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Original poster

Refused test after multiple miscarriages because of other children

89 replies

Desgusten · 20/12/2023 20:57

Also posted in the MC/pregnancy loss
board FYI

I have had 2 successful pregnancies, but multiple miscarriages as well.

I have now had my 6th MC, and have now met the three in a row threshold. My others were interspersed with having my 2 living children.

the GP has said I still cannot have any tests because:

1 - I have had successful pregnancies in the past
2 - I had some blood tests such as thyroid etc (for something unrelated) eight months ago and they were ok

my DH has had multiple surgeries in the last year and I’m worried that could have affected things (one was a testicular op) and my last pregnancy I had a really traumatic birth. My concern was either of these things may have had an effect but that was disregarded. I have had MCs between 7 and 14 weeks.

WWYD? I know I’m lucky to have the children I do, and I am grateful. But it is still painful to lose a pregnancy.

Worth going private? Or just asking to see another GP?

OP posts:
Greymalkin12 · 20/12/2023 21:32

I would have thought you qualify regardless of already have children. I had one child followed by three miscarriages after which they tested, put me on progesterone and then I had a fourth anyway, which they did karyotyping and found a chromosomal disorder. It might be the fact you've had relatively recent tests. Nothing specific was found out but the progesterone given in a it can't hurt way.

ThomasinaLivesHere · 20/12/2023 21:30

If you can afford private I’d do that.

TeaKitten · 20/12/2023 21:28

I’d go private as i doubt a different GP would do anything differently. Out of interest how old are you?

IDontDrinkTea · 20/12/2023 21:26

You shouldn’t need to go privately though, you meet the criteria for referral.

The consultant I saw at the hospital for my most recent mc wrote in my discharge letter than I needed to be referred. Could you contact the unit where you were seen?

It’s also worth looking up the RCOG guidelines online so you can quote them, and contacting a different GP. You should definitely push for this, you’re entitled.

Be warned though, the waiting list is long. I asked for a quote to go privately… £2.5k

Catchingmyself · 20/12/2023 21:24

Fertility investigations are permitted whether you have children or not. It’s ivf etc that there is specific criteria about.

Look up your ccg guidance on it as well

Original poster
Desgusten · 20/12/2023 21:24

It’s not so much wanting intervention- it’s more “is this a futile exercise because they will just keep dying?”

as much as my brain tells me count your blessings, it’s easier said than done

I guess going private is just the most logical thing to do at this point

OP posts:
fingerguns · 20/12/2023 21:23

I'd go private and take it from there. Sorry to hear of your miscarriages, OP.

Ramdogs · 20/12/2023 21:22

Miscarriage investigation is a totally different kettle of fish compared to infertility investigations. You are eligible to be referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic regardless of how many children you have. Push back OP.

underneaththeash · 20/12/2023 21:22

determinedtomakethiswork · 20/12/2023 21:19

Personally, I would count my blessings and be so thankful I had two healthy children and I would make sure I never had to go through anything like that again.

Me to. If you get pregnant you get pregnant...interventional pregnancy has more risks.

determinedtomakethiswork · 20/12/2023 21:19

Personally, I would count my blessings and be so thankful I had two healthy children and I would make sure I never had to go through anything like that again.

SunSparkle · 20/12/2023 21:19

It’s because you already have kids and most PCTs won’t support any fertility interventions for those with kids. If you go private they can prescribe ovulation stimulating drugs before having to go to IVF etc. I just went private as my Gp basically said even if they found something wrong, because we have a daughter that next steps would be private anyway.

gotomomo · 20/12/2023 21:16

Fertility treatment isn't available if you already have children, not sure if this could be the reason

BillionaireTea · 20/12/2023 21:08

Go private.

wudubelieveit · 20/12/2023 21:07

you already have 2 children ...thats perhaps indicating to the GP its not due to one of the treatable causes? perhaps be grateful with the 2 you have as perhaps it could be chromosomal causes that are leading to the miscarriages? with the current state of the nhs it seems understandable to justify not giving you extra input when some women have never carried a pregnancy to term.

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