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To think boys in school uniform shorts at -3c is neglect.

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DragonMumE · 06/12/2023 09:13

Just returned from rural primary school in Lakes. Young lads in school uniform shorts - it's minus 3 here. I class this as neglect. Discuss.

Are people struggling to afford winter school uniform? Aldi sells school trousers for less than a coffee (1.75 gbp?) Or worse are they indifferent?

OP posts:
ViolaSmart · 07/12/2023 22:28

I work in a school in an affluent area. Lots of boys choose to wear shorts, even in freezing weather! Madness, but definitely their own choice and definitely not due to neglect!

My own Dd has always refused to wear tights or trousers to school, so at 13 still wears long socks with a skirt.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 07/12/2023 22:07

It's probably the child insisting

Bamboobzled · 07/12/2023 22:03

Normal at my kids school.even one of the teachers kids wear shorts. Some kids are hot blooded! Amongst my son's friends they all play football 4 times a week for a team so are always in shorts and won't wear their under armour half the time. It's not neglect in any form.

HRTQueen · 07/12/2023 21:57

It’s a peculiar English thing

lots of prep school boys wear shorts all year round until they are 7/8

a show of sturdiness

SENDintheClowns101 · 07/12/2023 21:54

Jesus Christ - my son refuses to wear trousers to school. He’s neurotypical and far from neglected. He just hates wearing school trousers 🤣 just because something bothers you it doesn’t mean it bothers everyone 🙄

ilovepixie · 07/12/2023 21:27

My 28 year old nephew wears shorts all
Year round. Even in the snow!

80skid · 07/12/2023 21:22

One of mine wears shorts all year round by choice. It's tricky to force him into a jumper or coat. We live 5 minutes from school and he's in a hot classroom all day. At play time he's running around. When home, he'll be in just pants or a onesie. He's perfectly fine, happy and has clothes to wear when he wants.

Obviously if we were going out for a long time in very cold weather, we would ensure his safety with more appropriate clothes, but I'm happy for him to make his own choices for the journey to school. We get plenty of comments and "looks" from other parents. He often comes out of school very cross and wearing a coat he's been forced to wear by staff. He takes it off as soon as he reaches me and stuffs it into his bag. It's not a battle I'm prepared to fight to be honest.

juicelooseabootthishoose · 07/12/2023 20:48

Most of the boys at my kids school only wear shorts all year round. Trousers are allowed-they wont wear them.

They hate that they aren't allowed once they transfer over to high school.

CarbsAreNotMyFriend · 07/12/2023 20:26

My son refuses to wear trousers, it's shorts in all weather and his friends are the same.

SGBK4862 · 07/12/2023 20:16

Back when I was young, all younger boys wore short trousers (they weren't called shorts - those were things you wore on the beach) all year round. At some age I can't recall now, they graduated to 'big boys' trousers (I.e long). Girls dresses / skirts were also ludicrously short by today's standards and they wore knee high socks with them - tights were for snowy days. Most of us survived!

Digestivechocolatebiscuit · 07/12/2023 20:12

Who made you judge and jury OP? Maybe their child prefers them? Maybe it's a case of a loaf of bread or trousers?
My ASD Grandson doesn't go to school but he'd wear shorts and t shirts in the Artic if he lived there..

LBFseBrom · 07/12/2023 20:07

It could be regulation uniform. I know at my son's schools they all wore short trousers until aged nine or ten, then went into longs. Nobody thought anything of it, regardless of weather. I don't know if the uniform has changed in the intervening years but that is how it was. They also wore long socks.

JaninaDuszejko · 07/12/2023 20:04

DS pefers wearing shorts. A teacher asked me if he had trousers in Y1 because he was still wearing shorts in January.

People seem to have forgotten that back in the dark ages primary age boys had to wear shorts all year round.

jesterdourt · 07/12/2023 20:03

One of my dc refuses to wear school trousers & I've given up arguing with him, the deal is he wears them if it snows!

ChilledToTheBone · 07/12/2023 19:59

A family member wears shorts 365 days a year. Doesn't own any trousers. Not short of money just hates trousers.
One of my dcs would wear shorts all year too. And only wears a coat if raining. Not even in snow cold weather.
I used to be similar until age started creeping up on me. Purchased a proper coat last year, 1st one since a teen

littlejellyfish · 07/12/2023 19:59

YABVU. My DC is autistic and can’t tolerate anything on their legs so look under dressed in the winter. People like you OP are who I worry about judging me. Thanks!

Overloadimplode · 07/12/2023 19:57

Some people are set to warm. My daughter and I can't stand getting hot. I wear a tshirt and light jacket at this time of year. She hates tights and is happier wearing a skirt and socks right now. She just isn't cold. My other daughter goes blue and wears load sof layers. Just because you are cold doesn't mean everyone is.

Harperhan · 07/12/2023 19:45

My boys choose to wear shorts all the year round. They have trousers to wear but they don’t want to.

StaunchMomma · 07/12/2023 19:45

I just want to point out that my DS does have trousers. In all likelihood they'll get donated to the school uniform bank, unworn, along with tags, same as the last 3 years' trousers have.

StaunchMomma · 07/12/2023 19:42

Very few of the boys in DS's Y6 class will wear trousers. Mine is absolutely adamant he wants his shorts, no matter the weather. He won't keep his jumper on either - he takes it off along his coat on arrival and constantly complains school is too hot.

I'd think it's somewhat of a rarity for kids to have a long walk home these days so it's not really that big of a deal, is it? If they're not ill and they're happy, wat's the problem?

Rycbar · 07/12/2023 19:14

I work in a rural school. There are some boys in year 4 who never wear trousers. They all live on farms and are bred differently!

Calliopespa · 07/12/2023 19:02

ConsuelaHammock · 07/12/2023 12:53

I have an acquaintance whose boys always wear shorts. She thinks she’s being like the royals. They just look cold and ridiculous.

I agree! 😆 Though funnily enough no-one has suggested the Princes look like a case of child neglect! 🤣 I just think children don’t feel the cold in the same way.

lljkk · 07/12/2023 18:44

ChimChimeny · 06/12/2023 09:16

DD used to have swimming lessons with a boy who wore shorts pretty much all year round, unless it was snowing. He just preferred them 🤷🏻‍♀️

yeah... I had 2 of those !!

Grapewrath · 07/12/2023 18:41

Neglect can be defined as the persistent failure to meet a child’s basic needs.
wearing shorts on a cold day is not neglect. Honestly.

Iceache · 07/12/2023 18:31

I too own two boys and their school recently changed the uniform policy from only shorts for boys to them (and the girls) having a choice. My two have told me unequivocally that they want to continue wearing shorts in all seasons, so they have. They both survived -3 degrees and I’m pretty certain they are not neglected - nor do I need a uniform bank!

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