Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think boys in school uniform shorts at -3c is neglect.

364 replies

DragonMumE · 06/12/2023 09:13

Just returned from rural primary school in Lakes. Young lads in school uniform shorts - it's minus 3 here. I class this as neglect. Discuss.

Are people struggling to afford winter school uniform? Aldi sells school trousers for less than a coffee (1.75 gbp?) Or worse are they indifferent?

OP posts:
Winstonsminder · 06/12/2023 10:30

My 9 year old wear shorts to school everyday in the North West. He never wears a hat, rarely wears a coat and occasionally puts gloves on. He’s fit and healthy and definitely not neglected!

JasonMurrayMint · 06/12/2023 10:29

All of mine wore shorts all year round, schools are massively overheated , they immediately took off jumpers when they arrived, v v occasionally I would get them to wear salopettes over their shorts till they got to school, but that was really only in snow. They really didn’t want to wear trousers.

PosyPrettyToes · 06/12/2023 10:22

My DS will NOT wear school trousers. He has quite profound SEND. luckily his school are very flexible on uniform so I can send him in joggers instead but he'd likely prefer to wear shorts if I'd let him!

WinterNamechange · 06/12/2023 10:20

My year 2 son refuses to wear trousers so far this year 🤷🏻‍♀️ Children don’t seem to feel the cold as adults do. Hardly neglect, this is one of the most OTT opinions I’ve seen on mumsnet lately!

Myfabby · 06/12/2023 10:19

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

or just a sanctimonious so and so. Wish I hadn't along with so many others responded to her 'discuss' command 🙄

Edinvillian · 06/12/2023 10:18

I'm in the north east of Scotland, it's minus 5 today and schools are starting late due to the extreme frost and ice. There were still lots of boys wearing shorts when I dropped my son off this morning. They refuse to wear trousers.
Every day I shake my head at them 😂
Thankfully my boy likes to be cosy.

Potentialscroogeincognito · 06/12/2023 10:18

My son wears shorts and long wool socks for school. Refuses to wear trousers. Not a sensory thing just prefers shorts. Not neglect.

ManateeFair · 06/12/2023 10:17

DragonMumE · 06/12/2023 09:39

The dr mentioned that "Young girls were getting chilblains". She seemed convincing.

Chilblains aren't caused by having bare legs. They're caused by going from a very cold to a very warm environment very rapidly. That's why they were much more common in the days when people had fires instead of central heating - people would come in from freezing weather and plonk themselves right by a single very intense heat source, rather than a more ambient temperature. If young girls are getting chilblains it's a lot more likely they're getting them because they're coming indoors and sitting right by their middle-class parents' log-burners.

Caledoniadreaming · 06/12/2023 10:17

My brother went all the way through primary and most of secondary only wearing shorts all year round - we lived in very rural Scotland. No amount of bribery (from my parents) or threats of suspension (from secondary school headmaster) would convince him to wear trousers. No sensory issues, just preferred to wear shorts!

Myfabby · 06/12/2023 10:16

ManateeFair · 06/12/2023 10:11

What's that got to do with what other people's kids want to wear, though? You do understand that not everyone is the same, right?

plus the concept of 'owning' children is bizarre to me.

Georgyporky · 06/12/2023 10:16

They're in training to be postmen - never seen one in long trousers where I live.

LadyR77 · 06/12/2023 10:14

DS10 refuses to wear anything other than shorts to school year-round, even if there's snow on the ground! He has a pair of long trousers but they've never been worn. Dreading him starting secondary and having to force him into long trousers every day! He's far from neglected - just strong-willed and hot blooded!!

housethatbuiltme · 06/12/2023 10:13

There is a parent at DS school I call 'shorts dad'... rain, shine, snow doesn't matter he is in shorts and a t-shirt. The man clearly does not feel cold. Same with the post man.

I'm close to you country wise and my toddler has been almost nude most the last 2 weeks despite the low temps. She just will NOT put clothes on without the wrath of hell unleashing. She an angel sat in just her nappy but low betide those who try to put trousers on (she has physically hurt people).

CatamaranViper · 06/12/2023 10:13

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Twentypastfour · 06/12/2023 10:13

We are the opposite and my DS wears thick jogging bottoms in 30oC and also very funny about clothes in particular. I’m sure people just think to look at us that we can’t afford clothes because he wears the same clothes almost every day..

My experience of young children has actually taught me not to judge what other children are wearing out (same favourite clothes every day, no coat in winter, winter clothes in summer etc) because I know how funny some children can be about clothes now.

Winniespooh · 06/12/2023 10:13

Half the girls in DDs class are in skirts and socks and there are always a couple of boys in shorts, regardless of the weather. She always comes out without her cardi on, the teachers are just in t-shirts or thin dresses.

I reckon they could save a bit on the school budget by turning the heating down.

Igglepiggleandhisboat · 06/12/2023 10:13

My son wears shorts all year round. I put trousers in his bag but he never wears them. For him it’s a sensory thing

AnonnyMouseDave · 06/12/2023 10:12

Personally I think that in the UK shorts are suitable for about 3 days per year, trousers for 90 days per year, and the remaining 272 days are trousers and long johns weather.

I think that anyone wearing shorts outside of the hottest week of the year should be sectioned.

platinumplus · 06/12/2023 10:11

My kids wear shorts in this weather through choice so YABU

ManateeFair · 06/12/2023 10:11

DragonMumE · 06/12/2023 09:19

I own 2 lads. They and I like to be toasty warm

What's that got to do with what other people's kids want to wear, though? You do understand that not everyone is the same, right?

Nottodaty · 06/12/2023 10:10

My postie always in shorts :) I don’t think I’ve ever seen him in trousers!

A friend of mine is very rarely out of shorts!

And it could be due to the lad just preferring to be in shorts! I’m sure if the school had any concerns it will be dealt with by them.

gloriagloria · 06/12/2023 10:09

At primary my DD refused to wear tights or trousers, so wore a skirt and socks year round. I used to get pointed comments from teachers and other parents - most embarrassing - but entirely her choice and she never seemed cold or got chapped skin.

Notgoodatchoosingnames · 06/12/2023 10:09

boys in my sons class refuse to wear them all year round! they have to wear them for the carol concert as it's in a cathedral and they all moan about it. I know they insisted they wore appropriate clothing when it snowed a few years ago and they all kicked off, and most just wore underlayers with shorts! It's just a thing. They grow out of it and not worth the arguments

Louandsi · 06/12/2023 10:08

My brother used to wear shorts for school. He said he hated it and was always cold. He is in his 40's and recently told my mum how upsetting it was!

Scaraben · 06/12/2023 10:07

I'm in Scotland. It's baltic at the moment but in the freezing fog at my kids bus stop this morning the wee boys were mainly running around in shorts. They were also wearing hats and gloves. Their parents appear to be caring non-neglectful people so presumably this is a choice of the kids!

My DD wears shorts by choice on her PE days no matter how cold it is. But she also has an ankle length parka that I think she'd sleep in if I let her 😆