Refused test after multiple miscarriages because of other children

That’s brilliant news! What tests have they offered. I need to book in with the clinic but I had an appointment with Tommys and was told all my results were normal after miscarriages and she is stumped as I’ve had living children before my 2 midterm losses.

I would push back. My MC were caused by a clotting issue that could cause severe consequences for my health. You need to know for your own health

The comments about being grateful for the children you have when referring to loses is insensitive and cruel.
I am on the fence about the NHS funding investigations into miscarriages when a person has managed to have healthy pregnancies and has children. However, if the criteria say OP is eligible, then she’s eligible.

I'm glad you're able to do something.

I know I found it very hard when I had my second of two miscarriages and the consultant suggested progesterone/asprin, because I just wished he'd tried that before.

I know having my 3rd DC healed the hurt of my mcs and I feel they were the baby that I was always meant to have. I hope it will be the same for you.

If you want a baby, you want a baby and don't let any of the nasty, judgemental responses get to you x

I think it would be helpful to speak to the Tommy or miscarriage association helpline who May be able to help with givong ammunition to deal with gp who as others have said are clearly mixing up infertility and miscarriage treatment options.
I have a neighbour with several children who had support for miscarriages later in life and went on to have more successful pregnancies.
I'm sorry for your losses and I hope you find access to good care.

I'm sorry for your terrible loss.

I totally agree with you. Why do people think it's remotely 'helpful' to tell the OP to be grateful for what she has? I also had miscarriages after two successful pregnancies. I was seeing my obs privately for antenatal care and next pregnancy he put me on progesterone and 75mg asprin, and I had my DC3.

@Desgusten I would opt for private testing in your shoes. NHS will probably take forever anyway.

I'm delighted for you and hopefully this is the start of the next journey for you. Also that shitty comment has been deleted so don't worry, the majority of sane people care and hope the best for you.

have you had the length of your cervix checked? may be incompetent

I too had two children interspersed with a total of 3 mc, then a further 3 in a row. I got tests immediately after the first of those (no. 4 altogether). Clotting issues were found but I still mc again on heparin. Nothing unusual in our karyotypes, though mc 5 was due to a rareish chromosomal issue. I did eventually have a third child (on heparin), but I'll never really know why I miscarried so often.

I'm notin the UK. A statutory insurance system paid for my tests, so clearly considered them valid.

Wanting another child in this situation has nothing whatsoever to do with existing children not being 'enough'.

Some of these posts! I have two children. I have also had two miscarriages one of which was traumatic. Why wouldn't I go for another? Why shouldn't OP if she wants to?

This is unbelievably rude and none of your business. It's not constructive to the op. This isn't the place to judge someone. She asked for advise.

Op. I said it earlier. I lost my twin babies after birth 6 weeks ago and I had 2 miscarriages before that. Wanting another baby is normal and healthy, ignore the sh#t you are getting here telling you to enjoy what you have. Nothing can fill that empty feeling when loss occurs but there is a beauty in having a child and I hope that comes again soon for you xxx

IVF can actually help with recurrent miscarriage, if they can identify the issue. If you're miscarrying because of chromosomal abnormalities, you can have your embryos tested for abnormalities before any are transferred.

But I totally agree with PP, the number of children you already have should have no impact on your access to treatment for recurrent miscarriage. It's appalling that so many women are just left to it. I would definitely push back if I were you. This is a serious and incredibly painful thing to go through, and absolutely not a waste of NHS time/resources.

Good luck x

If you've had 3 consecutive miscarriages then you're eligible for recurrent miscarriage screening via the NHS.

If not, you could go private - a recurrent miscarriage profile blood test costs c£1,400. If you have private medical insurance via your employer thus might be covered (mine was covered via Bupa).

The baby loss charity Tommy's may also be able to help you, or advise on best next steps. Take a look at their website.

I agree that it's unfortunately quite likely a chromosomal issue (for which there's unlikely to be a cure) but it makes sense to do some tests to rule out autoimmune conditions given you've had so many losses.

@Desgusten I'm sorry for your losses.

You may be able to get advice and recommendations on how to proceed, on the Infertility board here. If your GP thinks you aren't eligible for investigations in your local area (which is not the case across the country, as there are plenty of places where having a living child is not an exclusion criteria for investigations into recurrent miscarriages), you may need to go privately. Tommy's may also be a useful resource to explore.

I'm sure lots of people will express their own views on family size and reproductive decisions, but your hopes and preferences are just that... Yours. If having another child is what you (and your husband) want, then it's not really anyone's business but yours.

i think its perfectly understandable for anyone to question why you'd put yourself and your husband through the trauma of multiple miscarriages and investigations when you have 2 healthy children to focus on. I think most people relying to this thread will have had miscarriages themselves. If the miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities then what if a 3rd child is born with severe disabilities? what if the pregnancy makes it to the 20 wk scan and that shows significant abnormalities ( (happened to my friend with her third child, devastating). it's not uncaring to suggest perhaps focus on the children you have, as multiple pregnancy losses have an impact not just on the mother but those in her family too.

My friends first 2 pregnancies were followed by 2 very sad miscarriages.
She was found to have tiny blood clots that blocked the placental vessels.As she became older the clotting tendency worsened which was why her earlier pregnancies were fine.
Sorry your GP is being so difficult but you do need a second opinion.
My friends 5th pregnancy resulted in a beautiful baby girl but she had to give herself daily heparin injections during the pregnancy.