Boob photo on dh's phone 🥹

You've resurrected a thread that you haven't actually bothered to read, haven't you?

Jesus Christ woman! And all this drama because (hold on to your chair now 🪑): your husband screenshot a pair of boobs?

(I’m God almighty, I feel sorry for the guy)

What research are you quoting exactly? I’m talking about real life and real situations - not made up figures you’ve found on the internet.
From the real life situations i’ve encountered,
anyone who has tried to prevent their partner from watching porn has ended up in a very sad,
untrusting relationship. I’m sorry but you need to get out of the dark ages and realise it’s just a fact
of life now.
Whether you agree with it or not, there a millions of men and women that participate willing in making porn, and they make very good money from it. Just because it doesn’t fit in your bracket of a ‘normal’ job, doesn’t make it bad. People watch porn in relationships, and as a partner you can chose to accept that, or not

Have a wonderful day!

Have a wonderful day!

Why does it irritate you beyond belief? Maybe do some research about it seeing as you don’t seem to know what you’re talking about at all 🤦🏻‍♀️

Because I don’t support an industry that exploits and harms women and think people should be aware of what they’re propping up when they watch porn? You must like to live in ignorance and the person you replied to seems to think you need porn as part of a healthy sex life, it’s not my personality I’d be worried about if I were you

I said men watching porn is disgusting and someone said would you say that about women. So I said women watching it (porn) is even worse (than men watching it)

Sorry @beanontoast I don't understand this comment. Women watching it is worse than what?

Albeit to the original worry.

Just get out of it. You get one shot. Don't fuck about with it.
There's no Dad'sNet talking about this.

Ewww! That's your imagination. I was just doing an analogy with shopping. 😬

Wow lol she must have quite the sparkling personality

@AnnieSnap

Oh 100%! I just had to jump on as it irritates me beyond belief when people start on the porn argument.
That has absolutely nothing to do with the way OP’s partner (or ex now) has behaved. But it’s an easy thing to blame isn’t it - Oh he watches porn so he must be an arsehole 🙄🤦‍♀️

You sound like a right barrel of laughs 😂

This 👆 Although, the issues for the OP are much broader than this.

You don't have to have a life like this. You can just decide that you're not doing it anymore, and stop.

There is a huge wonderful world out there full of great people and great opportunities. The transition from this to that is hard, but totally worth it.

Women watching it is even worse.

Of course there is a healthy level - the unhealthy part of it is having a partner that lies to you about it - which i guarantee all men that say they aren’t watching it are!!
What about women watching porn in a relationship, is that as unhealthy too? because i also bet you any money that the couples that do watch it have a better sex life than those that turn their nose up at occasionally watching 2 adults on the internet.

@Honeyplease enough is enough.

You've given him your best and tried despite his lack of effort and now he has assaulted you.

You must realise that this isn't really love.

He is a liar who puts his hands on you. End it and move on. He won't get any better - he is showing you his true real self.

There is no healthy level of porn watching. Why would you be attracted to a man who supports a horribly exploitative industry which is harmful and dangerous for women, and also has negative cognitive impacts on the person watching it? Do you also date men who exclusively buy their clothes from companies using child labour? Please get some standards

@MyCakeyBakeyHeart Totally agree with what you said.

To tell a man they can’t watch porn IMO is ridiculous - obviously it needs to be kept
within a healthy level which some men can’t do. But honestly I believe if your telling a man not to watch porn, he’s 100% going to do it, and lie to you about it anyway, so why set your relationship up for failure like that?

A lot more to digest here than just the boob picture. I’d say frequent use of porn in a relationship is undesirable, but if at the start of a relationship you told a man that they are never for the rest of their life able to use visual assistance to reduce the ‘blueness of their balls’ (arguably an aspect of bodily autonomy) they might consider it to a degree controlling. Images received as messages from other women or nudes of an ex would be a big no.

Do not under any circumstances 'forget about the photo OP' because clearly for you, whatever anyone else thinks about its importance, its a big deal. Hopefully sufficient of a big deal to be the catalyst that makes you get rid of this abusive man for good. If the photo matters to you, hold fast to that. Don't minimise it or allow people to tell you it's normal and fine (debatable and irrelevant) remind yourself of it if your resolve wavers. You need to get out of this relationship. It doesn't matter where you find the motivation to do that.

I was very sad to hear how extreme he reacted. You don't deserve that, the lying and him putting his hands on you. I'm so sorry. You'll feel so much better once this is in the past and you're free of that bs, I can promise you that. It's something to look forward to at least.

Then goes off in a huff

I finishing cleaning the kitchen and I am fuming.

He's just come back and said "sorry, it was a screenshot of porn.

He would have said straight away if it was porn. He went off in a huff because he needed time to think of an excuse for it being there.

He's just pushed me and shouted in my face.

I think you know that your marriage is over. Get yourself an STI test and prepare for divorce.