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To ask who you tip at Christmas and how much?

208 replies

ChocolateCinderToffee · 17/12/2023 17:52

Inspired by another thread.

Postie?
Hairdresser?
Cleaner?
Window cleaner?
Gardener?

Anyone else? Do you tip people who are in any way friends even if you pay them for a service? Do you give gifts rather than money?

OP posts:
Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 17/12/2023 20:27

ChequeredPastel · 17/12/2023 20:23

I mean, you kind of do get a tip as a teacher. We’ve all kicked in £10 per parent so our teachers are getting £300 in vouchers and two weeks paid leave. That’s a heck of a lot more than everyone’s cleaner!

(also a public sector worker).

This isn't across the board though - a lot of teachers won't get what you've given there!

WoollyRosebud · 17/12/2023 20:26

I tip my hairdresser £5 a visit and worry about that as he owns the business, is it necessary? He is however the best hairdresser I've had for many years.

Postie, nope because like others I have a couple plus others who deliver parcels. I like the PP's idea of taking a tub of sweets to the RM sorting office for them all.

The bin men come at stupid o'clock in the morning and I'm not leaving money out all night to be snaffled by anyone passing by. Nor am I getting up and lurking by the front door in my nightie to catch them.

ChequeredPastel · 17/12/2023 20:23

VickyEadieofThigh · 17/12/2023 18:59

As I was a teacher - no.

What's your point?

I mean, you kind of do get a tip as a teacher. We’ve all kicked in £10 per parent so our teachers are getting £300 in vouchers and two weeks paid leave. That’s a heck of a lot more than everyone’s cleaner!

(also a public sector worker).

Wellhellooooodear · 17/12/2023 20:22

Flamesatmytoes · 17/12/2023 18:41

Do none of you not get a bonus at work?

I’m shocked. I give my cleaner a big tip - months money, and time off.

I also do the same for our gardener, but pay summer rate, not Winter.

I then give my team a bonus of the same, including time off.

Without these people I couldn’t function.

No I don't get a bonus at work, neither do a lot of people. You're clueless at best.

Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 17/12/2023 20:18

LividSleep · 17/12/2023 20:08

This is making me nervous because I don’t have anything at all left to tip these people that I’m now worried are expecting it.

I’m on the bones of my arse scraping by to pay people just what I owe them in the first place.

Nobody should be expecting a tip, and most folk understand that not everyone is in a position to tip (or wants to).
Just do what you need to do to make sure you're ok, forget about tips.

Sunshineandrainbow · 17/12/2023 20:16

Hairdresser £10.00 don't tip rest of year as I feel awkward and it's one thing that puts me off going.
Postie £10
Evri £10

Bin lorry beer or chocs

beanontoast · 17/12/2023 20:11

I don’t tip beyond what I usually do all year round, which is 10% for hair and any other beauty stuff (nails etc). My postman is a twat and the bin men are also bastards so I wouldn’t give them anything. I do try to keep some cash for any nice delivery drivers but I’m pretty cashless so don’t always remember

LividSleep · 17/12/2023 20:08

This is making me nervous because I don’t have anything at all left to tip these people that I’m now worried are expecting it.

I’m on the bones of my arse scraping by to pay people just what I owe them in the first place.

Lifeasiknowitisout · 17/12/2023 20:02

Flamesatmytoes · 17/12/2023 18:41

Do none of you not get a bonus at work?

I’m shocked. I give my cleaner a big tip - months money, and time off.

I also do the same for our gardener, but pay summer rate, not Winter.

I then give my team a bonus of the same, including time off.

Without these people I couldn’t function.

Do you not see a difference between these people that you pick and choose to have working for you?

The equivalent would be the council giving the bin men a bonus.

If you are so passionate that people get bonuses from their employer, start petitioning for it.

