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To not want two overnight guests in a one bedroom flat?

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cassandracusses · 27/12/2023 10:31

I live in a flat slap bang in the middle of London. Can be at Oxford Circus in 10 minutes on foot.

Live there with dh. Suits us perfectly because we can walk everywhere and we are out working all day!

It’s a tiny flat. Maybe 40 sqm. The only bathroom is through the bedroom. Kitchen and living room are one room. So I guess it’s like a bigger studio really!

We have a blow up mattress for friends who need to stay. Usually after a late concert or a flight etc. One person is fine for one night if they understand the layout.

My parents love visiting London. They come down from Manchester to see shows, museums, exhibitions. When it’s just one of them, it’s ok for them to stay the night. A bit annoying to have to rearrange the living room and then wash and dry sheets.

But now both of them want to stay overnight at the same time. Four people in a 40sqm flat is too cramped. Poor dh says he is fine, but I know he likes his space.

AIBU to say no to having two overnight guests?

OP posts:
BabyYoshke · 27/12/2023 11:08

I mean it’s up to you and I would hate guests in that situation but it’s your parents and it’s only one night. What would their reaction be if you said no?

Jellycats4life · 27/12/2023 11:08

Welllll, if you don’t mind one person staying on a blow up mattress, is two really such a stretch?

Or is it that it’s OK when a friend stays but you don’t really enjoy the company of your parents?

martha4clark · 27/12/2023 11:07

If it's one night, I would say yes.

Tacotortoise · 27/12/2023 11:05

It'd fine to say no but the washing/ drying sheets would take equally as long no matter how large your flat.

AuntieMarys · 27/12/2023 10:54

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OneLollipop · 27/12/2023 10:36

Of course you're not being unreasonable. It's your home and it's tiny. Tell them one at a time is fine but not both together. If they both want to stay they can get a hotel room like everyone else.

BrimfulOfMash · 27/12/2023 10:35

The bathroom through the bedroom makes it very difficult. I always need a wee in the night so couldn’t be the guest in that set up.

Do you ever go away for the weekend? Plan so that they flat sit during your holidays and weekends visiting friends?

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