak (back in those lovely days of casual sexism).

As for your actual question OP - I think I'd be suspicious if your dh isn't reacting when he doesn't actually see the washing. But it could be a psychological thing that he doesn't really have much control over. Maybe tell him he didn't react when he didn't see it and see what he says to that?

He's ex army. Could he possibly have ptsd that's that's manifesting in this way?

I get itchy eyes and can't stop sneezing if I put the wet clothes on the radiator. There are some washing detergents that really get to me but all of them do to some extent. I always do an extra rinse. I just have to live with it as if I don't do the washing no one else will!

What are the connotations??

I'm sorry, I haven't been keeping track, have you actually added any meaningful advice on this thread, or do you just scroll through threads waiting to be offended, then feel the, frankly unnecessary, need to comment? It seems to me you'd be offended by anything. The fact that the saying BGB has been explained several times throughout this thread and you among others, choose to keep feeling offended, I can see where the true problem lies! I bid you a good weekend

Sound like a control issue -

@AutumnFroglets , If you find that post offensive then you might have underlying issues.

Oh good grief.... 🙄

I find your posts offensive. What are you going to do about that?

That the original meaning was not intended to be offensive does not mean that it isn't offensive.

Calling someone a big baby is offensive too.

No it doesn't. Try educating yourself first. Nothing to do with larger people at all 🙄

@watcherintherye said it's meaning but c/p here for ease.
It’s a fact that blouses - traditionally an item of clothing worn by females - are usually made from softer, less robust fabric than shirts - traditionally an item of clothing worn by males. The ‘big’ isn’t an insult to plus sizes! If you called someone a ‘big baby’, the ‘big’ would be referring to the person you’re talking to, not insulting overweight babies!

@ToMeToYouAndBack , small boy's vest.

I find bgb offensive because it seems like it's the blouse is poked fun at only because the girl is big, and that large breasts or body are to be ridiculed.

Stop being a big wet pair of men's pants

Better?

I’d do all of his washing happily if he did all of the ironing. However, military or not I would expect him to have done a load of washing at some point in his life.

I suspect @TeaGinandFags has hit the nail on the head. Mummy did it.

Has he never done laundry? Did he go from living with his parents to living with you? How was it managed before you were in his life?

He’s been in the military. Probably done more ironing than most of us. Ironing-avoiders like me, anyway.

sounds like he doesnt want to be roped in to do the washing

I see what you mean about the mould. But if OP doesn’t wash at 60°, when the washing started drying out, some mould spores might come off it? Then if her DH reacts to mould he might get bad associations with wet washing and start reacting to it psychologically even before it started drying out?

No, tumble drying doesn’t remove perfume, but it does evaporate off water containing it fast so that it’s not in the air around the washing for hours. (I hate strong scents and I’d certainly much prefer tumble drying if anyone used scented detergent near me.)

Not saying either of those is definitely the problem, just wondering.