To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

Sounds like he just doesn't want to do washing, to me...

He's talking out of his arse. You should put dry washing in, then when he's going to notice, take the same DRY washing out and if he makes a big song and dance about it just tell him what is he going on about, the washing's dry?

I'm ex army as is my DH and approx 30,000 of my family (i may be slightly exaggerating there)

none of them, nor any of my ex-army mates, have hissy fits about wet washing, cold feet, rubbed heels or anything. and if any of us complained about it they would a) have the piss ripped out of them and then b) told to find the solution (so from doing the washing yourself so you know where it is and that it gets dried to pissing in your boots and then putting them on wet to prevent blisters)

But i do think there is an issue here about the way OP talks about her DH. Nasty.

(I'm not keen on the phrase in the title of this, because despite protestations to the contrary, the way people perceive it is that it's against big girls, rather than the blouses)

I’m allergic to laundry detergent too, I have to take an antihistamine before I go to the launderette! This type of thing helps me: https://www.justmylook.com/faith-in-nature-laundry-liquid-5000ml-p17408/s20278?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=faith-in-nature-laundry-liquid-5000ml-fin0060&utm_campaign=product%2Blisting%2Bads&cid=GBP&glCurrency=GBP&glCountry=GB&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAy9msBhD0ARIsANbk0A8ANfNd_5n9cWhxXt_XS5h7CSOoeXfUWyyhFsBYBkcUHys1pfXG6OIaApGxEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

If he is ex army, this is a real thing. Honestly, my DH is a 35-year veteran who will eat shite, walk miles through mud or muck and rain, sleep standing up or on a bed of nails but God forbid his shoes are tight and rubbing his heel or his clothes get damp or wet, or are dried in sight The toddler never has a hissy fit as bad.

Washing is a big thing, scabbies and bugs can run through a camp like wild fire and has so, at camp it is harsh medical/disinfectant type washing detergent and dry in a dryer to kill bugs He still puts Dettol or some disinfectant into all our washes.
It is the least of his PTSD so I go with it, I would never pass a uniform or room inspection. He lived with for 30 odd years.

I won't use certain washing powder/liquid because of the impact on my skin, so could be that. So try a different brand, perhaps non-bio, and also it would not be bad if a mask was worn then.

i hate the smell of persil
tesco's own is better for me
do you use persil?

real allergy or not - i can't really get past "i sneered at him"

lovely

Tell him he's in charge of washing - and he can do it whichever way makes him least uncomfortable.

I like the phrase big girls blouse. I use it a lot

@chipsewfast @Irishwelshetal
For crying out loud!
This phrase is perfectly acceptable if you understand what it means rather than the stupid interpretation of the ignorant

Fgs, would it be 'denigrating' to women if OP asked him to wear his big girl pants and just get on with it?

Being a big girls blouse isn't denigrating to women, instead, being a large floppy blousey garment is a reflection on the person being referred to.

Two things - yes, he needs allergy testing and I second a previous poster that there very well might be a trauma basis for this.

Given the backstory, its entirely possible that he's unconsciously having buttons pushed by something.

Aside from being annoying and admittedly bad for the environment, is it actually causing any real hardship? Can you easily afford the electric and so on?

@EdinGirl Nothing wrong with the title if you actually understand the phrase rather than following the incorrect woke interpretation

Op.....the heated clothes airers are not very good....took absolutely ages to dry the washing. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ Only dries stuff if I drape one item across all the bars 🤔

If that's the only thing he's so particular about personally I'd not make a big issue of it, just get a tumble drier.

@KarenNotAKaren Please ignore the ignorant who are trying to call you out on the phrase 'big girl's blouse'
They know not what they say

Has he never done laundry? Did he go from living with his parents to living with you? How was it managed before you were in his life?

Me too, I knew someone would, it always makes me 😆
But yes, he is a big girls blouse.

He's being ridiculous and I would zero patience for this crap.

@Testina I was wondered who would try and throw that trope in as soon as I saw the headline.
For those of use old and sensible enough to understand the phrase, here is the explanation:
It means you are a big baby, not that you are the blouse of a big (fat) girl.
The big relates to the person being told, NOT the size of the girl (or her blouse)
The phrase means, 'you are a girl's blouse'. The big refers to you, not the 'girl'.
Perhaps understand English and idioms/phrases and their origins before screaming about insulting big girls

‘big girls blouse’ - FFS. A totally uncool insult - degrading to women

Just tell him to do the washing from now on. Allergies or not, I couldn’t cope with all this whinging. I would have to say to him that the washing needs to be done, and you’re clearly not doing it right, so he can do it.

How does he cope with a wet towel after his shower?

Really interesting about Hygrovestiphobia that somebody else mentioned earlier in the thread. Maybe this is a not so hidden response to his experiences in the army.

It could hard for an ex-army person to admit what they might perceive as a pyschological weakness.

And none of the above really helps with your electricity bill.

You ABU to use the phrase 'big girl's blouse'. FGS, it's 2024