Husband GOT UP

This is why I don’t work from home.

Also depends on what time you start - I often do the same at home but work 0400-0630h before the first ones start to get up.

I don't wfh, but I do bring a lot of work home, which I do in the dining room. However, that's a through route to the kitchen. My usual response to anyone attempting to engage, is:"Pretend I'm not here," accompanied by a hand up in traffic cop position.

I can’t concentrate with other people around either, and really struggle over Christmas.

Inexplicably, my husband can work in cafes, so his response is “just go work in a cafe for a few hours!” But that would not work at ALL. I feel your pain, @BlackWhiteWhatNow !

Making me so glad I'm not married. I feel for you, as I'm on the sofa with a cup of coffee, answering to nobody. But tbh, I'd hate to feel I had to stay in bed if what I really wanted was to get up!

Houses are too small, that's the real problem, sometimes I think about another person here, a partner (there is nobody, just idly musing) and I shut that thought right down because I prefer the bit of space I have. All the wardrobe space, all of the bed, nobody in my way.

I once read on here that a woman used to do the food shop each week and extend the visit by 40 minutes by getting a Maccy Ds and sitting in the carpark in blissful peace eating it. I started doing the same thing, and it's wonderful

Put the heating on and go back to the bedroom? If you work from home you really need an office space.

Can’t serve them at this time? 12 and 14 they should be sorting themselves out.

To be fair to everyone else, it’s a home, I get it. My dh started wfh occasionally and it drove me mad. He’d be usually sat at the kitchen table and expect the family to stay out his way. Eh no. So then we were tiptoeing around making meals or interrupting meetings etc. it’s not fair on anyone. So when I started to work solely from home we made the spare bedroom into an office which is the only decent way of wfh. He now very rarely wfh and we can both share the office space. No one bothers you in the office. It’s a clearly delineated area for work only. When it’s a shared space the boundaries aren’t there.
My advice would be to rent space in agile offices and get out the house if you can’t make a home office.

It’s the one big problem with wfh I did this for a long time years ago before it became a thing.

i would have other mums drop round people who knew I worked but I think people just didn’t take wfh as a real job, is really pissed me off tbh. My mil was the worst, would phone at all times of the day to give me a message for her son who was at work ! When DH and the children were home they would forever interrupt me

I found the only way round it was to have a desk, I didn’t need one, I also got headphones- big ones 😂, when I was at the desk with my headphones on no one disturbed me unless there was blood ! I stopped answering the door and didn’t answer the phone to Mil.

I’ve found this Christmas a pain tbh, we’ve both retired now, and normally during the day we both do our own thing. But it seems this doesn’t work at Christmas, DH is there all the time. I suggested yesterday that he should go do something perhaps mess about with his Christmas presents, read his new book ?, his answer was - it’s Christmas I do that when everything is back to normal 🙄

It is one of the benefits of an electric car. I sit in mine for an hour rather than doing shopping. On my own. Doing what I want. Peace and quiet. No slurping or chewing. It is amazing. Sometimes I go to charge my car when it does not need charging.

If this this is lighthearted then apologies for taking it seriously.

But really...it sounds like your dc are older? You need to lose your shit and lay down your boundaries.

I wfh in the dining room, no separate office. When the door is closed I'm working. The dc wouldn't even tap on the door never mind bang on the door for attention, wtf is that about? They know full well they don't disturb me unless it's an energency.

Honestly op, this seems like a bit of a self inflicted problem. Your family are disturbing you whilst working because you're accepting it and letting them.

I've seen nurses and teachers wearing a "do not disturb" tabard at certain times when they really don't want to be disturbed (ie the nurse is counting out the drugs for the ward and doesn't want to make any mistakes).
Make yourself a tabard or something and have one simple house rule - if you are wearing it then no one is allowed to talk to you. No questions, no casual conversation - nothing.
Only 3 exceptions - fire, flood or bleeding.

Set some boundaries.

Why are people banging on your bedroom door when you’re working?

Why are they asking you for snacks ?

Are they not capable of getting it themselves?

Take your laptop/ phone and go work at starbucks or similar, away from them all

You need to see it as a training exercise. Every request that isn't urgent gets "Sorry, darling, I'm working. You'll need to ask your father/wait until lunchtime/work it out for yourself/have a look for it."

They only ask you because it gets them what they want for less effort than either looking themselves or asking their father, etc.

I totally get this! Sometimes my OH moans at me that I shockingly prioritise work, during my working hours! How selfish of me.

Just tell them to leave you alone while you're working, Then ignore them.

I think you need to stop thinking this is lighthearted/funny/men eye roll op. You should be angry here.

I second headphones, although I blast music through mine. I don't even turn around when someone enters the room. I used to occasionally here h start talking behind me, but I won't turn around until he walks around in front and makes eye contact. I then remove headphones and give one word answers, replace headphones and continue. It took a while, but he finally learned headphones on = office door closed. The kids could be murdering each other behind me and I remain blissfully unaware 😁

Not the loud breathing.

DP sometimes munches toast AT me when in trying to work it makes me want to kill him.