To casually mention to my neighbour about his coughing

I understand how the poster feels.
We live in a close with a bungalow and it’s garden opposite us, with a couple in their early-mid 50s. It seems like all they do 630am until midnight is sit in their garden and smoke. Like proper chain smoking. How th heck do they afford it?!
I wouldn’t be so bothered about that but with the smoking, but they are coughing constantly with it. They both sound like they are ill with lung conditions which is awful for them, but the smoking clearly impacts.
They are doing something to trigger the coughing that’s the issue and that they do all their smoking and coughing outside their house with their Alsatians barking at them for attention. And it’s been like this since July when they moved in.
I am thinking about complaining to the council of the estate we live in but I know they will say tough shit. My partner and I have to both wear ear plugs. I know it sounds affected, but my life choices aren’t causing them lack of sleep.

I have my child tell come down at night frequently saying he woke up because of Mr and Mrs Coughy. He thinks someone is dying!
We can’t all wear noise cancelling headphones to bed and I think saying that to people who are dealing with this stuff is unrealistic.
My dad has lung issues from chemical work years ago and he has coughing fits, so I get the issues long term illnesses can cause and it’s truly awful for them.
Before this experience I would have thought the OP ott, but having lived through it, it is really distressing.

Bad idea. Waste of time.
Go detached if you don't want close neighbour noise.

OP's probably moved and is now the poster complaining about her neighbour's snoring.

Please do go, knock on his door and tell him to cough quietly.

He will likely burst out laughing... and then burst out coughing, and with a bit of luck, he'll asphyxiate and allow you some peace.

Since it is 10 months later, I hope the neighbour just had a bug.

My father in law has had a chronic cough for about 25 years . It is in part habitual . It is worse when he is talking to you in the middle
of monologues . There are also other tics like teeth sucking when speaking.
So many investigations and tratements for catarrh. Finally he has started amitryptiline as he read it could cure a cough and the cough has gone. Just like that. A miracle for the whole
family.

I don’t think you can do much. The headphones are a good idea.

My gosh, you are a selfish person OP

That's not possible and you know it. When I had covid I cought so much and so hard I hurt my back. If my neighbor would have told me to be quite I would have laughed at them

Pop a bag of Jakeman's cough sweets through his door.
The yellow ones are nice.

This thread is 10 months old, hopefully he's not still coughing!

This is the same category as complaining about a crying baby! First, what do you expect him to do? Second, he'll be well aware of it and likely bothered more than you, so telling him will make him even more miserable.

Perhaps you can increase your soundproofing, add a thick rug, carpet layers on the floor and get some softer furnishings to dampen the sound out a little. And also offer some healthy soup.

The selfish bastard should drive to an empty field to cough, how fucking dare he do it in his own home!

I work with someone like this and it’s really annoying, I hadn’t actually thought about it being a tic but makes perfect sense now

I have a horrible cough right now. Bouts where I just cannot catch a breath and fear that I’m about so simultaneously vomit and wet myself. There is no possibility of me being quieter or coughing less other than by dying (which, along with expelling part of a lung seems quite possible). I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, but I’d happily breathe on the OP if she came round to complain. I’m sure my family is fed up of me but they are nowhere near as fed up as I am. If the OP can tolerate her family coughing then it is not misophonia it’s a simple lack of empathy.

The OP only tolerates her oh-so-perfect son for his bodily functions, no one else.

I think she said she'd tolerate it in a partner too.

Which doesn't suggest misophonia to me. The posters on here with the condition usually seem to feel quite violent towards their nearest and dearest for making noise.

The OP only tolerates her oh-so-perfect son for his bodily functions, no one else.

If the OP is brave enough to ask the poor chap to stop coughing, I hope he gives her a lovely spray of his cough!

It's appalling here. I lived in a block of 4 flats once and I could hear people in the flat below on the other side!!! I could hear them having a wee and stirring their cup of tea - no joke.

OP, my neighbour coughs a fair bit too as he has lung problems but I try to view it in a positive way. For example, if I can hear him, I know he's ok (he's elderly). When I stop hearing him, then I know I need to be worried and check on him.

OP, what HelplessSoul said was rude, it’s true, but you must surely have seen that what you’ve said has upset a lot of people on this thread. Because for some people, coughing is part of a serious health condition and they’re not able to do so quietly.

You’ve shown zero empathy on this thread, instead you’ve just kept on moaning about how annoying it is to hear a stranger cough.

Honestly, expecting a neighbour to cough more quietly in their own home? What kind of society do people think they live in? Irritating as it may be we do not get to police the bodily noises of other people in their own homes. He could have emphysema or any manner of medical conditions. I know exactly what i would be saying if you told me that you expected me to cough more quietly in my own home. If you are really this intolerant of other people perhaps living in a flat is not for you.

Maybe he has Long Covid? I’ve had that for nearly 4 years now. For nearly two years I was constantly needing to cough up phlegm, because otherwise I was struggling to breathe. (During the first few week, my DH called an ambulance twice, it was very scary for a while.)

Thankfully, that part is much better now, it’s mostly just tiredness and brain fog.

I can’t imagine how I would have felt if a neighbour had called round to complain about the noise. (Thankfully for me, we live in a detached house.) I would probably have apologised because that’s what I do, but there wouldn’t have been anything I could have done to keep the noise down.