To feel like I want to go home, even though I'm already at home?

im very at peace in a grave yard love the the places old and new.

I want to go home when I am stressed and overwhelmed. It's that I want to be little and looked after again, someone to parent me and make it all better. Unfortunately that's my job now.

I very much get what you mean op.

Does anyone else ever get that feeling when they see a place they don't know at all.

Sometimes I do, it can be in a photo or seeing a house that looks if not hugely cosy just somehow welcoming.

I sometimes get this huge feeling of safety if I see a house with lights on and imagine how enclosed or peaceful it must be in there.

It's sort of a grounding feeling mixed with being outside myself momentarily.

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I think you’re maybe missing being cared for and comforted the same way you were as a child. You’re possibly yearning to feel that again?

I used to feel this a lot as a child. For me I think that it was anxiety and wanting to be safe.
I wanted comfort, security and a sense of belonging. None of which I had growing up.

Btw that's not a judgement on anyone living with parents. More a reflection, for much of human history women in particular would have been forming their own households and having kids by their twenties.

Its probably the feeling of wanting your own home and your parents house no longer feeling like it. I remember being about 24 and going "home" to my parents house for christmas and realising my rented flat with my boyfriend (now DH) felt like home now.

@Baffledandalarmed

I lived with my parents until I was 28. Most of my friends (early 30s) did as well. So I don't think you can say it's not normal or 'more normal' at 22 than 28.... And OPs post wasn't asking for judgement/questions over why she still lives at home and (quite frankly) it's got nothing to do with her post.

Ok first of all calm down!

I said I wasn't being judgmental and I meant it, if OP is feeling like they want to go home it absolutely Could be indicative of having 'outgrown' home.

I wasn't saying it's wrong, I suppose normal was the wrong word but it's definitely more common to still live at home in your early 20s than your late 20s - i didn't say, that it was wrong. OP was wonder about her feeling re home, I just suggested, as I did others, it could be because she doesn't have her own

I'm 65, both parents died many years ago, the home I grew up in was sold over 20 years ago and is now a very fancy rental, I own my own home, and yes - sometimes I do just want to go home, and sometimes I just want my mum.

I lived with my parents until I was 28. Most of my friends (early 30s) did as well. So I don't think you can say it's not normal or 'more normal' at 22 than 28.... And OPs post wasn't asking for judgement/questions over why she still lives at home and (quite frankly) it's got nothing to do with her post.

Oh, OP! I had this for years. Ironically when I moved into my 'home' a few years ago, I started to view my parents house as 'home' and my own house as 'the place I live in.'

It's because although it is your 'home' and you grew up there and (I hope) had lovely memories there, you're no longer the person you were when you were growing up and it was the 'family home.' You've changed, but the place hasn't. So you're a bit disjointed/turned around by it.

If you're anything like me, the second you move out you'll wish you could move back in! (But maybe I am a bit of a weirdo).

I often get a feeling of homesickness. When I was a child I sucked my fingers and the feeling went away. So maybe it's tiredness or anxiety.

Is there a reason you still live with your parents?

I'm not being judgemental btw, lots of young adults do but it's more 'normal' at 22 than it is at 28 so possibly something to do with that.

You feel unsettled. Time to find somewhere you can settle.

I often feel like I'm home in certain places - often by the sea or , weirdly, in a grave yard.

This reminds me of when my dc started nursery school and when they were hurt or upset would cry for mum, even if I was right there hugging them.
I still say “mum’s here” comfortingly even though they’re strapping teens now and it seems to hit the spot for them.

I think there’s a big difference between a house and home - maybe something along the lines of the Danish hygge? Would a cup of tea and a sit on the sofa help d’you think?

I am in my 50s, dealing with elderly relatives, kids, work etc and get this feeling when everything gets a bit much. It’s a reminder to count my blessings, take time for myself to be cosy with my husband and let the feeling pass.

Oops missed that you already posted this - yours is a better explanation!

This is me. Put me by the ocean in a village in a certain area and that’s it. Home. Doesn’t matter how long In between it’s always home nowhere else compares. Doesn’t need to be sunny and hot or anything. Could be huge storms and raining but it’s my place my comfort my home. Even though I’ve never lived there.

It’s also not about being off work and what not as I get the whole of the summer off if I want it to do as I want.

There's a Welsh word specifically to describe this feeling - Hiraeth. A deep longing for 'home' - even if that 'home' never was.

Yes, it’s exactly that @Whyhellodaffodil . I sometimes mutter it to myself when I’m tired and still have loads to do…I.e., my normal state. 😂 For me, it means going back to my childhood in an English village and my Mum being alive, instead of being a middle-aged adult and the emotional lynchpin of my family. It’s tiring being “there” for everyone!

Omg that’s so weird!!

I’ve never heard of this!
I find it so strange!

My home is my complete safe space and I always feel like I want to go home if I am somewhere else but once I’m home I am completely satisfied.

It’s odd that so many people have the same feeling.

Do you suffer with anxiety?
Do you want your own space?

When my granddaughter was very little she used to say this a lot. One day I said to her that she was already at home and she replied “ No, I mean home where I lived before I came out of mummy’s tummy where I used to play with angel babies!!!!

How is your relationship with your family? And how do you feel in yourself - anxious, sad, lonely?
I used to feel like this living with other people or in a place I just wasn’t happy. “Home” for me is completely my own space where everything is to my own liking. But for others it can be in a chaotic family house, or with a couple of friends they have a deep emotional connection with. I think you have a need that isn’t being met by your current life or living situation