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Drinking wine each evening

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Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:30

Is it ok to drink wine every eve?? I have a glass , sometimes 2 every evening and I love it, it makes me happy. Dh says mental health more important so if it makes me happy I should just do it. I am a healthy 40 something with a professional career. I just love wine.

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Growlybear83 · 04/01/2024 22:09

Of course it's not a problem to have one or two glasses of wine a night if you enjoy it!

MrsQTip · 04/01/2024 22:07

@ManateeFair yep 🤣🤣🤣

Vettrianofan · 04/01/2024 22:07

Drinking wine every night would feel like a chore to me. I prefer herbal teas, camomile just before bed or a sleep teabag.

NorthernSpirit · 04/01/2024 22:07

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:36

I make sure I don't exceed 2.5 bottles a week

2.5 bottles of wine a week = 22.5 - 25 units of alcohol.

It’s recommended women consume upto 14 units a week. So yes - you are drinking too much.

All2Well · 04/01/2024 22:07

It sounds like dependency to me and not healthy at all.

MrsQTip · 04/01/2024 22:07

What answers were you expecting OP ? This is Mumsnet where even a sniff of some spilled sweet sherry on the Vicars cassock would send you into a spiral of addiction

ManateeFair · 04/01/2024 22:06

Mumsnet is absolutely the worst place to ask opinions on alcohol because the general consensus on here bears no relation to reality. In Mumsnet world, if you have more than one glass of wine a week you’re an alcoholic.

In the real world, loads of people drink a glass of wine every night and are perfectly fine. In plenty of European countries, including ones that have far lower rates of alcoholism than the UK, it is entirely normal to have a glass or two every evening.

HardcoreLadyType · 04/01/2024 22:06

2.5 bottles of wine each week is about 25 units per week. Women are advised to drink no more than 14 units per week - that’s about 1.5 bottles.

Advice is also not to drink every day.

This advice is easy to find online.

I’m not sure what you want from this thread. Just because a lot of people drink more than the medical guidance doesn’t mean it’s a good thing to do.

NewYearNewPyjamas · 04/01/2024 22:06

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:49

Dont smoke, am not overweight, eat ok , this is my pleasure in life. I dont eat much chocolate and i just love wine,
I will however start with 1 day off a week for now.

Ah fuck it. Keep at it.

Grimmz · 04/01/2024 22:05

Honestly a glass of wine a day is fine.

NewYearNewPyjamas · 04/01/2024 22:04

I don't think it's the worst thing you could do but it's not great. I agree if it makes you very happy, that's a good thing in this life. I used to drink a glass or two of an evening. I noticed that sometimes I'd be half cut, sometimes I'd end up having more and I got fat. It didn't feel good to me.

I'm still fat but feel very much better for not drinking in the week. However, I now drink a bottle or two on a Saturday so am no healthier.

WhereverIlaymycatthatsmyhome · 04/01/2024 22:02

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:51

Couldnt care less about the 14 units, where has that come from anyway?
But I will try and skip a night then 2, as its a habit im sure,

It comes from NHS advice.

bakewellbride · 04/01/2024 22:01

Your dh's 'mental health' argument is a bit of a bizarre one to me tbh. Kind of implies you 'need' to drink otherwise your mental health / happiness won't be as good.

I haven't touched any alcohol in 7 years and would say that's partly for my mental health so the opposite is true imo!

ConsuelaHammock · 04/01/2024 21:59

I think everyday is too much. All the wine o’clock , gin o’clock is dangerous and makes it almost acceptable to be drinking every day.

BillieJ · 04/01/2024 21:59

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 04/01/2024 21:50

@BillieJ
But I'm doing Dry January because I think it's one of the reasons I can't shift the weight I've put on since lockdown
Yes I've noticed that if I ditch wine for a couple of weeks, I easily lose weight without even trying.

Well, that's encouraging!

I often go a few nights without wine if I'm going down with a cold, or if I'm going to be driving, and it doesn't bother me. I just like wine. I don't eat chocolate, eat a good diet and don't smoke.

After January, I think I'm going to make wine a Thurs/Fri/Sat thing. If I still can't shift the weight, it'll have to be 5:2 again.

Icantbedoingwithit · 04/01/2024 21:56

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:54

Interesting how the voting is v close almost 50/50.....

Yep a lot of people justify it because they are not drinking huge amounts.

Thepeopleversuswork · 04/01/2024 21:56

Plenty of people do it. It’s “normal”. That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s OK.

Personally I wouldn’t want to drink daily. I would be uncomfortable with the idea that it’s a crutch. Even if in practice it’s moderate and not escalating it would still feel like a dependency.

I also think your body needs time off to regroup and recover and it’s important not to associate alcohol too closely with relaxation or reward.

So while it doesn’t sound like you have a rapidly escalating drink issue, I would be looking to introduce at least two sober days each week.

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Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:54

Interesting how the voting is v close almost 50/50.....

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LuciferRising · 04/01/2024 21:53

The thing about certain habits is they control you.

Londonscallingme · 04/01/2024 21:52

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:47

I already said, no more than 2,5 bottles a week, so I buy 3 and always at least half left in one by the end of the week,.

My sleep is great and dont have any problems , atm

No one can tell you how ‘bad’ it is from a health perspective. A Dr would tell you you are over the recommended weekly units but you already know that. Alcohol is not good for us so we’d all basically be better off not drinking but many people (myself included) choose to anyway because we enjoy it.

Not sure what anyone can say here to help your predicament but I’d suggest either making your peace with it or cutting back. No point both having the wine and making yourself miserable worrying about it.

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Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:51

Couldnt care less about the 14 units, where has that come from anyway?
But I will try and skip a night then 2, as its a habit im sure,

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Icantbedoingwithit · 04/01/2024 21:50

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:44

i dont think its a slippery slope as i have been like this for years and have not increased it, i am asking to get a general honest view out there!

Years and years drinking every night? It is not about volume. It is about habit. It’s about having wine in your house constantly like bread and milk.
You have a drink habit.

Kendodd · 04/01/2024 21:50

I'm really trying to drink a small glass of red wine with my dinner every night. I'm actually wanting to drink more alcohol for the good of my health :) Its hard though and I'm failing by a mile so far. And I actually do like red wine.

Jellybean23 · 04/01/2024 21:50

Two and a half bottles of, say, 13% wine is about 25 units of alcohol per week - quite a bit more than the 14 units recommended. It sounds like it has become part of your routine. I was like that with chocolate after my evening meal. The weight crept on so I'm trying to break the habit.

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 04/01/2024 21:50

@BillieJ
But I'm doing Dry January because I think it's one of the reasons I can't shift the weight I've put on since lockdown
Yes I've noticed that if I ditch wine for a couple of weeks, I easily lose weight without even trying.