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Funny fetish - How weird out of 100?

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Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 08:51

Not sure what this post is. I suppose I just want to mention it to someone to understand how massively weird it is!

I have a FWB. It’s been going on for a year or so, and it’s working out great. We’re both divorced with DCs, met through work, and manage to get together every few weeks for what I consider brilliant fun. I have lots of friends, a busy life with work and the kids, but this relationship completely fills my missing needs. I’m lucky.

After a few meetings I asked if he had anything he wanted to try. I’m not massively experienced. He is my 5th partner ever and my first since the end of a 17 year faithful relationship that became my marriage.

He said that he… had a bit of an armpit fetish!

He could’ve said he wanted hardcore S&M, or me to wee on him or whatever. So I know it could be worse. I was surprised but said ‘OK’ and let him do what he wanted to do which was basically lick them! He really got into it, I wasn’t bothered either way. Gave me no great pleasure but was fine I suppose. Nice to see him enjoy himself.

I’ve since asked him more about this. Apparently the attraction is hard to describe but might be because it’s a ‘hidden’ bit of me that’s normally covered (by my arm, I guess, unless I raise it). It’s not to do with hair or smell (thank God - cos I’m not stopping shaving or washing!).

Since that first time he’s spent a couple of frantic minutes licking my armpits every time. He knows I always shower before we meet and he’s asked that I don’t put deodorant on so that he doesn’t taste it. I’m fine with this cos I’m fresh out of the shower and just put it on afterwards.

Last time he was getting so into it that I asked if he wanted to ejaculate into my armpit and he said yes and then did! He seemed very grateful afterwards.

How weird is all this? My friends don’t know of this man’s existence let alone this fetish. Is he the only man in England with it, or has anyone else encountered it?

I’m fine with it so long as it doesn’t go much further. I just think it’s so odd! I feel like I need one back! Maybe he elbows? Ha!

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Loubelle70 · 31/12/2023 11:47

😊.... Its a pretty normal fetish.
Same as feet, silk etc. i can just imagine you turning tv over with remote and opportunity for him arises lol. The guys messaging you sadly is common on here...wank bank stuff...i had it..until i started asking him questions, soon disappeared.
Incels usually

hellsBells246 · 31/12/2023 11:42

It sounds pretty harmless as fetishes go... I'd just ensure that you do other stuff in bed too and that his armpit fetish doesn't take over and become most important.

BrightGreenMoonBuggy · 31/12/2023 11:31

Doesn’t seem that weird, really. He’s explained his reasoning and it makes sense.

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Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 11:28

Grimchmas · 31/12/2023 11:24

What, you find sniffing your armpit more weird than licking it??

When we sweat during sex we produce pheromones. I don't suppose sniffing an armpit from that point of view is that whacky. I quite like the scent of a clean but sweaty man I'm into, though it wouldn't occur to me to fetishise his armpit I can vaguely understand the appeal.

Definitely weirder! If he was just wanting to sniff me I’d wonder what he wanted to sniff, and I’d be totally paranoid.

Maybe licking is just the cover story 😳

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Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 11:27

ChristmasFluff · 31/12/2023 11:25

Must be a pretty common fetish cos it was on Jameela Jamil's Bad Dates podcast the other week.

Really? I’m more of a Rest Is History girl, sorry. Tom Holland can do an episode about Roman armpit fetishes. I bet they were all over it.

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Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 11:25

TurqoiseJasper · 31/12/2023 11:12

Quick question...... What are you doing while he's licking your pits though?
I'm assuming your arms would be out of action, so just nothing?
I'd rather have my armpits licked though than my feet 😂

Please, no requests😂😂😂😂

Ha! Good question. Nothing! Nothing conscious anyway. Maybe my other hand on his back. I don’t know! Nothing if both my arms are over my head. It’s just nice to see him enjoy himself. Maybe if I get bored one time I can get my phone out, ha!

And yes, feet would be much weirder. I’ve never had that particular request but I’m not tapping my watch waiting for it!

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ChristmasFluff · 31/12/2023 11:25

Must be a pretty common fetish cos it was on Jameela Jamil's Bad Dates podcast the other week.

Grimchmas · 31/12/2023 11:24

What, you find sniffing your armpit more weird than licking it??

