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Teachers presents - class gift

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angsanana · 28/11/2023 08:06

I'm organising the year 5 Xmas present for staff this year. 2 teachers, 1 LSA, 1, one-to-one. When I've done this in the past the pot is usually 250-400 (our school tend not to ask a set amount there is a real mix of affluence). I've reminded a couple of times and Im at £115 between around 10 families.

WIBU to buy the gifts and put "love from Tom, bob, Kirsty etc" rather than "love from year 5"? In the past I've put as a class gift but the majority have contributed.

What's the consensus here?

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Elaston · 29/06/2024 22:18

the parents at our school seem happy to contribute towards a card and gift for the teachers at the end of year and at Christmas. I think as long as there’s no pressure to put in a minimum and keep the suggested amount reasonable, then I think the gesture is nice. We use Viing at our school and at the end of the year, we order a printed card with the children’s messages and a beautiful personalised print signed off by e.g the Class of 2024.

Thatbloodyhedge · 02/12/2023 10:28

Why why why do parents do this?
It's ridiculous and unnecessary.
Teachers actually feel uncomfortable about it.
( I'm a teacher)

AuntMarch · 02/12/2023 10:25

I've donated what I would have spent on chocolate or something anyway and I'm happy to as my son has settled into school so well and lives all if the adults. They are a positive influence in his life - them being paid to do a job doesn't actually (sadly!) guarantee that so I'm happy to contribute and show my appreciation for how well they do it.

Assuming you've asked for voluntary contributions, I don't think you can then single out the others by signing individual names. If I were concerned about them knowing I'd spent more while others spent nothing, which is the only reason I can think of, I'd have done individual gifts instead!

Carzo · 02/12/2023 08:52

Give the money back and tell them it's individual this year. Also I mean why? Just don't do it at all.

emziecy · 02/12/2023 08:32

Parker231 · 02/12/2023 07:53

I don’t think anyone doesn’t understand that teachers work hard. I object to collections in schools which only include teachers and TA’s. If you’re giving Christmas presents to those who support your DC’s education what about the school office staff, maintenance team, cleaning staff, catering etc - they also all work hard and on less pay than teachers?

I absolutely agree that all school staff should be included in collections (but no school staff expect a collection or gift of sny kind). I only qualified as a teacher 5 years ago . Before that I was a TA and a cleaner. I worked hard then and I worked hard to get qualified. I take home the equivalent of about £1000 a month. The cleaners get paid more hour for hour.

flowerygloves · 02/12/2023 08:20

The whole teacher gift thing is weird.

Sure a card at the end of the year. But teachers are on a renumeration package like anyone else is. A bottle of wine isn't going to somehow make the shitty hours better.

Parker231 · 02/12/2023 07:53

emziecy · 02/12/2023 05:27

I'm a teacher (British but now work abroad) Teachers do not expect any gifts for doing our job, so to the OP, please don't worry about any of this. However it would be nice if people actually understood how difficult the job is and didn't assume that we are well paid, have loads of holidays and strike randomly. Nobody ever goes into teaching for the money. I take home the equivalent of £1000 per month and have to work a lot of extra hours privately tutoring tomake ends meet. It's a really hard profession and its really upsetting to be disrespected constantly. Sorry, I know I went off topic there but no, don't ever feel obliged to buy gifts, as you say anything handmade is far more meaningful x PS yes i am a parent also 😁

I don’t think anyone doesn’t understand that teachers work hard. I object to collections in schools which only include teachers and TA’s. If you’re giving Christmas presents to those who support your DC’s education what about the school office staff, maintenance team, cleaning staff, catering etc - they also all work hard and on less pay than teachers?

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 02/12/2023 06:22

goldfluffyclouds · 28/11/2023 14:39

Wait a bit longer, remind after payday
Just put names of those that have paid in the card...

By the way if you are buying some kind of handmade gift from the class like a picture that includes the names of the kids in the class it would be really petty to just include the ones that have paid in on the actual memento...
That's whats happening this year in our class group - they are creating a picture present of tree with the names of the kids in the class, but if you don't pay in the child's name is not on the tree...

Honestly, do teachers really want this kind of.... "gift"?

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 02/12/2023 06:20

2dogsandabudgie · 28/11/2023 10:25

When did life become all about 'bigger and better'. Christmas eve boxes, elf on the shelf, 1st Dec boxes, advent calendars costing over £50, hen and stag dos costing people hundreds, baby showers, teachers getting £300 or more at Christmas and end of year.
The list goes on.

We've all gone crazy!

I'm totally with you. I'm struggling with this in my own life from a family member in particular. Consumerism has just gone too far for me

electriclight · 02/12/2023 05:42

If it is 1-2 families then include them even if they haven't contributed, to protect and include them.

If it is a significant number, just send the gift with the names of those who contributed.

The teacher will say thank you to all of the children anyway.

emziecy · 02/12/2023 05:27

Iwannaliveinstarshollow · 28/11/2023 08:59

I absolutely agree with this. If, as you say, money may not be the issue, maybe they just don't think they should be being asked to spend anything on the teachers when they earn a good wage and the parents' children have missed enormous chunks of their education due to strike action etc.

I'll be honest, I wouldn't be putting any cash in. My child would be making a Christmas card for them, it's much more meaningful.