Not try and pass the responsibility on to other people.

muddyford · 17/12/2023 20:01

Bloke that delivers our newspapers and our two post persons.

eldorado02 · 17/12/2023 19:56

£50 for cleaner (equivalent to a weeks wages)
Tubs of chocolates taped to the top of each wheelie bin
Tub of chocolates taken to RM sorting office

2dogsandabudgie · 17/12/2023 19:53

Window cleaner £10
Dog groomers Box of biscuits and chocolates to share
Hairdresser Tip every time I go
Don't tip the postman because we have loads of different ones
Don't tip the bin men because they always drop rubbish when emptying bins and don't bother picking it up.

Bumble84 · 17/12/2023 19:44

Nursery I give cash to (they’ve told me they got a lunch for everyone from it so I think that’s quite nice)
hairdresser if I go but I would tip them anyway.
Binmen get a few cans of beer (this might be a regional thing)
toddler group I go to we do a collection for.

TheShellBeach · 17/12/2023 19:43

We just tip the Evri delivery man £30.

Nobody else.

Kinneddar · 17/12/2023 19:42

Absolutely noone. They're doing the job they're paid to do.

Ethylred · 17/12/2023 19:40

This is what Boxing Day is for.

Hottenan · 17/12/2023 19:40

Cleaner and hairdresser. I always give my cleaner more because she struggles financially and is such a hard worker.

theconfidenceofwho · 17/12/2023 19:38

Tinytigertail · 17/12/2023 18:37

My cleaner gets the equivalent of an extra session in cash. I don't tend to tip my hairdresser through the year, but will tip £25 at Christmas. I also get the dog walker a present - usually chocs and booze

This is me exactly, minus the dog walker as don't have a dog!

Alchemistress · 17/12/2023 19:36

We tip our postman as we have a lot of deliveries and he goes out of his way to make sure they are left safely/ with neighbours etc.

Also bin men because it's a shit unsociable job which I wouldn't want to do.

I tip my hairdresser whenever I see her, so not specifically at Christmas.

I take chocolates or flowers to a few local businesses that I use every day to say thank you.

I work in retail and i think it skews my attitude a bit. People in service industries ARE being paid for their labour, but generally not very much and are doing jobs that a lot of people wouldn't want to.

I have the money to spare and am happy to pay it forward.

Today at work a regular customer brought me some biscuits and another one a cup of tea. I appreciate it hugely.

Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 17/12/2023 19:34

Nobody.
Nothing.

I really dislike tip culture.

I do my best to show support for workers who are forced to strike for better pay and/or conditions though, even if it is creates an inconvenience for me.

VeganNugsNotDrugs · 17/12/2023 19:32

Dog walker £20. I don't know her well enough to buy a gift and as a teetotal vegan I know the pain of receiving lovely gifts that can't be used. I don't care if she buys herself wine, chocolate or uses it on the weekly food shop. It's just a small token of appreciation as she's reliable, trustworthy and worth her weight in gold.

StrawberryWater · 17/12/2023 19:32

The only person I tip is the cleaner.

Edit to add I give her an extra £25.

Lizzieregina · 17/12/2023 19:29

I tip my hairdresser every visit (6 weeks) double the tip plus chocolates at Christmas.

GC for coffee place for my personal trainer(s).

I think that’s it 🤔 our bin men make $50 per hour plus great medical and pension, so I don’t usually tip them unless I put something out that requires a lot of extra effort.

I used to supervise the car park at my kids school (thankless job!!) and there was one mum who used to give out little containers of hand lotion at Christmas. It was a very small token and I really appreciated that she thought of me (and the other women that did the job).

zigzag716746zigzag · 17/12/2023 19:27

Hairdresser - £50 (I’m too awkward to tip at any other time)
Bin men - £5 each
Postie - £10
Milkman - £5
Evri and DPD regular drivers £5 each
Recycling centre - box of chocs
If we had a cleaner or gardener I’d give the equivalent to whatever we paid per week

Now that I think about it I’m not sure why I give different people different amounts.

TheChosenTwo · 17/12/2023 19:26

Oh, and I don’t tip the postie because I don’t see them! Since Covid we get post twice a week now and one of those days is when I’m in the office.