I no longer find men my age attractive.

When I was in my late 30s, I think almost 40, I was dating a 50 year-old man. He was like a rebellious 16-year-old and that would be the reason I'm not with him anymore. I have to agree with the woman that made a remark about how they look at younger women despite the fact they look like Shrek or whoever that was. I've only had to ask him one day when his eyeballs couldn't stay in his head that maybe that woman thought he was a dirty old pervert, and didn't want him looking at her🤣😂🤣 he didn't seem to like that, but you know what I didn't like him being a jerk off to me either so he got what he deserved. I hate Pookie guys like that.

I was googling 50 year-old men because I feel the same way and wanted to see pictures of 50-year-olds. I'm not really in the dating phase right now because I hit my menopause a year ago and that urge just has not ever come back yet. I'm fine if it doesn't and the reason is because I don't find guys my age attractive. There are very few. I mean I'm no trophy myself, but I still don't look bad for my age. I don't wanna go younger.
Like I said, I'm thankful right now because I don't even have the urge but I'm wondering if it's gonna come back and then there ain't gonna be nothing out there I'm interested in. Yes I find myself looking at younger guys and then I gotta remind myself. Hey lady, you're kinda old now for that.

I always went for older men but then nearing 40 I met my current bf who is 6 years younger than me, and there’s a lot to be said for the younger ones it turns out 🤣. I know what you mean though, I find myself checking out fit young blokes and then I realise they’re probably looking at me thinking I’m the same age as their mum (or not even noticing me at all). In my head I AM still that age though.

It is women finally being able to have some fun that is all.. Believe me,men say far worse things about women's appearances, I am sure.

I agree that women like to take care of themselves more as they get older but men over 50 seem just to give up trying.I did date a few younger men in their 30's and 40's,when in my early to mid 50's but they did only want sex,one wanted me to pay for everything,one wanted a cleaner too..haha..I just gave up looking and I don't need sex anymore ,so I just look and think he's hot but I don't need anything else .Maybe other women still enjoy casual sex well into their 60’s etc but I am sort of glad it's behind me.

I agree with this. The women I know in their 50s really take care of themselves and make an effort to stay healthy/fit.

The men in that age bracket have totally let themselves go and do resemble Homer Simpson. Obv you do still see some older men who look after themselves but it’s very very rare I see a guy that age who I find attractive.

I honestly think the reason is due to men’s general societal feeling of entitlement to a young supermodel despite the fact that they resemble shrek

Men get slated for doing this on MN but women get the ‘you go girl’, which seems a bit unfair.

More than a bit unfair.

And there are any number of women on this thread basically saying 'well they've let themselves go so ...'
If a man said he no longer fancied women his age because they'd let themselves go, he'd be crucified.

Good grief, listen to yourselves.

The older men are letting themselves go and women are taking more care of themselves as they get older? I plan to still make an effort when I’m 50+ and I don’t think I would be attracted to a man who didn’t. That’s my theory anyway.

Fun Fact, Agatha Christie’s second husband was 14 years younger than her, she married him when she was 40, they had a long and happy marriage.
He was an archaeologist which led to some unfortunate jokes when the wedding was announced .

Personally never been into older guys, but I can’t be arsed with any of them now. As mum would say ‘I wouldn’t have another man if he were gift wrapped’😀

Wow, that is mean but unsurprising.I did the younger man thing a few times,from age 52 to 55 after a divorce from a man 4 years older.The younger men were good for the physical side ,as they are still fit . I found it no good for any sort of commitment though.Now I am 57, single and celibate by choice as just don't fancy anyone, especially men my age or older.I think enjoy what you can before it's all over.haha.

Men your own age remind you of your dad?

Never give up on your chances with Aragorn, Arwen was over 2,700 years old when they met - you've got a good few millenia left in you still!

So what? The “what if a man/woman said/did this” on here is beyond tedious.

Your poor husband, imagine if a man were writing on here that he found his wife less attractive because she was older, he'd be called all sorts. He deserves someone who actually finds him attractive.

I've never been attracted to older men. I'm 44 and my DP just turned 28. Older men remind me of my dad 🤣

I remember watching the film entrapment when I was younger where Sean Connery in his 70s was dating Catherine zeta jones in her 30

I actually thought of that film the other day. The latest Bond film is also a good example, not just the main love interest who's about 20 years younger but also where he's grieving over the previous love interest who was in her early 20s (he's pushing 60!). He could literally have been the latter's grandpa. 😂

I agree that a large percentage of men over 50 don’t take care of their health and many look like they are auditioning to play Homer Simpson. Even my teen heart throbs - John Taylor and Simon le Bon, are now no longer sexy or attractive.

I can appreciate the beauty of fit handsome men in their 30s but don’t think I would like to be in a relationship with one. There would be something icky about sex with someone young enough to be my son.

There are still 50/60 year old men who are attractive, Im lucky enough to be married to one. I do feel sorry for those women who fell for a dashing handsome man and are now married to the Homer Simpson lookalikes, but maybe love is blind!

See I think where I personally differ from men on this is where I can appreciate the beauty of a younger man , realistically I don’t feel the entitlement that lots of men in the same situation do , or maybe the sense of delusion.
Yes, I might like a night in bed with James Norton but realistically I couldn’t get my head around why he’d be choosing me rather than someone his own age so I’d be struggling with that and feeling insecure. Perhaps it’s just a confidence thing of mine.
Whereas older men don’t seem to have these scruples when they choose women 20 years younger?

This is something that has always fascinated me personally, I’ve often wondered whether people always find someone closer in age to them attractive or whether most people favour youth.

I’m 30 and most of my students are 18-21, I wouldn’t look twice at any of them in that sort of way because they’re honestly mostly like children mentally. I still prefer either men my age or up to 15 years older. I do wonder if this will always be the case or whether I’ll reach an age like you where men my age just aren’t sexy anymore.

A bit different to another post on here, some one complaining her 50 year old DF is dating someone her age! Before the menopause with me. I married at 18 (pregnant,) at 26,my now ex H was what we used to call "pipe and slippers". He was actually a footballer just before we met, very fit! He got fat, lazy, convinced me I was old. I had my elbow length hair cut to a chin length bob, the hairdresser cried! We divorced (long story) at 40, I went out with a 25 year old. Had guys at work 18/21 asking me out ( they were unaware I was single) it wasn't glamorous, I was nursing, uniform definitely wasn't sexy. I married a guy 7 years younger than me. That was 34 years ago.

I know they do, but on here they are generally vilified and called creeps/dirty old men..

I’m completely the opposite. I really don’t find younger men attractive in that way.

Imagine if it was men on here saying this . There have been enough posts slamming men for chasing women younger than them and not wanting partners their own age or older .

I was thinking the same tbh but you said it bluntly. 😂

I don't think it's uncommon. Certainly a lot of men in their 50s go after women in their 30s.