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Drinking wine each evening

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Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:30

Is it ok to drink wine every eve?? I have a glass , sometimes 2 every evening and I love it, it makes me happy. Dh says mental health more important so if it makes me happy I should just do it. I am a healthy 40 something with a professional career. I just love wine.

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GirlOfTudor · 04/01/2024 22:36

Also, I'm not sure why you being a 'professional' has any relevance? If you worked in a minimum wage job would you view your drinking habit differently?

Useitorloseit23 · 04/01/2024 22:33

MrsQTip · 04/01/2024 22:07

What answers were you expecting OP ? This is Mumsnet where even a sniff of some spilled sweet sherry on the Vicars cassock would send you into a spiral of addiction

Funny response since you are responding here on MN too! 😅

Lesina · 04/01/2024 22:31

Does it impact your life? Does it stop you functioning, is it causing you any issues? If not crack on. We all have to die of something. The current angst around alcohol is very odd.

GirlOfTudor · 04/01/2024 22:31

It sounds like a habit or a routine, which is worrying. Alcohol shouldn't be something you need to drink every day.
I disagree with your husband - drinking alcohol every single day will negatively impact your mental health, not positively.
I personally couldn't justify the cost of drinking that much wine each week. Far more valuable things to spend money on.

Almondmum · 04/01/2024 22:31

ManateeFair · 04/01/2024 22:06

Mumsnet is absolutely the worst place to ask opinions on alcohol because the general consensus on here bears no relation to reality. In Mumsnet world, if you have more than one glass of wine a week you’re an alcoholic.

In the real world, loads of people drink a glass of wine every night and are perfectly fine. In plenty of European countries, including ones that have far lower rates of alcoholism than the UK, it is entirely normal to have a glass or two every evening.

It's weird how this gets trotted out on every thread about alcohol despite there always being plenty of replies saying they drink every night or that they drink but maybe not as much as the op.

Personally, in the same way I try and eat my veggies, drink my water and get my exercise in I also moderate my drinking. So I personally would try and do exactly as you propose and have a couple of days off it. Apart from anything else you'll find other possibly healthier things to make you happy

AboutYouTalk · 04/01/2024 22:26

If you couldn’t care less about NHS advice then why are you asking if 2 glasses a day is too much on here? Drink away to your heart’s content.

Icantbedoingwithit · 04/01/2024 22:25

The fact you posted shows you’re bothered.

CatamaranViper · 04/01/2024 22:25

As long as it doesn't go over this really. As long as you can go a few nights without it as well.

I started off with the odd glass. Then it was half a bottle, then a bottle, now I can easily slurp down a full bottle and a half and wake up without a hangover. It's one of the reasons I'm doing dry January to prove to myself that I can

Theasparrot · 04/01/2024 22:25

As you know this is Mumsnet and all answers will range from "You disgusting Alcoholic. To it's absolutely fine.
if you are not comfortable then stop. You are the only one who knows how much it's affecting you.

Allfur · 04/01/2024 22:23

Isn't a glass of red wine a day meant to be good for you, as in old people in the blue zones do it?

Goneroundthetwist · 04/01/2024 22:22

25 units a week is quite a lot……

Motherofpearlxoxo · 04/01/2024 22:21

You are not being unreasonable but it is definitely a slippery slope. I used to be half a bottle, then a bottle, then a bottle and few gins!! Go steady and cut back now is my advice because it just gets harder and harder and your sleep will benefit immensely from cutting back to just a few nights! xxx

2under4 · 04/01/2024 22:20

I wouldn't worry about this one jot tbh. Seems the only enjoyment anyone allows themselves any more is "going for a run" 🙄 Enjoy yourself OP!

userxx · 04/01/2024 22:20

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:44

i dont think its a slippery slope as i have been like this for years and have not increased it, i am asking to get a general honest view out there!

For you it may not be a slippery slope but for many many others it absolutely is.

Jennywren2000 · 04/01/2024 22:19

I think it totally depends. My mum has had one glass every night for as long as I can remember, never more. She’s slim, healthy & in her 70s. Still goes running! For her, it’s not a slippery slope.
She really enjoys it & is pretty healthy in every other way, so I’m not sure if it matters if this is your only vice.

Winnading · 04/01/2024 22:18

I've done similar. I drank two glasses of wine every night.
I didnt increase, I didnt go mad, I got fat.
I quit drinking every night, only drink weekends and lost some weight.

Then the menopause happened and I got fat again. Wish I'd kept the drinking.

CandyLeBonBon · 04/01/2024 22:16

HardcoreLadyType · 04/01/2024 22:06

2.5 bottles of wine each week is about 25 units per week. Women are advised to drink no more than 14 units per week - that’s about 1.5 bottles.

Advice is also not to drink every day.

This advice is easy to find online.

I’m not sure what you want from this thread. Just because a lot of people drink more than the medical guidance doesn’t mean it’s a good thing to do.

If op identifies as a man she can have 21 units at week!! 😂

bakewellbride · 04/01/2024 22:15

@ManateeFair I'm sorry but how can that be true? I've found mumsnet to be the total opposite when it comes to alcohol complete with lots of pro drinking in pregnancy arguments. I'm teetotal and feel like a total outsider on mumsnet where regular drinking is seen as 'the done thing'. Really interesting you have found the opposite to be true.

Vinrouge4 · 04/01/2024 22:14

I was the same until I reluctantly cut down to only drinking at the weekend after having high cholesterol. Can’t believe how much better I slept, fewer hot flushes, less arthritis and lost weight because wine makes me hungry. I’m less bothered even at the weekend now.

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 04/01/2024 22:12

Could you do alcohol free wine

Alcohol free wine's rank though 😁

Crikeyalmighty · 04/01/2024 22:11

I have half a bottle usually 3 nights a week and at least 4 nights clear

Bernieee · 04/01/2024 22:10

Mamabear2424 · 04/01/2024 21:44

i dont think its a slippery slope as i have been like this for years and have not increased it, i am asking to get a general honest view out there!

To have had a glass every night for years can’t be good surely? I’d say cut back

JanefromLondon1 · 04/01/2024 22:09

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fixies · 04/01/2024 22:09

Surely it's better to drink one or two glasses a day than drink a whole bottle in a night - as I'm sure lots of people do!

I don't think there is a thing wrong with it.

Tilllly · 04/01/2024 22:09

Could you do alcohol free wine, or a nice soft drink a night or two a week?