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To ask who you tip at Christmas and how much?

208 replies

ChocolateCinderToffee · 17/12/2023 17:52

Inspired by another thread.

Postie?
Hairdresser?
Cleaner?
Window cleaner?
Gardener?

Anyone else? Do you tip people who are in any way friends even if you pay them for a service? Do you give gifts rather than money?

OP posts:
LinneM · 17/12/2023 21:05

Flamesatmytoes · 17/12/2023 18:41

Do none of you not get a bonus at work?

I’m shocked. I give my cleaner a big tip - months money, and time off.

I also do the same for our gardener, but pay summer rate, not Winter.

I then give my team a bonus of the same, including time off.

Without these people I couldn’t function.

Do you live in the real world?

A lot of the people commenting don’t have a cleaner, a gardener or a team that works for them. Most people commenting won’t get a bonus at work either….

OP, I don’t tip anyone. Why would I tip the bin men when I have no clue who they are? I wouldn’t tip the postie because again, no clue who he is. My Evri driver is great but again, why would I tip him when he’s just doing his job? The only person I may tip this year is my hairdresser and if I do, it’ll be a fiver because it’s all I could afford!

Giving £30 to your Evri/Tesco driver is madness imo

weegiemum · 17/12/2023 21:04

We pay our cleaners double in the week before Christmas. They're more than worth it.

Don't tip postie or bin men or window cleaners but I did tip my hairdresser £10 at the weekend.

Pigsinpainauchocolat · 17/12/2023 21:04

No one.

Don't have a cleaner, gardener or dog walker etc.

Window cleaner has a big firm that has a monopoly locally, charges a fair bit and drives round in a Bentley so nope. Unfortunately I have some mobility issues so have to keep using them.

Hairdresser I avoid Xmas appointments as it's so busy and loud so don't tip then.

Different post/delivery person all the time so nope.

DC in secondary now so no teacher gifts shenanigans either thank god.

Beezknees · 17/12/2023 21:02

Flamesatmytoes · 17/12/2023 18:41

Do none of you not get a bonus at work?

I’m shocked. I give my cleaner a big tip - months money, and time off.

I also do the same for our gardener, but pay summer rate, not Winter.

I then give my team a bonus of the same, including time off.

Without these people I couldn’t function.

I get a bonus at work, unfortunately since I am paid so low that I have to claim UC they just reduce it for that month as my wages are higher so I hardly benefit from it.

Beezknees · 17/12/2023 21:00

I don't tip anybody! Wouldn't ever occur to me to tip the postie or thd bin men. I don't have a cleaner or anything like that and I don't go to the hairdressers as I dye and trim my own hair.

I'm going for a meal next Saturday, I'll tip then, that's probably the only time I'll need to.

Cosyblankets · 17/12/2023 20:59

Where do people find all this extra money from?

FuckinghellthatsUnbelievable · 17/12/2023 20:56

I tip the binmen and give postie a box of chocs. I do my own hair, garden, cleaning, windows.

PheobeBebe · 17/12/2023 20:53

I tip my dog walker £20 (an hour's walk is £14 for context). She is self employed, has a relationship with us as a family, and goes above and beyond throughout the year so want to show my appreciation. I tip £20 as that is what I would spend on getting her a Xmas gift I guess, to pay someone a month's wages like some people suggest is absolutely insane in my opinion.

Bin men no, postie no - I don't know them and they are paid for the job they do.

Maireas · 17/12/2023 20:52

Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 17/12/2023 20:47

Many primary teachers won't get this either and I imagine few secondary teachers get many gifts at all.

Exactly this

HardcoreLadyType · 17/12/2023 20:52

Hairdresser, person who does my eyebrows, postie. When we had a cleaner, we paid for the Christmas week, although she didn’t work it.

AnathemaPulsifer · 17/12/2023 20:52

I always give my cleaner an extra week’s money and a bottle of wine.

ShanghaiDiva · 17/12/2023 20:51

Tip hairdresser every visit.
have bought a gift for my mum’s cleaner.
that’s it.

Flamesatmytoes · 17/12/2023 20:51

saraclara · 17/12/2023 20:44

Seriously, I'm gobsmacked that anyone can be so unaware of life outside their bubble.

