To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

@KarenNotAKaren

Your husband sounds a royally massive pain in the arse frankly 😤

Tell your husband he can spend a small fortune on going to the local or nearest laundrette every week with the time restraints and bad weather hazzles at times too,

See how 🤔 much he enjoys that kind of experince 🙄 going out in the pissing cold rain weather and maybe strong winds too..🌧

Let him do his own washing and drying then he cant complain. Send him for allergy testing witch wont be nice

😂😂😂 Love this 😂😂

I agree - it's a way of getting out of doing it himself and a way of making you do it the way he wants.

You can be allergic to water but it's generally a skin reaction

I actually did an experiment in our last house. We had a kitchen living room open plan thing and when he was watching TV I very quietly unloaded the washing machine (he couldn’t see, TV was on loud too so couldn’t hear either) and left it all by the machine, and left the room. Came back 20 minutes later and he didn’t complain one bit or even clock on that he was in the same room as a pile of wet washing

This is the key point I think🙄.

Let him do his own washing and not rope you in for help and advice whilst he's doing it either.

There are so many questions to your DH 'sensitivity'

Tumble drying doesn't get rid of detergent
Does other people being near him make his eyes itchy because they line dry?
Is he allergic to air? Lol
Is he allergic to water?

I could go on!

I would wash his clothes with Vinegar, it's a natural disinfectant, and although you don't get the nice detergent/softner smell, it doesn't smell like vinegar either.

I think this is more the case that he doesn't want to do any of his own washing than their being an actual problem. I would make him do his own

or he could actually be allergic to the washing liquid being used. This needs to be checked

Yes, I wondered this too.

Me too. Is he very sensitive about the house not being "showroom" tidy? It could be a stealth way of ensuring that there is never any washing left hanging up to dry anywhere in the house or garden (if you have one).

@AnonoMisss Death-knell not nail!

@Whyohwhywyoming Oh do get a grip.
The wilfulness of trying to turn a perfectly ordinary, local idiom into a sexist statement is beyond pathetic
@KarenNotAKaren is entirely correct in her usage of this phrase, so are those of us who use it in it's correct context, and will HAPPILY ignore the faux-outrage of the ignorant.

It’s sexist, that’s an objective fact, not a matter of opinion.

You can’t substantiate this as the original recorded uses of it make no distinction between the different elements of the phrase. But what is known is that people with sufficient command of the English language can quite easily find another way to express contempt of their husbands without using an inherently misogynistic phrase. One which is most famous recently for having been used by Boris Johnson. No thanks.

You've proved it's not the washing with your experiment in the old house. The smell of detergent makes me sneeze like crazy but only when it's condensed in the container. I hold my breath when I'm putting it in the machine and in the detergent aisle. But once the washing is done, most of the smell has gone. I can only use Bold as my son comes out in a rash with all the others. It can't be the detergent with your OH as line dried washing retains less of the detergent smell than in the dryer and you've tried a variety of detergents. There's absolutely no reasonable explanation for your man's reaction until you mentioned the army. Is it possible that some awful experience has triggered a sort of PTSD to the smell of wet fabric? Maybe he needs to speak to his doctor.

I was going to comment saying “yeah he’s a drama llama” and then I read your comment about him being ex-army. Maybe it’s PTSD - it rears its head in very strange ways! It’s not normal behaviour and skirting around it won’t help regardless of the cause - he needs to address it

Also I just re-read your post. Try using whatever washing powder he grew up with and his Mum uses. Hopefully that will be OK

Please move try moving to powder, for two reasons:
1 you can put less detergent in per wash (you can't do this with a tab as it's a set amount) and
2 you are avoiding certain chemicals that he might be allergic too.

We moved from powder to liquid tabs for a few months , but had to move back to powder as we found someone in the house was allergic to a component in the liquid. It's similar to what you describe.

If it's a true allergy then the component he's allergic to may be in other liquids too.

But you can test this very easily by using a mild washing powder (not liquid) for a while.

You are being unreasonable. I do the laundry in our house and I’m really allergic to something they put in detergent. It’s awful, sets off my asthma, makes me itch and sneeze. It’s taken me years to find a detergent and softener I can stand. But even those- I can’t dry laundry in the house, or leave wet laundry laying around. I do line dry outside though, and tumble dry. I am also allergic to scented candles, reed diffusers and plug in air fresheners.

Are you using powder? Or washing liquids?

Do you use any kind of liquid conditioner?

Some people have allergies to the liquids but are ok with the powder.

I had register a new account just to come here to say this comment is class🤣 Victorian maiden made me chuckle