Do not want to look after someone's DC

It's a bit sad that you've got time to read through 300 messages. I'm too busy entertaining my children.

At 11.30 at night @Elvisfairy?

I agree, they ABVU, this is an extremely high level of support you are being expected to provide!

Unless I’ve missed something, a 6 year old is not hard to look after alongside a 1 year old?

At the age of your DC I would be expecting more of a ‘paying for babysitting’ type arrangement, why would they want to hang out with a 6 year old?

I would only expect to be providing this type of care in an emergency situation.

Hello Husband or Nephew 🤣

Uh oh, hubby’s here!

If your DH wants to help that's fine, but make sure he knows that neither you nor the older kids feel the same obligation so the work involved will be on his shoulders alone.

she said it further up, I quoted her in my last post.

I'm of a mind that you should help family in need, but I personally think that there is something wrong in the nephew's family if they have to ship out their 6 year old for the weekend every weekend because they can't cope, it's not fair on the child being sent away, and it's not fair on OPs family to have to give up every weekend to look after them, this isn't a once in a while arrangement, the nephew and wife can't just opt out of parenting every weekend because it suits them, they need to find a way to make their situation work with occasional support.

I also think if this woman was a friend of OPs she would arrange this with her, as it stands OPs husband is the one being asked and he won't say no to it because he has severe white knight syndrome, meanwhile, OP is the one left feeling taken for granted and resentful because she's the one doing the actual childcare, I'm not surprised she's now had enough of it, she's not even being asked if it's okay, she's just being volunteered!

I feel really sorry for the child, it must be awful to be palmed off every weekend by it's parents in this way.

No, I just don't take abuse from people trolling. Perhaps you should stop writing abusive posts to others then, as you've done on a number of occasions now, not just to me, calling them things like "delusional" and "sad".

Is that what you teach YOUR children? (If you have them, which I'm not convinced you do). You're best ignored, I think. Bye now.

Wow, is that the language you teach your children? What delightful adults they're all set to be. Lol

I didn't. But I did see that one.

It's a bit sad that you're on here being an abusive troll to people you don't know. Do you honestly not have anything better to do with your time, really? Is doing this part of "entertaining your children?"

Get a life, ffs.

No you only have to read the OPs messages.
You can also read that the OPs children don’t want to spend all their time looking after a 6 year old.

My DH wants to help, as the mother keeps complaining how hard she is finding to look after her 2 DCs. Child's father usually works at weekends. That woman was like that when she only had one child. I don't really know why she had another, if one Dc was 'hard'.

And, of course, my DH leaves all the care of a child to me.

She alluded to it from the beginning, but she did say it here in one of her posts, that DH leaves the childcare to her, not quite sure to what extent.

Read the OPs posts.

And, of course, my DH leaves all the care of a child to me

Are you the husband or the nephew?

The OP said earlier in the thread "No, he doesn't help." Perhaps it is you who is unable to read.

Where does it say that he dumps the kid on OP?

Where in the post does it say that he dumps the child on her? Are you imagining things dear?

Have I missed something? Where does the OP state in her post that the husband dumps the childe on her? I think some people on here need reading lessons. Just because she's acting like a martr, doesn't mean he goes out and leaves her with the child. Duh!!

YANBU and I wouldn’t want it either. I would make a point of dumping DH with the kids and disappearing every time he agrees to have them at your place. What a ridiculous situation, he is creating a huge problem for all of you. I would create a huge problem and make it so uncomfortable for them that they wouldnt dare ask. Good luck OP.

Have you spoken to your DH?

YANBU at all. You've raised your own DC's to the point that they're finding their own independence, therefore, you have more free time. To be volunteered to look after HN's child is absolutely and totally unreasonable. And all because NW doesn't get a decent nights sleep?!?!! Bugger that! I bet you didn't either when you're DC's were small, but you managed!!!
I would put my foot down about all this, for definite, but if your NVDH insists the child stays, I'd actually stay put, at home. Make sure your DC's are out somewhere, doing their own thing. Each time the child demands something, shout for your husband to deal with it! Or, send the child to go find NVDH and ask him for whatever he needs. Doesn't have to be done in a nasty way at all, in fact, the nicer the better... He can't argue with that at all, because if he does, he's showing himself up to be the one who expects YOU to do the child minding! I'm sure the point will get across sooner rather than later! (I have to add, I now have visions of you on a chaise longe OP, reading magazines, listening to your favourite tunes and popping Ferocious Roches in your mouth... 😁😁😁)

Sorry @howan Bit of a rant from me there, and I forgot to say - just say NO. Don't be a mug like I was! Tell HIM - your DH - to look after them!

OMG It's times like this that I am glad I'm an old gimmer, and that my DC left home some years ago - nearly in their 30s now. I do NOT miss the days when the mums in the area I used to live, used to dump their kids on me left, right and centre to play with mine! Because their kids used to really enjoy being at our house (and in our big garden with swings and slide and little swimming pool etc, and lots of video games and board games,) and it was 'so quiet and peaceful.' And my DC had lots of toys they love to play with.

'I will come and pick them up at 5:00 o'clock' they'd say. Then they wouldn't come at 5, so we'd ring them, couldn't get hold of them, ended up taking them back to their house at 6 and they weren't in. So we had to come back to ours and keep them there. We often ended up keeping them until 9:00 o'clock at night - and discovered later their mum had been at the pub ... My DC rarely went to any of their homes though as the mums were always 'busy.' And it was always 'awww they like it at yours.' Must have spent a fortune feeding other peoples kids!

I even got my husband a few times volunteering me to look after his cousin's kids - or the neighbours kids?! Funny isn't it? How all the child care that's needed or wanted - is always lumbered on the women. Nobody ever volunteers a man to look after people's kids! As I say, I'm glad I'm too old for this shit now. The only kids I'll ever, ever, ever be looking after now, will be my grandchildren. If and when I have them.