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Roast dinner at 1 - which of us is being rude?

338 replies

Rachellllleeee · 31/12/2023 13:21

Lighthearted.

I always do a roast dinner on Sundays for 1.00. Always have - we've been married for 30 years and kids have now left home.

DH is frequently late. He does an activity on Sunday morning, he could easily be back in time, but chooses to socialise after.

I spend around 2 hours preparing and cooking the dinner. Sometimes it's slightly later than 1.00 because it's not an exact science even after all of these years.

If DH is late, I start to eat mine. I'm not waiting for him to finish chatting whilst my lovely roast dinner cools on the side, to microwave it when he eventually turns up.

He thinks I'm being rude by starting without him. He thinks I should wait and reheat both dinners if he's late.

AIBU?

OP posts:
PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 31/12/2023 13:26

You could have your roast for tea instead…

IGotItFromAgnes · 31/12/2023 13:26

Why does lunch need to be at 1pm if it no longer fits into both of your schedules? Can’t you make it at 2, or even in the evening and get him to cook it 50% of the time

sweeneytoddsrazor · 31/12/2023 13:26

Why would you not simply move the time to 1:30 or something.

ShirleyPhallus · 31/12/2023 13:26

Sometimes I think other peoples relationships are just so weird. Now is one of those times. Poor husband.

DailyEnergyCrisis · 31/12/2023 13:25

Just cook it for later so he can socialise for a bit. Do you still like each other generally?

MojoDojoCasaHouse · 31/12/2023 13:25

YABU and really old fashioned to expect your DH to not have anything to do on a Sunday every week except eat lunch. Even back in the 80s more mum switched to Sunday dinner in the evening so we could enjoy the day.

DominoRules · 31/12/2023 13:25

Could you just make it a bit later so he has time to socialise and be back in time to eat with you?

TinySaltLick · 31/12/2023 13:25

Have you considered just mutually agreeing a time to eat

Topofthemountain · 31/12/2023 13:24

I think 2024 might be the year to eat at a slightly different time. Go for it.

LegArmpits · 31/12/2023 13:24

Lol

Teenagersscarethelivinshitoutofme · 31/12/2023 13:24

I understand you've done the same thing forever but is now not the time to say that 1pm does not work for 50% of those eating so may be worth renegotiating the time? Seems pointless to go to all that effort just to prove a point by eating alone.

AprMayJune · 31/12/2023 13:24

Yanbu but you both don’t sound very flexible towards the other

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 31/12/2023 13:23

Would the world end if it was slightly later to allow him time to socialise?

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