When we sweat during sex we produce pheromones. I don't suppose sniffing an armpit from that point of view is that whacky. I quite like the scent of a clean but sweaty man I'm into, though it wouldn't occur to me to fetishise his armpit I can vaguely understand the appeal.

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Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 11:23

supersop60 · 31/12/2023 11:15

Only one pp has mentioned this - doesn't it tickle?
I would not be able to stand it, however much I wanted to please my partner.

It doesn’t tickle, but maybe that’s because of his amazing technique. Ha! He really goes for it rather than being gentle, which I imagine would tickle. It’s like being licked by a dog! That sounds awful but it’s the closest comparison I can think of.

Suffice to say I’m pleased he’s not like that during other activities 🫢

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supersop60 · 31/12/2023 11:15

Only one pp has mentioned this - doesn't it tickle?
I would not be able to stand it, however much I wanted to please my partner.

TurqoiseJasper · 31/12/2023 11:12

Quick question...... What are you doing while he's licking your pits though?
I'm assuming your arms would be out of action, so just nothing?
I'd rather have my armpits licked though than my feet 😂

Please, no requests😂😂😂😂

Express0 · 31/12/2023 11:10

Wouldn’t bother me now and again but if everytime we had sex it centred around my armpits it would be a no.

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Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 11:02

Oxborn · 31/12/2023 10:40

Hahaha you been pm”d did they want to get in on the sniffing, each to their own i say don’t knock it till you tried it

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It’s not sniffing, it’s licking! I’d find sniffing very weird (I’d be very self-conscious. Ugh).

One wanted to know if I’d let him do that same. Er, no. Thanks for thinking of me though! 😬

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featheryfancy · 31/12/2023 10:43

My male friend dated a woman who was into this too.
Not for me but as far as fetishes go, probably one of the milder ones I could tolerate occasionally.

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 10:43

moonshinepoursthroughmywindow · 31/12/2023 09:26

I've never told anyone this before but: once when DH was working away and we only saw each other at weekends, he asked if he could smell (not lick) my armpits when we were in bed. They wouldn't have been especially smelly at the time. He sniffed them and then said lovingly, "They smell like my little wife." (If you think that sounds twee, he is very tall, almost a foot taller than me.) I'd be surprised if he ever wanted to lick them, but not horrified. I think it would be worse if I'd recently put deodorant on as I bet that tastes awful!

No words for this one...😮

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 10:42

I couldn't be doing with it OP but I guess if you are happy then it's all ok. I would find it all rather weird and unnecessary myself.

tiredmama23 · 31/12/2023 10:42

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 31/12/2023 09:57

🤮

Yeah. Not for me, either 😂

Oxborn · 31/12/2023 10:40

Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 10:06

Some of these replies are making me chuckle, thanks!

Glad to read that this isn’t the first step towards gimp suits and branding his initials on my bum!

As for the two guys who’ve private messaged me about this. Do one. 🙄

Hahaha you been pm”d did they want to get in on the sniffing, each to their own i say don’t knock it till you tried it

369damnshesfine · 31/12/2023 10:30

I’ve never heard of this but I guess it sort of makes sense.

I’m very ticklish though so I’d end up accidentally punching him every time he tried 😁

Its great you are both comfortable enough with each other to be open about these things.

I don’t have a fetish myself but I assume most people do.

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Laburnum1981 · 31/12/2023 10:06

Some of these replies are making me chuckle, thanks!

Glad to read that this isn’t the first step towards gimp suits and branding his initials on my bum!

As for the two guys who’ve private messaged me about this. Do one. 🙄

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 31/12/2023 09:57

🤮

GoldEarrings · 31/12/2023 09:55

@moonshinepoursthroughmywindow omg little wife sounds creepy 😂 but you obviously don't think so which is good!

Doggymummar · 31/12/2023 09:54

Not weird, wouldn't bother me at all.

DifficultPifficultLemonDifficult · 31/12/2023 09:54

It must be a thing, I accidently stumbled upon a whole site for armpit fetishism some years back. Links to videos and allsorts.

I definitely couldn't enjoy it, I'm far too ticklish, and I would feel daft sitting there with my hand up while he went to town on my armpit 🤣

Alicewinn · 31/12/2023 09:50

This post made me laugh, I don’t think it’s that weird, I think each to their own!! Enjoy yourself OP 🤣