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My accuser keep on sending me crustaceans cards

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Bearwithbee · 06/12/2023 13:29

Please, bear with me, English is not my first language. But here is my story.
I do run my own successful business with clients coming, with waiting list, it's well established, often recommended, I am well known in my area, ect.

We live in a nice quiet area, I am friends with my immediate neighbours, I do know some of the other neighbours, but I not all of them and I am bad with remembering faces.

A couple of years ago my regulatory body made an announced visit to me when I have found that someone made a malicious and not true complaint about me. Nothing came out of that visit, as I did not break any rules and was able to prove that the allegations were false. But the whole situation was very unpleasant.

I have tried to find out who was the accuser, but I have been told that it was an anonymous call. I became weary and I did not feel safe, as I knew that there is somebody out there wishing me harm, but I did not know who and why. I felt so vulnerable.

I did share with my neighbours what has happened, but they were baffled too. A few month passed and as I was chatting outside to one of the neighbours, they told me that that the woman who used to live across the street, opposite my house, and now moved out, confessed to them that she did made up that complain about me and my business. I can't express how shocked I was! I saw her face to face maybe once or twice in my life, just outside, just a hello. I even can not remember her face! My house was quite a distance from her and I would not think I have crossed her way in any way.
I would not have a slightest idea why she would want to harm me either. Never mind, she was gone, as she moved house.

Another few month passed and then I received a Christmas card from her, with her full name and address in there, she did send these cards to all the neighbors. This was so weird. I did put it in the bin and have decided to ignore the whole situation further. I guess I just thought I never hear from that woman. Obviously she has not got a clue I have found about her doings and for some reason she is wanting to play a very caring/attentive ex neighbor.

Today I have received another Christmas card! Honestly, I saw red, this is just so crazy.
So I just wanted to ask, would you do anything in this situation, would you respond any how, and if you would, how would you respond? A very big part of me is so wanting to forget about all the politeness and send her a card with everything I think about her🤪

Please, talk to me. Please, tell me what would you do.
Yabu - just ignore it
Yanbu - respond somehow to stop her from ever bothering you

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Pertinentowl · 08/07/2024 21:12

Anyway why can’t a regulatory body investigate a complaint? It’s their job. They might even pick places at random if they are any good. Like an audit.

Headband · 06/12/2023 22:36

Ot from the Elf on the Shelfish ?

JennyForeigner · 06/12/2023 22:21

Maybe it's from Santa Claws

TaytoCheeseandOnion · 06/12/2023 22:13

Ahhh man. I am just here for the crustacean cards. Gutted.

MindfullyAmazedHorse · 06/12/2023 22:10

It’s possible the neighbour who told you it was her was just mistaken.

I can’t imagine she’d bother sending you a Christmas card if it was her. Most of us can’t be bothered to send cards to neighbours we like!

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Bearwithbee · 06/12/2023 20:48

Ok ladies, this just has turned in to something really funny with all the Christmas crabs 😂

@BMW6 thank you for correcting

I have posted the unopened card back, with "return to sender" stamp, the post box was on my way. I don't care what she might think, or suspect , or if she start enquiring whether we still live here or not. I have realised I just don't care. This is just a complete stranger to me. I have no problem telling to her face of what I know, but she is not living here any more and I don't know what she looks like 😂

To those who were expecting some Christmas crabs, I am really sorry for the disappointment 😂

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WalnutBlue · 06/12/2023 20:34

🦀😂

Wellhellooooodear · 06/12/2023 20:08

She sounds very shellfish

2ndMrsdeWinter · 06/12/2023 20:06

I was waiting for the crabs related reveal the whole way through this narrative!

ImSoHappyILiveInAWorldThatHasOctobers · 06/12/2023 19:46

Don't worry and forget, she's just shellfish 😀

ChateauDuMont · 06/12/2023 16:25

. 'A few month passed and as I was chatting outside to one of the neighbours, they told me that that the woman who used to live across the street, opposite my house, and now moved out, confessed to them that she did made up that complain about me and my business.'

And you believed them? 🙄

ZorbaTheHoarder · 06/12/2023 16:19

Brilliant picture!

BMW6 · 06/12/2023 16:18

OP some people just hate to see anyone else being successful. They are just bitter and resentful.

I'd just put the card in the recycling and forget it, and her.

PS
It's Bizarre, not Bazaar - a Bazaar is a type of market.

cockwomble73 · 06/12/2023 16:12

Only here for the crabs

JanetandRita · 06/12/2023 16:10

So disappointed by the lack of crabs involved. I was very excited by the thread title.

She is batshit, just ignore her.

Bigboysmademedoit · 06/12/2023 16:02

ChessieFL · 06/12/2023 13:45

Ignore it. You can’t be sure other neighbour is telling the truth about it being this woman who complained.

This. The neighbour who told you this may have used the fact she’d moved to pin the blame on her. Just ignore.

CaroleSinger · 06/12/2023 15:53

I don't like crustacean cards either. I mean send me a starfish if you like but don't be putting any lobsters through my letterbox or I'll hunt you down!

MistAree · 06/12/2023 15:52

Best thing to do is ask her straight up and be honest you never know.it might be the neighbour that told you it was her it was really them

HotelNotPortofino · 06/12/2023 15:46

I too came for the crabs and was disappointed

My accuser keep on sending me crustaceans cards
saltinesandcoffeecups · 06/12/2023 15:45

While I would amuse myself with many thoughts of revenge, I’d just bin the cards in the end and not give it another thought.

Although the “crabby Christmas wishes” suggested earlier would remain firmly at the top of the list!

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Bearwithbee · 06/12/2023 15:44

ApricotLime · 06/12/2023 14:26

Were there people coming and going to your business that left her with no parking space?

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@ApricotLime we have our own big drive way. She did not have any. But this is irrelevant. Like I said I have never crossed her way

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IcakethereforeIam · 06/12/2023 15:44

Santa claws? Just lob(ster) them in the bin.

liverpoolnana · 06/12/2023 15:38

No, I'd say don't send it back with not known at this address, as she can easily check this if she is still in contact with neighbours, and it will make you look very odd and 'off'. Rise above it, as others have said, and ignore.

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Bearwithbee · 06/12/2023 15:32

But I think the best advise it's to post it back! With "no longer at this address, return to sender"
And this is what I am going to do. thank you!😁

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Bearwithbee · 06/12/2023 15:30

Just reading your responses, thank you .. Yesterday I have misplaced my reading glasses, hence such a funny typo😁 I still haven't found them, so please, bear with me and look out for more weird words to come 😂

To those of you who said that it could have been the other neighbour. This is very very unlikely, as he is just an old chap, who simply would not go at the whole length of fabricating, reporting, calling to the regulatory body., which is quite a task on its own.

He was reluctant to tell me to start off, but I think he has got an itch, lol, and just could not keep it. He said that the neighbour came to his wife for a cuppa and has revealed her what she has done. I do believe this is true. That's why the whole card situation is so so weird 🤪 he also told me that he thought that neighbour was just jealous of a successful business.

I remember thinking to myself: how very bazaar, as there lots of successfull businesses around, it's just plain stupid to be jealous of people you simply don't even know.

To those of you who said she's is posting cards to all, as its outing, this is unlikely too. As there is no strong neighbourhood in our place, and it's difficult to say who is friends with who, I can't imagine people going on discussing "oh, have you received a card from so and so? Oh, I haven't. This is very strange. Something is fishy about it "

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