I'm a teacher (British but now work abroad) Teachers do not expect any gifts for doing our job, so to the OP, please don't worry about any of this. However it would be nice if people actually understood how difficult the job is and didn't assume that we are well paid, have loads of holidays and strike randomly. Nobody ever goes into teaching for the money. I take home the equivalent of £1000 per month and have to work a lot of extra hours privately tutoring tomake ends meet. It's a really hard profession and its really upsetting to be disrespected constantly. Sorry, I know I went off topic there but no, don't ever feel obliged to buy gifts, as you say anything handmade is far more meaningful x PS yes i am a parent also 😁

Lillipuddle · 01/12/2023 21:48

Parker231 · 01/12/2023 19:46

What about families with more than one child in the school and don’t have £5 per child?
If a teacher is receiving vouchers up to £150 I hope they have checked they are allowed to accept what is in reality cash.

It's divided by 3. They are each reviving a £50 voucher.

Parker231 · 01/12/2023 19:46

Baba197 · 01/12/2023 19:24

We do this and it’s £5 per child to cover cost of voucher for 2 teachers and LSA. whoever has contributed has their child’s name written in the card, I think that’s fair as if you don’t contribute then why should teachers think that you have?! Lots didn’t last year and did their own thing but I think nicer for teachers to get a gift voucher of decent amount rather than 30 gifts which may or may not be to their taste/useful. Plus what can you buy that is decent for £5?! It’s win win!

What about families with more than one child in the school and don’t have £5 per child?
If a teacher is receiving vouchers up to £150 I hope they have checked they are allowed to accept what is in reality cash.

Baba197 · 01/12/2023 19:24

We do this and it’s £5 per child to cover cost of voucher for 2 teachers and LSA. whoever has contributed has their child’s name written in the card, I think that’s fair as if you don’t contribute then why should teachers think that you have?! Lots didn’t last year and did their own thing but I think nicer for teachers to get a gift voucher of decent amount rather than 30 gifts which may or may not be to their taste/useful. Plus what can you buy that is decent for £5?! It’s win win!

Lizzieeeeee · 01/12/2023 14:50

To be fair, I don’t tend to join in on the en masse class present (find it’s gets a bit too grandiose and impersonal) but I don’t think it’s a problem to present it as just from the contributors. People may just be doing their own thing (like I do).

Livelifelaughter · 01/12/2023 14:40

Lillipuddle · 29/11/2023 19:07

Many people get given Christmas presents at work in numerous sectors!

I am not sure I agree for professional jobs. And if there is a gift it's often done as a marketing exercise. I have only worked for corporates but there's always a gift register and any gift more than a very low amount cannot be accepted; that's pretty standard.

Justanothermum42 · 01/12/2023 07:26

Normally everyone who contributes signs a card/you sign on their behalf. Times are tough so not everyone can contribute sadly.

Dogcatmousecat · 30/11/2023 21:22

My children at primary school enjoyed taking in their own gifts for the teacher and TA .

MrsAzza · 30/11/2023 21:17

Why can’t parents just decide themselves if they want to get their teacher(s) a gift or even just a card?! I don’t understand why parents have to be forced to do it as a group, making it awkward. If you get 100 box of chocolates so be it - it’s the sentiment that counts. Next thing we know we’ll all be forced into combined gifts for the postman, bin men. It’s mad! Just let people do what they want.

Lindar79 · 30/11/2023 19:17

If I had put to it I’d be pretty annoyed if everyone’s names was on it. If they want to be on it then contribute ! Even if it’s a few pounds

Lindar79 · 30/11/2023 19:17

If I had put to it I’d be pretty annoyed if everyone’s names was on it. If they want to be on it then contribute ! Even if it’s a few pounds

Libraview · 30/11/2023 17:54

Have seen many times from teachers that they don't want this. That parents think it is ok to exclude some children is possibly why and as a parent that was never included in the messages the popular parent click is just so tired.

Parker231 · 30/11/2023 16:58

I wonder why some schools continue with collections when teachers keep saying it’s the cards they appreciate and keep?

Robbee · 30/11/2023 16:45

As a teacher the last thing we ever wanted was gifts and certainly not organised ones - a home nmade card, or letter or something made by a child was always appreciated at the end of the year, but people don't need gifts for doing their jobs ( even though teachers always go far beyond what's in their job description)
Other public sector workers don't get gifts, so why single out teachers? - not sure about private companies - and as for assuming that because it's a well off area that everyone in that area can find a spare £5-20 to chip in - that's just being out of touch with reality

Amumof287 · 30/11/2023 14:38

Autumn72 · 28/11/2023 13:07

Our class does this every year at Christmas. They ask for £5 per teacher per child. With 3 teachers in the class that's £15. The Christmas before last I couldn't even afford to buy my child new shoes nevermind find £15 for a Christmas gift to teachers. They always put just the child names who contributed. The mum who organises it is quite well off so maybe it doesn't occur to her that some just can't do it.you never no people's circumstances.

This is happening with my daughters new reception class now. I don’t mind collections for the teacher, and actually I can afford it. But it makes me cringe when they ask for set amounts because I know there are people that can’t afford it but might be happy to contribute a smaller amount. If somebody wanted to give 50p I would happily put that child’s name on a card. But apparently it’s “fair” to agree a set amount and Iv been very much ignored. For people with more than one child at school it can really add up. I’m just doing a card from my little ones to their teachers