Boob photo on dh's phone 🥹

I wrote a long response and then saw your post about him pushing you and deleted my response. I think the image is irrelevant now. Pushing you is totally unacceptable. He doesn't sound like someone anyone should be in a relationship with.

Standard MN response: spidey senses, red flags, run for the hills, secure your finances, humiliate in public, go through his phone, LTB, go non-contact, stop doing housework, etc.

That's not true, I can take a screenshot on my iPhone by double tapping the back of my phone, so one handed, also you can screenshot with just one hand if using the power/volume button

Well the pushing has added a whole new level of issues and there's not a chance I'd be continuing with that relationship. Not only is he hiding stuff, he's abusive when confronted. A real Prince. I'm sorry OP, he's a prick.

It’s not a screen shot, he’d need 2 hands to do a screenshot on an iphone, and if he was watching porn he’d only have one hand free.
pushing you is assault, please get yourself to safety now, youvcan make decisions later.

With an iphone screenshots save to the camera roll but you can go into albums and see a screenshot folder. If it’s also in there then it’s a screenshot. If it wasn’t in there too then it’s a saved photo. There’s also a folder called hidden which only appears if you’ve selected photos to hide from Your camera roll.
I imagine he will clear out his deleted photos though.

Just read your update- it’s awful he’s pushed you. I wouldn’t want to stay around him tonight so id try stay elsewhere or ask him to go for a bit. Sorry to say but it seems like he’s got something to hide based on his reaction.

I'm sorry op but his reaction screams affair.

Could it have been a meme of some sort OP that may have come from a lads group chat? Some
of the stuff that goes round those things is ridiculous!

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I have to say that his anger sounds suspicious to me. If it was an innocent boob pic, as in an accidental screenshot then he would have shown you. It’s an awful time to find out. I’d tell him you knew about her but didn’t have proof and now you do then see what he says. Have you noticed him on his phone more often?

If he is watching porn and, I assume, wanking, how would he have enough hands to take a screenshot? I need 2 hands for a screenshot on my phone.

He's sexually coercing you, he shouts in your face, pushes you and screen shots tits (or worse). Sounds like you're better off in your own op

He's a sexually coercive shouty pushing twat. I'm not sure it matters one way or another about boob shots. He's not treating you right. He's not respecting you, but you should respect yourself.

He has assaulted you. Getting this angry seems even more likely that he was lying about the boobs - it's v common to come up with the least unpalatable explanation and confess to that. Of course it's possible he's telling the truth, but whether he is or isn't pales into insignificance compared to shoving and yelling in your face.

I'm so sorry. I would also be calling the police and letting a trusted friend/family member know too.

really sorry you're going through this. the shouting and pushing are v likely because he's lying and feels backed into a corner. he's a bad egg. i hope you can get away from him safely.

I don’t think anyone who is just sending nudes to a partner would be putting a border onto them

I don’t know. It is Christmas after all.

He’s assaulted you - he pushed you. Phone the police - draw the line in the sand right here and right now. Call the police

Dickhead. My husband shouts at me. It’s horrible.
Is the pushing new? Has he done it before?
He’s talking shite, re. the boobs. Hence the anger.

Well you're not going to know unless you do, are you? You've already done the 'right thing' and asked him directly and you're none the wiser. So the only options you have left are to either check for yourself, or accept you'll never know and just keep your fingers crossed and hope for the best.
In the scheme of things not wanting to check his phone surely barely matters against the thought your husband may be cheating.

I'd ask to check his phone if he refuses I'd assume it's something he was sent

If it had a border that does suggest it’s a screenshot from either a porn video/cam website or something. I don’t think anyone who is just sending nudes to a partner would be putting a border onto them

This. There's no way someone he knows sending him a selfie would put a border on so,.surprisingly, I think he's in the clear on that specific issue.

I delete my recently deleted folder as soon as I delete photos. Nothing suss about that.

Weird that he should save one particular porn shot. I wonder if he got carried away and accidentally pressed the screenshot shortcut? Grim.

Hmmm. You guys have history so I can see why your mind went there.

if I’d have seen that on DHs phone I would have assumed it was something his stupid mate had sent him and probably wouldn’t think much of it. Bug you know what your DH is like and more what it’s likely to be.

OP, is he worth this hassle?

I don’t know, lately I’ve been wondering why we women put ourselves through this bullshit. What are we actually gaining other than a boatload of heartache? He’s shown who he is (and who someone else is, apparently). Believe him.

You deserve better.

Don’t tip toe around it or else it will eat you up. Tell him you want to see his deleted album and don’t take any excuses. If it really is porn there won’t be an issue. You shouldn’t have to continue living in doubt.