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To ask who you tip at Christmas and how much?

208 replies

ChocolateCinderToffee · 17/12/2023 17:52

Inspired by another thread.

Postie?
Hairdresser?
Cleaner?
Window cleaner?
Gardener?

Anyone else? Do you tip people who are in any way friends even if you pay them for a service? Do you give gifts rather than money?

OP posts:
Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:55

BlackJacktheDog · 05/12/2024 07:48

Just the dog walker who I tend to give a small gift and a voucher for about £50.

Even in a smallish village we don't have a single regular postie and I have no idea if the bin crew are the same each week or not.

I cut my own hair and do my own cleaning, so I suppose I also could give myself a tip Grin

I vote for us all giving ourselves a tip. 😬

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:54

ChocolateCinderToffee · 01/01/2024 21:03

To show that you appreciate them for doing something you can't or won't do for yourself.

I mostly can and will do these things myself, but if someone does it for a living they're already being paid.

BigDahliaFan · 05/12/2024 07:54

I tip the hairdresser every time.
Cleaner a weeks' wages, and I might get her daughter a present.
Binmen, no, though one year when we'd had loads of building work and our bins had been a pain I left them some beer.

pinkpantherxxx · 05/12/2024 07:51

I'd say gardener or window cleaner anyone that has to work outside in this frosty cold I'd be hating my job right now if I was outside for work a tip doesn't have to be huge either I was in the nail shop yesterday and an old man tipped an extra £5 for his pedicure and that £5 brought smiles and much appreciation it's a sign to show your greatful it doesn't have to extravagant amounts of money :) xx

DilemmaDelilah · 05/12/2024 07:50

Cleaner - yes, £20 and some handcream
Gardener - yes £20 and some flapjacks (both come for 2 hours a fortnight)
Massage therapist £20 and a little present (she has been coming to me once a month for about 9 years and we know each other well)
Posties - no, there are lots of them and I make them flapjacks and provide water throughout the year
other delivery people see above
bin men no - we have to leave our bins at the end of the drive and I'm not convinced that anything we leave for them would still be there when they get there

WalterdelaMare · 05/12/2024 07:49

Bin men £20, postman £20, cleaner £50.

I buy my beautician a nice gift.

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:48

LividSleep · 17/12/2023 20:08

This is making me nervous because I don’t have anything at all left to tip these people that I’m now worried are expecting it.

I’m on the bones of my arse scraping by to pay people just what I owe them in the first place.

They're not expecting it.
They are well aware that some folk aren't rolling in cash.

BlackJacktheDog · 05/12/2024 07:48

Just the dog walker who I tend to give a small gift and a voucher for about £50.

Even in a smallish village we don't have a single regular postie and I have no idea if the bin crew are the same each week or not.

I cut my own hair and do my own cleaning, so I suppose I also could give myself a tip Grin

Pumpkincozynights · 05/12/2024 07:47

I tip waiters. That’s about it. Having said that the meals I’ve booked for over Christmas have already been paid for so I won’t be tipping the waiters.
My hairdresser is expensive anyway so I don’t tip.
I don’t see the bin men. I don’t have a gardener.
I always bought gifts for school staff when DCs were at primary school.
My grandma always gave the bin man a tip and he always gave her a Christmas card. That was in the days when he would carry her metal bin on his back from her back door, down the drive empty it and carry it back to her back door. Oh the nostalgia! She always tipped the milkman too.

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:46

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 17/12/2023 19:11

I have to budget and be careful about spending at Christmas. I don’t have the money for twenty quids to postmen and bin men etc etc. Am l unusual?

Nope.
Remember 20 quid is loose change to some MN not so stealth boasters though.

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/12/2024 07:44

No-one

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:44

wp65 · 17/12/2023 18:43

You sound very wealthy.

Not very stealthy stealth post I'd assume. 🫣

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:43

Flamesatmytoes · 17/12/2023 18:41

Do none of you not get a bonus at work?

I’m shocked. I give my cleaner a big tip - months money, and time off.

I also do the same for our gardener, but pay summer rate, not Winter.

I then give my team a bonus of the same, including time off.

Without these people I couldn’t function.

I function without all of these people.

Nolegusta · 05/12/2024 07:42

Nobody.
Nothing.
In the UK, where I live, people are paid to do a job and/or set their own rates of pay.

Motheranddaughter · 05/12/2024 07:37

Paper delivery person £30
Milk delivery person £30
Hairdresser
Give her a bottle of champagne and £30 contribution to drinks fund for salon night out
Cleaner
Give her 2 weeks off while paying her plus £50 plus wine and a hamper

Citygirlrurallife · 05/12/2024 07:33

Liverpool52 · 17/12/2023 18:49

Public sector workers generally don't no.

Plenty of private sector people don’t either.

I’ll tip our cleaner as she comes regularly and she’s AMAZING. We don’t have other services regularly

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 01/01/2024 21:10

To show that you appreciate them for doing something you can't or won't do for yourself

That's their job though?!
If in America fair enough
Here in the UK we have minimum wage.
It just doesn't make sense that some jobs get tips but others don't.
Also seems like a patronising throw back to the 1800s or something throwing crumbs to the workers

MaryGreenhill · 01/01/2024 21:10

Postman £10
Waiters if we go out but we do that normally
My Mum's care home staff made them a hamper of food and drinks worth about £50

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 01/01/2024 21:08

No one. This isn't America

Same.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 01/01/2024 21:03

HelpMeGetThrough · 18/12/2023 17:10

Postie? ~ no, it's their job
Hairdresser? - no, it's their job
Cleaner? - that's me
Window cleaner? - he hasn't been for months
Gardener? - that's me

Why pay people extra for doing their job.

To show that you appreciate them for doing something you can't or won't do for yourself.

OP posts:
JaceLancs · 18/12/2023 19:28

Hairdresser and nail technician £20 each

livingthegoodlife · 18/12/2023 19:21

nail lady - bottle of fizz
teachers - token gift
priest - £10
liturgy teacher - chocs and small gift
riding instructor - biscuits

cleaners - nothing. they are agency and different ladies come most weeks. feel a bit bad about this one but as we dont have a regular person i dont feel connected.

no idea who postie & bin men are.

NotInTheMoodForIt · 18/12/2023 18:47

Reddog1 · 17/12/2023 23:49

Did I read right …..someone upthread gave the bus driver a candle?

What's wrong with that?

Dh was a bus driver for a year and got verbal abuse multiple times a day, as well as physical threats daily. It's the most stressful job he's ever had and one of his very few gifts came from from a lovely regular passenger and was a candle and some bubble bath that she'd said always relaxes her after a stressful day. He loves it and still uses a candle and fancy bubble bath for himself. He had two people buy him beer which he very much appreciated the thought but he doesn't drink and he was also very nervous about another passenger reporting him if they get in the bus and there's four cans of Carlsberg at his feet.

KnackeredBack · 18/12/2023 18:09

Our cleaner gets a Christmas gift (equivalent money of another 3 hour clean). She's become more of a friend than a worker and she deserves it.

Aplaceinthecold · 18/12/2023 18:04

I remember, as a child in the 70's, my parents always gave a tip to the bin men and the postman.
This was not a rich area but most people did the same.
I still do this but the service is nowhere near as good as it used to be.
I worked for HSBC for years and lots of our regular customers would buy us wine and chocolates.
It's just a part of Christmas for me.