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No petrol

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Yikerswhatalife · 30/11/2023 14:34

I have to pick up Dd from school ( very close by) then Dh (15 minute drive) from work. His car is in the garage so has been using mine (our other one) he drove to work the last couple of mornings, when he got out of the car, I started to drive home and saw there was literally no petrol in the car, it was on one last bar that means it’s low but ok, that bar has gone now…does this mean zero petrol or enough for me to pick him up (15 min drive) stupidly he has the wallet with cards and cash in (one of those days)
Will I be able to make it to him?

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KingsleyBorder · 01/12/2023 10:56

And she clearly didn’t call him to discuss possible alternatives, nor did she even try to put a card on her phone. There is no helping some people. For all we know it was just a case of her messaging to say “no petrol in car and you took my wallet you muppet!” and he’d have said “no worries I’ll get a lift with Steve”.

KingsleyBorder · 01/12/2023 10:54

betterangels · 01/12/2023 10:21

He could have walked home. I can't believe the pandering when this situation was his own doing.

Or taxi, bus, lift from a colleague to a bus stop or train station, or to within walking distance.

OP is a huge mug.

betterangels · 01/12/2023 10:21

He could have walked home. I can't believe the pandering when this situation was his own doing.

Superscientist · 01/12/2023 09:26

Not all phones are compatible with apple pay and similar. My bank offers a similar service through their app and one time when I was in hospital I forgot to bring my phone back with me after home leave. I got my partner to read out the long number added the card and then when I came to use it that my phone wasn't compatible and the payment couldn't be processed. Another patient lent me the money for my coffee and I paid her back after my partner brought my purse on the next visiting day

TheHawkisHowling · 01/12/2023 09:22

Icedlatteplease · 01/12/2023 04:59

That is actually theft.

It's also card fraud to let someone else use your card. You should never ever let someone know your pin, especially not someone who thinks it's OK to commit theft rather than find his own way home.

What a gem of a man

It's not fraud if you have the card owner's permission.

And theft is defined as the intention to permanently deprive someone of their property.

GordoStevensMustache · 01/12/2023 07:26

Icedlatteplease · 01/12/2023 04:59

That is actually theft.

It's also card fraud to let someone else use your card. You should never ever let someone know your pin, especially not someone who thinks it's OK to commit theft rather than find his own way home.

What a gem of a man

Except he didn't use her cards, just cash. Can't you read?

KingsleyBorder · 01/12/2023 07:13

Why would he be “stood in the cold outside work” if you didn’t pick him up?

User136921 · 01/12/2023 05:53

I filled up once then realised I had forgotten my purse, this was before Apple Pay and stuff like that, I just filled in a form and went back, I think it's not that uncommon, it's a bit embarrassing though. It's only theft if you don't go in and tell them and/or don't go back and pay

araiwa · 01/12/2023 05:17

What are you on about? Theft? Fraud?

Icedlatteplease · 01/12/2023 04:59

That is actually theft.

It's also card fraud to let someone else use your card. You should never ever let someone know your pin, especially not someone who thinks it's OK to commit theft rather than find his own way home.

What a gem of a man

BarbaraofSeville · 01/12/2023 04:37

It's hardly unusual for people to fill up then realise (genuinely) they're without any means of payment.

But seeing as 99% of people will have just filled up a vehicle that can be traced to their home address or workplace then garages know that most people will come back and pay.

But to cover themselves they have a form where the details can be recorded and you also sign to confirm that you will pay but if you don't they will call the police.

Nevermind31 · 30/11/2023 23:44

TheHawkisHowling · 30/11/2023 22:32

No, she promised to pay and then did. I can assure you it's happening up and down the country. That's why they have the forms.

It's hardly a police matter!

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Wow, I’ve never heard about that

jc12689 · 30/11/2023 23:33

MalcolmTuckersSwearBox · 30/11/2023 14:37

I have no idea. Some cars have a reserve, others dont. Plus, cars tend to use more fuel in winter. You might make it if you turn all heating and whatnot off, then again, you might not. It was highly unfair of the last person to use it (DH?) to leave it on totally empty, especially when you are doing him a favour and letting use your vehicle. I'd be telling him to make his own way home as you cant rely on the car to get you to him. If he complains, perhaps he'll be more considerate when the car runs low.

There's no such thing as a reserve. There's no switch to access a reserve tank. That's a motorbike thing and most of those don't have it anymore.

The fuel light normally comes on when you have around 10% fuel left. So it gives you around 30 to 40 miles before you're in trouble.

L0bstersLass · 30/11/2023 23:11

Inertia · 30/11/2023 21:51

Well more fool you.

