Drinking wine each evening

My late mum had a glass of whisky every evening. She gave up at the age of 83 and shortly afterwards she died.

To all those people talking of a slippery slope, plenty of people (most) never drink more than regular amount, their whole life. We are worying too much about the OP drinking even more. She will probably never drink more but the point is she's drinking too much now. He drinking isn't only a problem if it increases, its too much already.

When you hit peri menopause you might have to stop, so tbh, I'd go with what you plan and carry on drinking for five days. Once you are out the other side, you can drink again. Just many women find the menopause symptoms are made worse by alcohol. I'd start adding lots of beans and pulses to your diet for artery health.

Maybe find something else for the other evenings that makes you happy that isn't food/drink related?
I love a boiling hot bath, or a new book or I go swimming outdoors for that sort of feel good thing

My drinking is.. random I basically don't drink unless I go out and then I drink a lot so binging
Haven't had any alcohol for about 18 months, never drink at home. But I grew up in pubs and that was enough to put me off

No cut down now or it will be a bottle a night soon.

Sounds like you have a responsible attitude towards your wine, nothing wrong in my opinion.

Yes if someone is a very heavy or dependant drinker, to white knuckle dry Jan and get back on it to the same level as before is going to be dangerous. Its not going to be harmful for someone drinking 2.5 bottles of wine a week to do it

OP if you can’t even consider doing dry January, without thinking that it will be bad for you then you have an alcohol problem that you don’t want to admit to.

I agree. Sometimes people want to ask a bunch of strangers. There’d be a paucity of MN posts if we only polled folks in rl.

I think it's really unfair when ppl refer to 'if you're asking strangers on the internet....'. I mean we are all strangers and every single post is asking a stranger!

If you’re asking internet strangers the question, deep down you know you have a problem and are on a slippery slope.

I agree. I’m teetotal myself 😊

Telling yourself convenient lies like this do point to emotional dependency on some level really.

Personally I feel like it’s too much but o only drink for special occasions.

what is more important though is their reason you drink.
if you drink because you’ve had a stressful day or because it helps you to sleep or help you forget something then this is a negative thing and is a problem.
If you are drinking because you like the taste or something like that then I’d say it’s ok.
id say be honest with yourself about your reasoning. Your husband is right in regards to mental health however alcohol is proven to make it worse.

I'd love to know if that's a myth or closer to truth! I always answer completely honestly - I have a degree of health anxiety and need to know I've out everything 'out there' - but have sometimes wondered if I should halve it, if the doctor's going to double it!

Thank you!

Thank you @soupofpasta , I just have to get on with it and you've reminded me to take my meds! I'm too busy watching Dragons Den, thinking up Del Boy schemes 🤣
Can I say please, please, please be very careful now as you are right, the burning sensations are the first sign. I didn't know. It quickly moved on to stabbing pains and numbness.
I don't want to think of anybody's life going downhill in 6 months like mine has (although it's improved in lots of ways too strangely). The burning is definitely a warning that your nerves have been damaged somewhat. Don't let it go any further.
I can't tell you whether to drink or not, but it may only take a binge to damage the nerves further.

There you go, you can have my Friday night lecture!

All the best.

I would be really annoyed if a doctor done that.
I don't want something passed as a result of drinking because you are assuming I drink double what I tell you,

Working as an ICU doctor I cannot tell you how many people I have cared for with fulminant liver failure who are in denial about their alcohol dependence as they ‘only drink wine, never spirits’.
Alcohol is a drug, one of the most addictive drugs in the world and if it had been discovered today it would likely be illegal. No amount is ‘safe’ and dependence is a dark, slippery slope.
Coupled with myths such as ‘red wine is good for your heart’ (studies have disproven this - the link was due to red wine being commonly drunk amongst the middle class and they tend to have lower rates of heart disease), people don’t view it as a drug.

Ultimately, it’s your decision. I’d suggest trying a month without, if you can do that great, if not then perhaps you may benefit from some support. Daily drinking, even if a glass or two, damages the body with cells needing to constantly regenerate - increasing risks of cancer and liver disease. Liver failure will give you no symptoms/pain until it’s too late.

Yeah. The look in my face when OH got half litre of beer and i got a thimble of wine!!!

@kitsuneghost oh it's quite small, definitely not like the huge glasses we tend to have over here! But not tiny. They also have a little aperitif before lunch, a little glass of something. When I was a child my Grandad would come home for lunch, drink his wine and go back to work. Not massive quantities but a little each day.

Nobody has claimed to be perfect on this thread. Or have I missed it?

This thread is about alcohol as a vice. Other vices and threads are available. Each vice is an independent risk factor. The others don’t reduce or increase the effect of alcohol.

OP, you are getting very defensive. I am wondering if you perhaps drink more than you are letting on? When I was training, the tongue in cheek advice was, when a patient tells you how much they drink, double it..

Who on earth asks MN if they are drinking too much, you know the answers.

Jump onto Tattle you will get a more normal response

Nonsense; unless you're a raging alcoholic getting withdrawals you can go cold turkey no problem. It's bad for you to drink every day full stop.

Look, if you're concerned, and trying to find excuses to feel less concerned, then that's not exactly a great sign. You can drink every other day, but every single day is too much simply because doing it increases the risk for having to increase the amount you drink.

Was he an old boy in a dickie bow and tweed jacket?