... to ask how much money your adult kids give?

My 20 year old son works the same job as me. We earn exactly the same amount (and its minimum wage).
He gives me £80 a week. Originally it was £50 a week but he upped it himself as I pay all the bills/mortgage out of my wages.

I always charge mine £2-300pcm including theirs phones and to cover council tax, utilities and food.

But that's the thing they might not.
Loads of DH's mates still live at home. They can afford their own place but don't want to.
Why would they.... then they'd have to pay rent, council tax and utilities. Living at home paying nothing they can spend as they like. These men are late 20's to early 30's.
When you have no actual expenses it's possible to save AND spend outrageously. Because most people have to balance 3 things essentials, savings and then fun. These people only have two.

If it's too comfortable why would they want to leave?

If you don't start charging her, even if you decide to save it and give it back to her as a deposit for her own place, then she will be there for a very long time. If she can't manage on 28k with no bills she will never learn to manage her money in order to be able to move out.
I don't understand parents who won't charge their children to live at home as it isn't helping them learn to be self sufficient.

I agree with it for a while so they learn it but if life is expensive why not encourage her to save up for a deposit or do that for her with her money? You’re just disadvantaging your kid. Other parents from different backgrounds don’t do it as much and their kids get the homes on mortgage because their parents encouraged them to save while your kids are renting. Jfc I pay rent (hallved with a friend), pay our gas and electricity, pay our water and still get to go on holidays. Because we don’t have kids!

Also @caringcarer my parents would never have charged me but I'd have offered. I'm also excellent with money. I budget carefully and don't fling it about needlessly. I grew up poor though and things only became better in my mid-teens so I'm very careful to secure my future.
DH however spends money - well, not like water. But doesn't really think long-term. We had the same starting salary but he choose to rent a 2 bed flat, I took a shared room and he was then surprised I had thousands more in the bank. Didn't need a genius to work it out.

Of course OP's daughter is doing well, working and doing a PT degree she should be commended for trying to better herself. But having so much free spending money doesn't set you up well for budgeting. Better for her to have that attitude now compared to getting a shock upon moving out (well, if she chooses to move out!).

If she was saving I'd take a different stance on it.

Amazed at the responses.

I never moved back home after university but siblings did and they didn’t pay anything. It was assumed that they needed to keep their pay so that they could build up savings and move back out sooner!

Very nice. Most households can't afford to treat their adult employed children to an extended childhood - they have to pay their way and contribute

To the OP - I'd be asking for a minimum of £400 a month on that salary. She's taking the piss..

My son is 21 and earns £2000pm, He pays The council tax bill and buys his own breakfasts and lunches, I cook him a dinner every evening.

She isn't taking home 24k+ on a 28k job. Her deductions will be more than 4kpa

When I still lived at home while working full time I paid for my own food shopping & a % towards gas & electric. My parents always said this was because if I left those were the only bills that would actually change, the house costs what it costs rent/mortgage regardless of your DD being there, your wifi/Sky etc. However this was on the condition that we (DH & I) were saving for a mortgage, which we were, so we moved out into our own home at 22 having been able to save massively throughout that time.

It's not just about the expenses. it's about getting used to real life.
£500 is very very cheap. Even for the supposed 'chips as chips' erm deprived areas of the North East you'd be hard pressed to find a room below £400. That doesn't include food.

OP doesn't have to use all of it if she doesn't need it. But her daughter should be learning that life is expensive. She's 24, and can afford to go on holiday to expensive places she can afford to pay the real cost of things.

You shouldn't be trying to make a profit from your own DC. £500 pcm is far too much.

That's far too much. It can't cost over £500 a month for a room that is already there and food.

£500 a month if it includes food, bills + rent.
She's welcome to move out if she doesn't like it.
Yes she is working and studying BUT she has also incurred debt and can go to expensive countries on holiday. 100% guarantee she'll be able to do none of that living on her own.

Ask her to pay for her own phone, car, food and toiletries then a nominal amount towards the utilities each month.

My son was earning about £25k and paying £250 pcm and that included room/Sky TV Movies and Sports plus TMT sports, Amazon Prime and his mobile phone is included plus very fast internet we only got to support his gaming. That includes all food, laundry use, utilities and 1 takeaway each week.
He was saving hard towards his deposit. He had no debt. He's bought his own house now.

20% of take home pay per month.

I'd probably reduce it down to 200pcm if I knew they were funnelling other money into deposit savings

I’d only be expected to contribute in emergencies

I’m the adult child and I don’t pay anything to my family. My father provides

I paid 150 a month, this was on the condition that I saved some alos towards a house deposit which did and moved out when I was 27. I was working full time from 22 on more than your daughter.

I paid 1/4 of my take home pay as did a lot of my friends in the 1980’s. This was the norm back then.

id calculate something based on her take home pay costs of her living with you, see how that comes out based on 1/4. Even if you secretly save it to give back to her for a deposit for something it’s a life lesson worth learning.

It’s always been the same when my DC has lived with me. A quarter of whatever his earnings are and it all always goes towards the increase in household bills and food, usually less than the actual cost.

You're not doing her any favours by charging her nothing. She's in debt and is overspending.

I think £100 per week is reasonable.

My 22-year-old pays £300 per month - also an additional monthly contribution to run the car, pays his own phone, petrol and gym membership - he's on about the same salary as your dc