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To not let my 13 DS sleep over at his girlfriend's house?

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user1496146479 · 19/12/2023 17:43

Help me out! I think I'm losing the plot!
My DS13 wants to sleep over at his girlfriend of about 5 weeks (not sure that matters) house!
Apparently her parents are fine with it, and she has had boys sleep over before!
I've said no.... he is kicking off, I don't think IABU..... I have suggested collecting him late if they want to watch a movie etc.
For info, I have only met the girlfriend's dad once briefly when I collected her for a disco, and have only met the girl for the duration of that car journey!

OP posts:
electriclight · 19/12/2023 17:46

I think it depends on the circumstances. DD's bf stayed over at that age if there was a genuine need. He was obviously in the spare room on a different floor, and she shared with her sister at the time.

2dogsandabudgie · 19/12/2023 17:46

schoolallergies - They could do that at any time though if they wanted.

c3pu · 19/12/2023 17:46

If my DS (13) tried this, he'd be met with a laugh and a "you must be joking"

Hiddenvoice · 19/12/2023 17:46

No definitely not, he’s far too young for that in my opinion.
I’d stand your ground and stick with your offer of a late pick up. I’d even offer for the girl to go to your house for a late night film but that’s it.
I’d also point out that you’ve barely met his girlfriend and see what he says!
I imagine the girls family won’t be home the night your son wants to stay.

Girlsjustwannahavefundamentalrights · 19/12/2023 17:46

Hell no.

StephanieSuperpowers · 19/12/2023 17:45

What are those imminent grandparents thinking?

MuttsNutts · 19/12/2023 17:45

Hahaha…not a hope in hell 😂

Let him kick off all he likes.

fingerguns · 19/12/2023 17:45

Here's another "NO" vote.

Rosiiee · 19/12/2023 17:44

lol. No. Nice try though kiddo 😂

Edit to add: I was 17 when I was allowed to sleepover at my bf of a year. Even then, we had to sleep in different bedrooms (obviously we did all the sneaking into each others room business) but 13 is just madness!!

schoolallergies · 19/12/2023 17:44

They'll bang, so on that basis it's a no from me