Out of a total sample of 1.52 million employees, the proportion of individuals receiving a bonus was 16.4%

https://www.xperthr.co.uk/commentary-and-insights/wheres-my-bonus-a-multi-country-perspective/167013/

I'm surprised it's that hight to be honest. I only know one person who gets one, and that's in a classic significant role in an Insurance company.

It's not just public service that doesn't get them. It's anyone working in a job that's not classically professional. So shop workers, nursery staff, any trades/physical job....

If you're not on the team actually bringing in the contracts/profits, you can whistle.

Edited

You’re surprised it’s so high, I’m surprised it’s so low. There you go. I have worked in a shop, and guess what - we got a bonus.

Cornishclio · 17/12/2023 20:48

Just my hairdresser and manicurist. Our post service is dreadful so I would not tip them and the refuse collectors get paid a lot anyway. We do tip in restaurants normally anyway. No cleaner or gardener and the window cleaner owns his own company so don't tip him either. We are retired and don't get Christmas bonuses either.

MargaritaThyme · 17/12/2023 20:48

Nobody.

As I said in the binmen thread, tipping is unnecessary, outdated & feudal. These workers get paid for doing their jobs in the same way I do. They are not forelock-tugging serfs, and I am not lady bountiful.

Spaghettieis · 17/12/2023 20:48

Cleaner, tip her £10 and I’ve got her a box of chocolates.

We don’t pay for any other services (including hairdressing) and I don’t tip the postie or bin men - we don’t have a regular postie and the bin men come so early I’ve never met them.

Cosyblankets · 17/12/2023 20:47

Jeevesnotwooster · 17/12/2023 20:30

Postie £20
Staircleaner £25
Milkman £20
I always tip hairdressers and restaurants well anyway

Staircleaner?
How often do you have your stairs cleaned?

Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 17/12/2023 20:47

Cosyblankets · 17/12/2023 20:46

Guessing this is a primary school

Many primary teachers won't get this either and I imagine few secondary teachers get many gifts at all.

Cosyblankets · 17/12/2023 20:46

Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 17/12/2023 20:27

This isn't across the board though - a lot of teachers won't get what you've given there!

Guessing this is a primary school

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 17/12/2023 20:45

*ChequeredPastel · Today 20:23

I mean, you kind of do get a tip as a teacher. We’ve all kicked in £10 per parent so our teachers are getting £300 in vouchers and two weeks paid leave. That’s a heck of a lot more than everyone’s cleaner!

(also a public sector worker)*

l was a secondary teacher 26 years. I never got vouchers, flowers or anything else. Kids might buy me a little box of chocolates.

saraclara · 17/12/2023 20:44

Flamesatmytoes · 17/12/2023 18:41

Do none of you not get a bonus at work?

I’m shocked. I give my cleaner a big tip - months money, and time off.

I also do the same for our gardener, but pay summer rate, not Winter.

I then give my team a bonus of the same, including time off.

Without these people I couldn’t function.

Seriously, I'm gobsmacked that anyone can be so unaware of life outside their bubble.

Out of a total sample of 1.52 million employees, the proportion of individuals receiving a bonus was 16.4%

https://www.xperthr.co.uk/commentary-and-insights/wheres-my-bonus-a-multi-country-perspective/167013/

I'm surprised it's that hight to be honest. I only know one person who gets one, and that's in a classic significant role in an Insurance company.

It's not just public service that doesn't get them. It's anyone working in a job that's not classically professional. So shop workers, nursery staff, any trades/physical job....

If you're not on the team actually bringing in the contracts/profits, you can whistle.

Where's my bonus? A multi-country perspective | Commentary and insights | Tools | XpertHR.co.uk

https://www.xperthr.co.uk/commentary-and-insights/wheres-my-bonus-a-multi-country-perspective/167013

Needhelpsupport · 17/12/2023 20:43

£10 for our lovely postie who entertains the dog 😂£10 for bin men who have an awful job !

tomatoontoast · 17/12/2023 20:34

I don't tip.

Jeevesnotwooster · 17/12/2023 20:33

And I don't get any bonus now I'm public sector. Used to get a week's wages most of time in private sector. DH runs his company and gives his staff a Xmas bonus as well.

Jeevesnotwooster · 17/12/2023 20:30

Postie £20
Staircleaner £25
Milkman £20
I always tip hairdressers and restaurants well anyway