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Ski Trip Anxiety!

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Jacks35 · 10/12/2023 15:33

First of all, I feel like I already know I'm BU 🙈 - but I can't shake it.

DD is going on a ski trip in Feb to Italy from Essex by coach the ENTIRE way. 23 hrs in total, which we found out last week. When we signed up for a place the details weren't explicit and I just assumed they would be flying and DD was desperate to go. DD of course is still desperate to go and I'm by no means projecting my anxieties btw she doesn't know how I feel - just sitting over here in a corner quietly rocking! Jokes aside, I really am in a mess over it the closer it's getting!

I want her to have an amazing experience, but coach travel frightens the life out of me as you only ever hear the bad. The weather, the drivers, there's so much at play - all before they even get to resort, then it's a new set of worries. The school have been great in reassuring us parents - 3 drivers in total, regular breaks scheduled (hence the duration) but I can't help but worry myself silly.

I suppose I want you all to tell me iabu, that your children have been on ski trips on coaches, were safe & had a wonderful time. Any tips on staying sane for the duration of DD'S trip would also be welcome x

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Wannabegreenfingers · 24/11/2024 21:23

My eldest did this two years ago and now both my kids are doing it next year. Its boring for them, but it's a fantastic experience that they never forget.

The coach drivers have very strict driving and rest times.

stclair · 24/11/2024 21:14

Jacks35 · 10/12/2023 16:03

We did indeed, a deposit to secure a place. It was only offered out to 40 students and at that point we just knew it was skiing in Italy and that it would be in Feb but no fine details like travel arrangements and dates etc. ridiculous really!

This is what we’ve found too. Dd going over Easter to Austria for her ski trip - I just assumed flying!

Nottodaty · 24/11/2024 21:14

Both my daughters have done the school ski trip - I can’t remember how long but similar time!!

3 coaches full of kids - fair play to the teachers! Each coach had two drivers. They stopped of (it was this thought worrying me more! But they count in and no lost children in all the years!)

Really well organised and both have lovely memories!

Havanananana · 24/11/2024 21:10

@Gemkendall

There's a comprehensive thread about school trips here > School ski trip | Mumsnet

For reasonably priced clothing check out Aldi and Lidl, both of which usually have ski stuff on offer in the "magical aisle" in November.

School ski trip | Mumsnet

Dd is 13, in year 8 and will be going skiing for the first time in February half-term. As a non skier myself, where do I get the gear from and what do...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/ski-snowboarding/4933109-school-ski-trip

Gemkendall · 24/11/2024 20:07

Hi sorry my son goes next year in feb and I’m having a panic over what he needs for it. School haven’t sent any details over yet but I need to be organised

any advise please :)

MissBuffyAnneSummers · 10/12/2023 17:37

I'd dud several trips on a coach as a teen and young adult. Group travel on a coach is quite good fun and part of the experience.

It's your anxiety that you need to deal with.

KrisAkabusi · 10/12/2023 17:37

Sunflower8848 · 10/12/2023 15:34

23 hours on a coach sounds like my idea of hell. Could you fly with her on easyJet or something?

Worst advice ever!

Perfectlystill · 10/12/2023 17:21

I did a school ski trip this way and don't even remember the coach journey, just the delicious foreign crisps and the sexy ski instructor.

I think you are having anxiety over nothing OP

HydrateYourself86 · 10/12/2023 17:16

I’ve been on a ski trip on a coach, all was absolutely fine. There were 2 drivers and they took it in turns. It was bloody uncomfortable though, never again. I’ve always flown since.

tinytemper66 · 10/12/2023 16:58

I am doing the same with 40 kids and we are coming from West Wales. It is the cheaper way of going. Not the best but part of the fun. We will have over 30 hrs travelling including the ferry.

QueSyrahSyrah · 10/12/2023 16:56

As a kid I went to Spain by coach a number of times, including family holidays and 2 school trips. It was fine, fun, tiring, uncomfortable at times but exciting none the less.

You say you only ever hear the bad OP, which is surely the same about air travel? You DON'T hear about the hundreds of thousands of long distance coach trips that take place safely and successfully every year.

