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Women with inattentive ADHD who are living their best lives - how do you do it??

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herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/01/2024 21:21

I suspect I have ADHD as it explains a lot about me (so does EUPD but I'm struggling to find much useful about that - but hey anyone with EUPD living their best life, I'd be very interested to hear from you too!)

I am a procrastinating, forgetful, binge-eating, rejection-sensitive, occasionally irrationally angry mess. I feel like my life needs a total 100% overhaul but I'm right in the middle of a lot of things (my kids' childhoods basically). So a lot of things I'd like to change I can't (living situation, job).

I am struggling particularly with the following:

(1) binge eating. I am seeking support for this with the NHS but the waiting list is loooong.

(2) emotional volatility. Very up sometimes but also and more often very down.

(3) my job. I love my colleagues, theoretically I love my work. But I constantly procrastinate, back to work two days this week and I did almost fuck all really. My work isn't clear or important enough for people to really notice so I can. But I'm actually quite moral and I am constantly guilty and anxious for wasting their money by wasting their time.

If you have ADHD and kids and are living a happy life, please tell me what that looks like. What kind of job do you have, how do you keep things going, how do you maintain your equilibrium?

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PickledPegs · 03/01/2024 21:36

I really, really recommend seeking professional diagnosis. It was life changing for me - in terms of giving me access to therapy and medication. You deserve the support and accommodations that come with diagnosis.

SteadyEddi · 03/01/2024 21:34

Declutter and stream line everything in your house. Ensure everything has a home. Try to handle things only once, . Build routines for cleaning

Meals - intermittent fasting, planning ahead and not having shit in the house. Water, going to bed early.

Challengemonica · 03/01/2024 21:34

Are you prescribed medication? It's by no means a cure but might address lots of your issues. It's been life changing for me. Should help with binge eating, mood, anxiety, procrastination. On top of that, everything is just so much easier, all that life admin that clutters up our heads, still annoying but no longer wading through mud. The clarity is amazing.

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herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/01/2024 21:29

Oh, and I forgot(!!! 😂)

(4) I forget everything! Important things like booking my kids party, taking them to their dentists spots, picking up my own prescriptions.

(5) impulsive spending. Am currently digging myself out of my overdraft after spending impulsively all last year. Mostly gifts for other people which is silly. I buy things for my kids and give gifts like I'm rich when I'm not, no idea why it's not to look billy big balls - I just get carried away wanting people to be happy/like me i guess.

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Iworryabouteverything · 03/01/2024 21:23

Following.