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Drinking wine each evening

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Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:30

Is it ok to drink wine every eve?? I have a glass , sometimes 2 every evening and I love it, it makes me happy. Dh says mental health more important so if it makes me happy I should just do it. I am a healthy 40 something with a professional career. I just love wine.

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wasanneofcleves · 11/01/2024 14:03

JanglingJack · 11/01/2024 14:00

Helen on Saturday kitchen recommend a alcohol free wine, this Saturday just gone. Even said it's hard to find nice tasting ones. It's with Jason Donovan. I think it might have been first course. I didn't pay much attention, I tend to fingers in ears and blah blah blah through the wines and the cocktails as I still get that - Oooh! Feeling 😭

The wines are generally pretty rubbish in comparison to real wine tbh. There are some just about passable (much better than a few years ago) but generally don't have the depth of flavour that wine does. The other drinks I've recommended seem to do a much better job of impersonating the alcoholic versions.

JanglingJack · 11/01/2024 14:00

Helen on Saturday kitchen recommend a alcohol free wine, this Saturday just gone. Even said it's hard to find nice tasting ones. It's with Jason Donovan. I think it might have been first course. I didn't pay much attention, I tend to fingers in ears and blah blah blah through the wines and the cocktails as I still get that - Oooh! Feeling 😭

wasanneofcleves · 11/01/2024 13:51

Serv · 10/01/2024 22:21

Well done OP! Grin

I spotted this the other day and thought about this thread. Has anyone tried it? I can't see any reviews anywhere.

https://drydrinker.com/products/the-gentle-red-6-0-alc

I haven't tried that one but I'm pregnant and have been sampling some of the alcohol free Proseccos and beers. I don't normally drink either of them but the non- alcohol versions are good.

The Kylie pink prosecco and the Nosecco are both good. I also had an alcohol free wine from Waitrose which was quite good. They've got a much better selection in there. The Gordon's 0% gin is also very convincing with tonic and lemon. And we tried the FREEDAM beer from Aldi the other day and were seriously impressed. Tastes just like the real thing.

I'm normally a every night wine person but being pregnant again has made me question it. I actually found it hard to give up wine when I got pregnant which made me wonder whether my glass of wine every night was quite as harmless as I imagined.

NeedToChangeName · 09/01/2024 12:25

@Mamabear2424 well done for cutting down

It may assist you to know that cravings last approx 6 mins. So, if you're tempted to drink when you know you shouldn't, try to distract yourself for 6 mins and it should pass

NeedToChangeName · 09/01/2024 12:22

CrabbiesGingerBeer · 08/01/2024 07:26

I didn’t think the amount was that excessive (too much, yes, but easy enough to cut down) until the OP went into a blind panic at the idea of not drinking.

She posted (in order):

  1. My husband thinks it’s OK
  2. Where does 14 units come from anyway?
  3. Life’s boring and lacking sparkle without wine
  4. The French drink loads
  5. 14 units isn’t even accurate
  6. Other people have bad health habits (listed out).
  7. There are lots of bad things in life not just wine
  8. 14 units is an arbitrary made up number - she might as well smoke weed or shoot up heroin
  9. In Spain, she’d be under the limit
  10. Denmark has a different limit
  11. She’d never do dry January as it’s very bad for you health-wise to stop for a month then start again.

The sheer number of justifications and whataboutisms culminating in a claim that stopping drinking is bad for your health (which only applies if someone is physically dependant on alcohol) suggests to me that while some people may be able to drink this much without an issue, the OP already has a problematic relationship with alcohol.

Edited to say: In which case, not drinking two days a week means nothing as she is still alcohol reliant, just increasing the time between drinks.

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@CrabbiesGingerBeer Agree with you, and it's not just the OP making these claims

Deep down, we all know that alcohol is bad for us. Many people like to pretend otherwise

Madamum18 · 09/01/2024 11:59

Mamabear2424 · 09/01/2024 07:16

I think i got defensive as thought 1-2 glasses a night was not a problem, i am so embarrassed to think i have a problem!! I had a nice cup of yorkshire tea last night and a slab of christmas cake (probably more calories than the wine!!!!)

More calories but less strain on your liver. Well done for biting the bullet.

pollymere · 09/01/2024 08:39

One thing I would say about my 0% gin and diet lemonade habit is that it's calorie free. You might find you lose weight by drinking less wine...although eating Christmas Cake might counteract that! 😂

Flamesatmytoes · 09/01/2024 07:25

Mamabear2424 · 09/01/2024 07:16

I think i got defensive as thought 1-2 glasses a night was not a problem, i am so embarrassed to think i have a problem!! I had a nice cup of yorkshire tea last night and a slab of christmas cake (probably more calories than the wine!!!!)