You’re showing your husband that you’ll humiliate yourself to pander to him.

He’s left the car with no fuel, he’s taken all of your payment methods- and you’ve still collected him. Getting home should have been his problem to figure out.

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Totally agree with this.
He hasn't learned a lesson @Yikerswhatalife and has massively disrespected you.
He made his problem your problem and you compromised yourself to fix it for him.
He should have made to fix it himself.

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 22:55

So why ask if you're unreasonable if you don't want a variety of answers?

Also why would he be left stood outside work, he's an adult who can presumably walk home or make alternative arrangements to get back?

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Yikerswhatalife · 30/11/2023 22:54

*Have not Jane

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Yikerswhatalife · 30/11/2023 22:53

*Tend to, not too

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Yikerswhatalife · 30/11/2023 22:52

Jesus…so many of these responses 😬

I’m not in an abusive relationship, I have a wallet/purse and he doesn’t tend too as just keeps cards in his bag. He took the wallet because I always have cash/coins to get a small coffee and put it in his bag without thinking (not to be abusive) massive rush in the morning, hence the not putting in petrol which I didn’t know until it was too late and *Was pissed off about, but equally I’m not a doormat to pick him up rather than leaving him stood in the cold outside work. Yes I was pissed off and told him so, but mistakes were made-yes really annoying ones!
j didn’t steal the petrol and go 🙈I asked the lady, who wasn’t too friendly and we paid on the way home
Will have to link up the card to my phone, Jane no idea how to do that..not in the U.K. and live in a place where some cafes/restaurants still only accept cash, so probably a bit behind 😂

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TheHawkisHowling · 30/11/2023 22:32

Nevermind31 · 30/11/2023 20:39

You put petrol on your car knowing you cannot pay for it??? That is really really shocking

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No, she promised to pay and then did. I can assure you it's happening up and down the country. That's why they have the forms.

It's hardly a police matter!

kitsuneghost · 30/11/2023 22:31

HideTheCroissants · 30/11/2023 19:19

Using my phone is quicker than using my card. Phone payment - pick up phone, pass it in front if my face, tap it, done. Card payment - get purse out of bag, open purse, find card I want to use, tap it, then sometimes it says insert and enter pin. Also my phone is more secure. Anyone can tap my card. Someone could even “shoulder surf” and get my pin. BUT you need my face to use my phone for payment!

Anyway that doesn’t help OP in this situation. She definitely shouldn’t be picking up the idiot partner who left her with no fuel AND no access to money.

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Good for you having your phone out and ready as do i with my card. Believe me, many don't.

Inertia · 30/11/2023 21:51

Yikerswhatalife · 30/11/2023 19:40

Ended up filling in and apologising to the stony faced woman that I’d be back with it in less than half an hour
Told Dh I’m never doing that again
What a day

Well more fool you.

You’re showing your husband that you’ll humiliate yourself to pander to him.

He’s left the car with no fuel, he’s taken all of your payment methods- and you’ve still collected him. Getting home should have been his problem to figure out.

CharlotteBog · 30/11/2023 21:47

DappledThings · 30/11/2023 21:36

And multiple people have said she could have called her husband and got him to read out the card number so she could add it

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Multiple people, including me it seems 💃

CharlotteBog · 30/11/2023 21:44

keye · 30/11/2023 21:43

@CharlotteBog

This is the 3rd time I've said this - on my iPhone (assume android will be similar) you either need to scan the actual card or enter the long card number etc. OP didn't have any cards, so can't 'just add a card'.

Of course you can add a card. Her husband had the card. It would take seconds to give her the details she needed.

Some people just don't want to help themselves and would rather be utterly dramatic and take petrol with no means to pay rather then actually take responsibility and sort the problem out.

Ah yes, I think I did actually suggest that (phone the DH to get the details) above.
It's getting late!

keye · 30/11/2023 21:43

@CharlotteBog

This is the 3rd time I've said this - on my iPhone (assume android will be similar) you either need to scan the actual card or enter the long card number etc. OP didn't have any cards, so can't 'just add a card'.

Of course you can add a card. Her husband had the card. It would take seconds to give her the details she needed.

Some people just don't want to help themselves and would rather be utterly dramatic and take petrol with no means to pay rather then actually take responsibility and sort the problem out.

DappledThings · 30/11/2023 21:36

CharlotteBog · 30/11/2023 21:30

This is the 3rd time I've said this - on my iPhone (assume android will be similar) you either need to scan the actual card or enter the long card number etc. OP didn't have any cards, so can't 'just add a card'.

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And multiple people have said she could have called her husband and got him to read out the card number so she could add it