To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

I am extremely sensitive to detergents and chemicals, one of my kids is too. If I go near my mums washing (washed in bold) or anything similar I will sneeze, develop a rash etc. I can only use the tesco non bio liquid without itching. I have yet to try the natural sheet kind because they are so expensive. I would wash a load In just water and then put it near him to see whether it's the washing detergent at all. Any sort of dampness or dust sets me off too so maybe he just associates the smell of wet washing with a wet type smell and it sets something off. He should see a doctor though, that's a lot of compromise to make always using a dryer.

That is awful. Maybe there is some connection.

He needs some help. I would be interested in the connection with the laundry thing.

And would still want to see some ‘action’ and motivation from him to discuss the psychological impact. Approached with kindness of course.

Yes it's definitely big girlsblouse rather than biggirl's blouse. I've not heard it for years, but called Dcat it twice yesterday when she frightened by the hoover and later by a leaf. Very useful phrase.

I love this thread. The thing is, no one does laundry for fun.

My husband is a bit funny about there being wet washing hanging around. He also hates the tumble dryer (noisy! Expensive!). But, realistically, he also needs clean clothes.

Maybe he is allergic.

I have family memebers who are allergic to cats. They are ok at mine for a while and then start to sneeze or scratch.

just try non bio and maybe fairy or comfort pure.

OP please do this, and update us 🤔😆

OP you sound a delight. Your poor husband

He sounds pathetic 🙄 it's all attention seeking, do the experiments of wet washing under the bed, do it everyday for a week, if there is no allergy reaction (which I guess there won't be) I'd have great pleasure in telling him.about the experiment and tell him to get a grip and stop been so pathetic. Its a narssacistic way of controlling you

It is the people who can't think critically we need to worry about, imagine having to go through life not thinking too much about anything so it doesn't overload the brain.

The phrase is an old-fashioned sexist phrase. Knowing that doesn't make it harder to get out of bed.

Ha Ha, madness. (How do people get out of the bed in the mornings?)

How does he manage to dry the dishes or himself after showering?
Id be tempted to hang out dry washing to see if his allergies kick in. Just as another experiment ☺️

OP I think we could be best friends 🤣 this post has given me a much needed chuckle this morning!

You sound like you love your annoying husband dearly, don’t we all! 😂 I hope you get to the bottom of this, in the meantime enjoy all the air drying nakedness 🙃

I like this, 😆

It seems quite a strange problem

i despise the smell of almost all washing detergents - heavy fragrance that makes my eyes hurt and makes me feel sick. However - that fragrance is easily smelt whilst the washer is going and it is definitely not removed by tumble drying. So I can’t really see how his problem could be fragrance if it’s just specifically wet washing he doesn’t like.

My DH is the same but I believe him, it's true ..wet clothes do hold loads of moisture and if your airt drying indoors it will cause the air to be damp. Buy a dehumidifier and you'll see. Our homes are airtight now to prevent heat loss so it's important that open windows etc. line drying can also set hay fever sufferers off as blowing pollen can catch on clothes. Luckily my DH isn't affected by line drying and if I have to dry clothes indoors, I double spin and I put them on an airer with dehumidifier. I don't think your dh is been a wet blouse at all. My DH won't let me light candles, incense and complains about perfume which is annoying but it's true, they're all hormone disruptors too

Former Army guy stop ✋️ being such a freaking big girls blouse,

Man up for God's sake,

and stop being a wimp a wet soggy lettuce..

@AlocasiaPolly

Obviously allergies should be taking seriously and suffers shown understanding,

but the way that @KarenNotAKaren husband comes across in her mumsnet thread op,
he comes across as just Whiny , he doesn't make any effort to do a bit of research explore which are the better more suitable clothes washing detergents out there,
and he can't be arsed to get off his backside make an effort to wash his own clothes or go vist the loca one l or the one that is in town etc,

as he is quite lazy and expects his wife to allways do the clothes washing, cause its traditionally a female task household duties such as this,

Why is he such a ,lazy sexist husband and expects his wife cause she posses a vagina and breasts to allways- be -the- one- the -go to- person in the household to do the freaken clothes washing and proberly all the household cleaning tasks too ,all the time,
he expects to be waited on as if that's what womenfolk are put on planet earth 🌏 for ect

If he is so particular about his allergies 🤧 why does he sit on arse and just Whine, and give instructions out to her in regards of how clothes washing should be like particular about this,
he is no longer in the army way of life,
i can't stand the whiny 🙄 it gets right under my skin too.

He is lucky he is not married to me as i would tell him to do his own clothes washing in future or vist any laundrette in town every time he needed to do this, come rain 🌧 shine even it was force gales winds,
he would have that kind of hazzle to contend with if he was married to someone like me,

tell him he should appreciate that he is not married to someone like myself L.o.l 🤣

@mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork

Ah L.o.l 😂 you have beaten me to it , by your comment on hear...

Put him on keto diet to reset his histamine levels it worked for me

😂 you must be very sensitive as that’s hilarious. She’s not meaning it in malice. Lighten up a little.

Experiment the opposite way…

Tumble dry a load of washing and then hang the completely dry stuff on a clothes horse. See if he ‘reacts’ to it when he sees it. If he does, you’ll know if he’s allergic to the thought of it, and if he doesn’t, you’ll know that tumble drying genuinely solves the problem. Which would be really irritating, but at least you’ll know!

I have a similar reaction to most types of detergent and softeners. Allergies can and do get worse over time, also humidity from drying indoors is also a problem for me. It can be horrendous at times. I'm incredibly grateful that my DH doesn't think I'm 'a big girls blouse ' when I'm ill. Would you say the same if he also carried epipens because of it?

I hate to be the one to tell you, but soldiers are put on a charge if they don't keep their uniforms spick and span. Hence the sexy ironing.

Either he's wimping out of laundry or he has issues of some sort. Both need dealing with. Inform him that you're his wife, not his maid, and you're issuing a direct order to sort it out. The GP can only get him help if HE asks for it. Failing that, he's cleaning the family kegs for the foreseeable.

I hope this comes right for you.