I have found zero beer a good tipple. Fools my brain and I now only drink high days and holidays.

MrsRachelDanvers · 09/01/2024 07:20

Well done! When you have your next class of wine, it might feel like a treat rather than a habit!

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Mamabear2424 · 09/01/2024 07:16

I think i got defensive as thought 1-2 glasses a night was not a problem, i am so embarrassed to think i have a problem!! I had a nice cup of yorkshire tea last night and a slab of christmas cake (probably more calories than the wine!!!!)

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Waitingfordoggo · 08/01/2024 20:38

Good for you @Mamabear2424, sounds like a positive decision.

Finlesswonder · 08/01/2024 20:11

25yearstilretirement · 08/01/2024 09:57

I'm Muslim and therefore a non-drinker so no, but that was an extremely defensive answer so I would take a quick look at yourself on this one sweetheart

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Why would you bother posting on a thread about low level alcoholism when you don't drink?
Or have you struggled with a drink problem in the past?

Serv · 08/01/2024 19:29

I love cooled liquorice tea in the evenings, if I'm not drinking wine. It has a (sort of) complex/woody/dry/nuanced mouthfeel that suits me far better than many other drinks.

Delatron · 08/01/2024 18:23

Well done OP. I’m enjoying Kombucha (in a nice glass) and the Trip drinks. I also find once I get past the witching hour (6-7.30) then I don’t fancy wine anymore. It takes time. I used to have 2 days off. Then got to 3 and now I only drink Fri/Sat and much less.

I think if you build up the days slowly then you don’t feel like you’re depriving yourself as you end up wanting the days off as you feel better (if that makes sense).I was in a complete cycle of drinking Weds-Sun then not really recovering before I started again.

JanglingJack · 08/01/2024 18:18

Mamabear2424 · 08/01/2024 17:05

I will say thank you to all for this thread as it has made me think a lot, i wanted to break a habit and i have already started, got a thing for nice fizzy orange and ice so having that tonight when i watch tv! Starting with 2 dry days a week my aim is to get to 4.
THANK YOU

That's fantastic to read!

You'll crack it no problem.

Don't be me! X

HardcoreLadyType · 08/01/2024 18:03

Well done, Mamabear!

I had a wake up call many years ago - something my son said to me - and cut down my drinking (which was probably about the same level as yours). I used to really want to have that glass in the evening, but now it feels like more of a treat, because it’s only on the weekend, and it’s more considered, rather than being a habit, so I enjoy the drinks I do have much more.

Jeffsmeffsmiff · 08/01/2024 17:29

Well done @Mamabear2424 that's great.

GrazingSheep · 08/01/2024 17:13

Good on you!! You sound very switched on👍

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Mamabear2424 · 08/01/2024 17:05

I will say thank you to all for this thread as it has made me think a lot, i wanted to break a habit and i have already started, got a thing for nice fizzy orange and ice so having that tonight when i watch tv! Starting with 2 dry days a week my aim is to get to 4.
THANK YOU

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JanglingJack · 08/01/2024 17:03

Mamabear2424 · 08/01/2024 16:56

Update - had no wine yesterday was not bothered at all none tonight either, dont have any in the house and will treat myself to glass later in the week :)

That's great news.

If I'm looking for a treat these days, it's a Domino's 🤣 Stomach says no at mo 🙄.

Cooked a gorgeous Butter Chicken today too. I swear teen DD has fallen asleep upstairs.... I went up... My feet don't lend themselves to Ninja these days 🤣 (Clunk Thud!) No answer through her open door. Bless her she didn't look well coming home and I'm wondering if my random gastritis is that...

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Mamabear2424 · 08/01/2024 16:56

Update - had no wine yesterday was not bothered at all none tonight either, dont have any in the house and will treat myself to glass later in the week :)

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JanglingJack · 08/01/2024 15:02

Just popped back to say it's not only the major effects like neuropathy, liver failure etc.

It's the little things that often never leave you - heartburn, gastritis or indeed an ulcer.

My gastritis has flared up today out of nowhere. Desperately trying find some Omeprazole or Lansozeprole (? Can't spell that one!) as it's misery!

CrabbiesGingerBeer · 08/01/2024 10:18

Waitingfordoggo · 08/01/2024 10:11

Loving the pass agg ‘sweetheart’. Why has this upset you so much @25yearstilretirement?

I’m not even sure what I’m supposed to be defensive of? I’m not the one arguing against government guidelines set by qualified medical personnel.

Also, I’ve not changed my opinion that the OP’s attitude to alcohol is problematic and @25yearstilretirement getting even more passive aggressive in her response certainly hasn’t changed my view of her weirdly confrontational attitude.