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Miss being young

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Misssf · 22/12/2023 07:40

I’m not old, I’m 38. But I miss the days of being fearless, having hope in a way I don’t these days because I know how brutal life can be. I’m not a misery (I don’t think!) but life was different then. Light, free, full of expectation of the future. I know there’s good bits about being older but I just miss that feeling of being young. Does it eventually stop?

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Misssf · 22/12/2023 07:53

@1990s i think I have started to feel old these days that’s the problem. My body hurts in ways it never used to!

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blackberrychutney · 22/12/2023 07:52

I know exactly what you mean OP, I always feel this way at Xmas. I'm very lucky with my DH & DCs but sometimes I can't shake the feeling of wanting to be carefree and spontaneous, especially when it comes to nights out! The buzz of people out having drinks straight from work, Or late boozy lunches really gets me down. Also, the feeling of feeling attractive, turning heads at Bars and chatting to cheery strangers on the Train.

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Misssf · 22/12/2023 07:52

@Lemonyfuckit yes exactly! It’s the feeling about the world isn’t it? Everything used to feel so exciting and laced with newness. I feel quite sad about the world mostly now, even though my life is generally happy

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Misssf · 22/12/2023 07:51

@DustyLee123 great 😀😂

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DustyLee123 · 22/12/2023 07:47

No, it just gets worse. And when you see people of your generation dying, that’s when fear kicks in, fear that your kids will be ok without you, and realising that you’ve wasted life when you should have been doing things.

Lemonyfuckit · 22/12/2023 07:46

I really know what you mean OP. I have a nostalgia for the past when I was more carefree and less full of worry, the world seemed like a better place (whether that's true or just my nostalgia but it really does feel like it's gone to hell in a hand basket with everything going on in the world). When my DF was still alive and both parents were younger and in great health. And my life was still just open possibilities, I didn't really have any kind of plan and so what.

1990s · 22/12/2023 07:42

I feel exactly the same.

What I thought when I read your OP was, maybe we should just try to approach things in the same way as when we were young - essentially just “be” young.

I’m not sure how I’m approaching it at the moment is helping me.