AIstolemylunch · 10/12/2023 16:52

I'm driving to the Alps next week and have done it before. It's no riskier than going anywhere in our country. When my kids go on coach trips I find it reassuring to GPS track them using Life 360 or something so you can see progress and that they're moving, or stopped at services etc.

fingerguns · 10/12/2023 16:49

YABU. Been there, done that, several times. We had 24hr coach trips from London to Austria. But you're a teenager so it's absolutely fine. Drivers swap over so they're not tired. It'll be fine, and they'll have a blast.

EssexCat · 10/12/2023 16:46

Funnily enough my daughter is also going from Essex to Italy in February for a ski trip!
My son did it last year too - he had an absolute ball. And the coach was absolutely fine!

clarkkentsglasses · 10/12/2023 16:29

I did exactly this as a 13 year old 33 years ago. We listened to INXS non stop for 23hrs!

We also smoked ... WTAF?! All girls private school.

Whataretheodds · 10/12/2023 16:29

I'm not understanding what you're worried about?

contactus · 10/12/2023 16:28

you’re braver than me OP! i don’t think you’re ott to be anxious at all

Houseplantmad · 10/12/2023 16:27

My DS did a similar trip and loved it, so much so when he got off the coach after the first time he begged to go the second time! He said the coach was the best bit as there were other schools on the coach too. It’s my idea of hell but he loved it. He took a pillow with him and a neck pillow and managed to sleep quite a bit.
He slept for a day on return but still refers to it, 8 years later!

Jacks35 · 10/12/2023 16:24

contactus · 10/12/2023 16:15

and they didn’t honour? or you decided to progress?

We progressed, dd was and is so excited. While I wasn't excited about them travelling by coach it's only recently I've started to worry about the journey as we were told last week it would be 23hrs. (Which in itself I suppose is a good thing as the breaks are scheduled etc.) it's just something I wanted some reassurance about from people who have either done the same or their children have x

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Havanananana · 10/12/2023 16:24

Hundreds of schools and thousands of kids do this type of trip every year. The coaches are modern and have to pass regular checks, as do the drivers, who also have to adhere to strict driving rules. European autobahns and motorways are far less busy than the M1 or M25 and having a professional driver at the wheel is probably about as safe as you can get on the road.

As others have said, getting from Essex to Dover is a doddle - in the past I've repped on trips like this and had groups that had another 12 hours each way just between Dover and their home towns, which have included Glasgow, Edinburgh and Douglas on the Isle of Man.

The kids just get on with it. The first few hours they're running on adrenaline, then there's the fun of the Chunnel or ferry, then the task of ordering a burger and a cola at a French McDonalds, and after a few hours staring out of the window at the French countryside, darkness falls and they drop off.

The skiing itself is all organised by the local ski school and the travel company (these are almost always specialist school travel companies like Club Europe or PGL). Ski hire happens as soon as they get to the resort, then the professional instructors take over and make it a fun week for the kids. As with everything these days to do with children, safety is a priority and the teachers, coach company, ski school and organisers will have done pages and pages of risk assessments.

contactus · 10/12/2023 16:15

Jacks35 · 10/12/2023 16:10

@contactus you'd think all schools would do it like that, makes far more sense - they said at the time it would have been returned and then that space offered out to the next on the list.

and they didn’t honour? or you decided to progress?

Fulshaw · 10/12/2023 16:14

As someone else said, even if she flew, they’d have to get a coach up into the mountains.

It seems a strange thing to fixate on but that’s the nature of anxiety - it’s not logical, otherwise we’d all be able to beat it at the drop of a hat.

She’s going to do lots and lots of things in her life and there’s nothing about a coach trip that’s more risky than anything else, despite what your brain is trying to tell you.

Jacks35 · 10/12/2023 16:12

Loving all the positive experiences! It makes me feel a lot better. Thank you! X

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Jacks35 · 10/12/2023 16:10

@contactus you'd think all schools would do it like that, makes far more sense - they said at the time it would have been returned and then that space offered out to the next on the list.

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Poppysmom22 · 10/12/2023 16:07

This is what we did when we went on school ski trips. Italy Austria France all totally fine year after year