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To ask for your funeral music

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Margotshypotheticaldog · 09/12/2023 18:46

I've narrowed it down to The Only living Boy in New York by Simon and Garfunkel ( I'm obsessed with the weather forecast, only news I need)
And Raise Hell by Brandi Carlisle. Also something by Magnetic fields....Andrew in Drag probably not appropriate though...

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MinnieCauldwell · 09/12/2023 20:49

mogsrus · 09/12/2023 18:55

Frankie Wilson northern soul Do I love you

Thats what I have chosen!

suka · 09/12/2023 20:49

Perfect Day - Lou Reed
Into My Arms - Nick Cave
Avril 14th - Aphex Twin

coffeetofunction · 09/12/2023 20:48

You'll never walk alone. My mother requested this for hers when I was younger to remind me that even once gone she would always be with me and I want it for the same reason.

My way because I am absolutely doing life my way and my kids will roll there eyes at me and in addition to this

End credits by chase and status

Minniebojangles · 09/12/2023 20:45

My mum wanted The only way is up by Yazz
My brother wouldn't allow it as he hated it, but did allow her other choice
Don't fence me in

keffie12 · 09/12/2023 20:43

Behindyouiam · 09/12/2023 18:48

Jealous of the angels - Donna Taggert 😢

I found that song on Facebook after my husband passed nearly 5 years ago. It always makes me cry.

If you're on FB, have a look for it with the girl as she was then called "Its_Amy." her voice is amazing.

Growlybear83 · 09/12/2023 20:42

Son's gonna rise by Citizen Cope, Sabbath Bloody Sabbath by Black Sabbath, and Fire by Arthur Brown as the curtains close over my coffin and I get wheeled off to be cremated.

dingit · 09/12/2023 20:39

Girl on fire- Alicia keys

Whattheflipflap · 09/12/2023 20:36

People help the people by birdie.
my uncle had Burn baby burn as the curtain went in the crematorium which I think was amazing in hindsight. His personality came through 🥰🤣😞😢

Barneysmomma · 09/12/2023 20:36

Some Fantastic Place by Squeeze - listen to the words if you don't know it.
You by Ten Sharp
Viva La Vida by Coldplay

marthalovescheese · 09/12/2023 20:35

I went to a good friends funeral. She chose Paloma Faith - make your own kind of music. It was perfect. Had us smiling and crying at the same time.

BlowDryRat · 09/12/2023 20:34

Cherry Bomb - The Runaways. Just to make everyone raise their eyebrows 😁

Into the West - Annie Lennox & Howard Shore. Going behind the curtain as Annie's singing part finishes.

Izzabellasasperella · 09/12/2023 20:33

Jolene by Dolly Parton. I hope it will make my children smile.

Happyhippy99 · 09/12/2023 20:31

Any colour you like. Pink Floyd.

snoopyfanaccountant · 09/12/2023 20:31

I briefly worked as a funeral arranger. I asked an old lady what music she wanted for the crematorium and she said that her late husband's favourite song was "Smoke gets in your eyes"; her daughter suggested that wasn't appropriate. We also had a service where the deceased (he had terminal cancer so had left instructions) had requested that everyone take part in the Hokey Cokey at the crematorium.

Personally I would choose:
Dance of the Blessed Spirits (to be played)
John Rutter's For the Beauty of the Earth (to be played)
Amazing Grace, My Chains Are Gone (to be sung)

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 09/12/2023 20:30

I want a Humanist funeral and for people to dance at it. This is my list so far, all of which I've chosen for the people or events they remind me of.
Everybody wants to rule the world
Walk on the Wild Side
Which Leonard Cohen? Probably "The Partisan"
Gounod's Ave Maria - possibly sung by Maria Callas
Bridget the Midget
Charles Trenet - À bicyclette
Piaf - Je ne regrette rien
Moustaki - Ma solitude
Fleetwood Mac - Rumours
Blondie - Heart of Glass
Dancing in the Dark - The Boss

MsJinks · 09/12/2023 20:25

Recently changed my 3 - now
Birds - Imagine Dragons (just love it and used it also for my dad’s entrance)
I’ll see you in my dreams - Bruce Springsteen (family stories and memories as well as loving the boss and the song)
Shut Up & Dance with me - Walk the Moon (should be fun dancing out - I like dancing, badly, but captured on video as danced with my granddaughter to this at my daughter’s wedding and apparently we both looked super happy, so would make my family smile )
I like the idea of a playlist for the rest of the day - I may record me singing and make everyone cry (I’m more than tone deaf and it’s a bit of a joke) 🤣
My mum just couldn’t help with my dad’s funeral and I tortured myself over the music (and rest) to be right for him but also my mum who couldn’t attend either - planning this does help …

lululu16 · 09/12/2023 20:23

To build a home - the cinematic orchestra

SoundTheSirens · 09/12/2023 20:20

I'm potentially going to medical research when I die, but if I did have a funeral I'd want Troy by Sinead O'Connor and Local Hero by Mark Knopfler (I'm a lifelong Newcastle Utd fan and it's their team walkout music, and even without that it's a beautiful piece of music).

ktktkts · 09/12/2023 20:18

The detectorists theme song (not a metal detector owner, just reminds me of watching it with my dad and the song is lovely)
Walk in the sun - McFly
Never forget you - Noisettes

BeanNina · 09/12/2023 20:18

It's entirely your choice :) Personally mine is a television theme and anyone going against it will be haunted!!!!

lesdeluges · 09/12/2023 20:16

Pearl Fishers duet, sung by Jussi Bjorling and Robert Merrill. Only that version! Sublime.
And so it goes - Billy Joel
Summer in Dublin - Bagatelle. takes me back to the town of my youth.
Je ne regrette rien - Edith Piaf.

catscatscurrantscurrants · 09/12/2023 20:16

My choices vary periodically. The only constant one is 'More than a Feeling' by Boston

ButterCupPie · 09/12/2023 20:15

La mort du peuple by Mickey 3d would be brilliant! With the Covid tribute video they made for it on a big screen.

Margotshypotheticaldog · 09/12/2023 20:14

HowToSaveAWife · 09/12/2023 20:08

If I get to choose, I'd rather have a living funeral but if I don't...

Into the Mystic - Van Morrison
Should I Ever Leave This World Behind - Pogues
Days Like This - Van Morrison

&

The Parting Glass. Acapella.

(In the living funeral version of this, I would sing The Parting Glass)

What is this living funeral you speak of....??

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