To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

I'm very confused. Why did you do this?

I haven’t commented on the phrase. But I don’t like it I have to admit. I don’t think it means larger woman. It just sounds generally denigrating towards women to me. Like a girl’s top is wishy washy and pathetic. It’s hard to disconnect the clothing item from the women wearing it and feels like a slight on women.

I would never say anything in public or think it worth challenging. It just has a sexist ‘feel’ to me (not very articulate of me I know!) I only mention my views here because you asked!

It is a bit like ‘you run like a girl’ to me in terms of an insult.

Sure but I guess I’m a little surprised. Mumsnet has such a strong feminist board and I hated growing up being told I was being ‘a girl’ or a ‘big girl’ or the full phrase ‘big girl’s blouse’. Just find it really weird it’s seen as ok on here. Just same old sexist shit that normally gets called out on mumsnet.

My big girl blouses are getting a bit shirty over this phrase. Can we please concentrate on OPs original problem instead of trying to control her speech?

@KarenNotAKaren have you tried the two suggestions yet?
Put tumble dried items on clothes airer so pretending to be wet?
Leaving wet washing behind him/under bed?

It would be good to see if it’s an allergy, trauma based, or simple wankery on his part.

I have no problem with the phrase big girl’s blouse. I think people are derailing what the thread is actually about.

It's been explained loads of times.

But again for you in very simple terms.

The phrase traditionally means 'you (male person) are being girly when you do x/y/z'.

That is old-fashioned and sexist. Obviously.

All my blouses have been crying in the wardrobe since you have started this thread

But then they are big girl, big girlsblouses.

I use an EGG, the yellow unscented one. Does the job

I think what you've said so far sounds unkind. I base that on my personal experience of something similarly illogical upsetting me for no obvious reason that I could identify. It started off small but got bigger because the person I lived with was dismissive of it because it wasn't important to them and they didn't agree that it should matter. They even went as far as you did to try and trick me and prove it was all in my head. I knew that it was illogical already but it's not like everyone can always control everything that's 'just' in their head. So it got worse because I then had this thing but I also couldn't trust the person I was living with not to ambush me with it. If I'd have been living alone I could have just made small adjustments to the way I lived and no one would have been any the wiser. We all live 'just' in our heads and we all make adjustments to our lives to accommodate our needs. When you live with someone you need to have a frank discussion with each other about which ones are non-negotiable for each of you and then respect that. I don't know what the rest of your relationship is like but in this one instance your complaint definitely seems unreasonable to me given the level of distress you report it's causing him. I do also agree that it sounds like he could be more proactive about finding solutions that accommodate you both though.

Exactly!! I used to call my staffie dog a big girls blouse!!! Due to him been an utter wuss and not portraying the tough staffie facade!!

I feel for this lady, but also get the feeling she has a fantastic sense of humour. I'd love yo be a 'fly on the wall' when she experiments with hiding the wet washing near him!!!

OP please answer one thing....if his clothes on his body get wet during rain what happens then, or his bath towel gets wet when he dries himself? Surely he can smell the washing powder/liquid/softener on them especially if its first time wearing and it rains!!!

Could not get worked up about the phrase big girls blouse… wow 😂

It's been explained about fifty times on the thread.

If you can't understand the explanations that's on you.

Chemical sensitivity is often brought on by extreme chronic stress and trauma. There is definitely a connection

Chemical sensitivity is particularly common with people who have served in the armed forces and similar roles. Your test didn't sound very scientific and you seem to be struggling with not feeling compassion, as well as using language that denigrates women and shames men for having any vulnerability. If you are shouldering too heavy a burden of domestic work it's entirely reasonable to ask for help with a different task to compensate you but please educate yourself around this issue.

If you can afford the machines, just get the machines. It's really not worth all the drama... nor the sneering, bitching and name calling.

Given that the poor guy saw his best friend shot and killed in front of him and could have died himself says he's not a massive baby. He's a man with trauma. You are a judgemental moo though...