Husband left kids alone at home

My parents did this to me and my brother, we didn't know they'd gone out, he was six and I was ten. I woke to find the house empty. My parents discovered us making our way to my grandparents, they bollocked me and said we could have been picked up by anybody!!!
What you have done disgusts me, if somebody had found out you could well have had social-workers knocking your door, and deservedly so.

If any of the kids in my school that are your children’s age told me that they were left alone from 8-10:30pm while their parents went to a party, I’d be filling out a cause for concern form and handing it to the safeguarding lead.

I hope this thread has given you the wake up call you both sorely need. You are neglectful and your kids deserve better.

OP how old are you and you partner?
Was partying a thing for you pre-kids?
My oh and I were party people and as much as we miss those days now that we have 2 DC, 11 is far too young to leave in charge which you’ve addressed.
Im just thinking is that why your oh thought it was ok to go out locally? Not that it makes it ok especially as he lied to you. All those saying get rid of him I think are a bit extreme but I would categorically make sure that your children are never left alone gain in future. Major lesson learned here.

Oh. That made me cry.

It doesn't make sense that you had a go at your husband for leaving them on their own when you were both happy to leave them home alone

Leaving children when they are awake, know where you are and how to contact you is totally different from sneaking out when children are asleep and have no idea you're not there. I as an adult would certainly feel differently if husband tells me he's going out or if I wake up and he's suddenly gone.

You are Both ridiculous and irresponsible. A visit from social services wouldn't go amiss.

Thread didn't turn out how you thought!!!!!!!!

You are both utterly grim. No responsible parent leaves children that young alone.

You’re unreasonable because you’ve done it yourself in the past for 21/2 hours!
they’re far too young for this both of you need to get priorities straight

Your husband was very irresponsible, he shouldn't have left the kids alone and especially not without telling them. What if they woke up all alone in the house not knowing what had happened.

I understand you went out while your husband was home with the children, so no reproach to you here.

But for the party earlier.....yes you were wrong to leave them alone, it's too soon.

this is actually not good
they are far too young
imagine this is you as a child same age and you wake up not well or bad dream ?
Not acceptable at all

It doesn't make sense that you had a go at your husband for leaving them on their own when you were both happy to leave them home alone to go to a party! And yes they are too young to be left home alone.

I suppose you know your own children best, but even so, an 11 year old in charge of an 8 yr old is a hugh responsiblity and I would not think that their ability to make decisions if they were in any kind of danger, or an accident should happen would be possible. My thoughts go to the McCann family, who left their children sleeping while they ate in a nearby dining area in the resort they were in. Madeline has still not been found. No, this is definitely not something that I would do, there is always a worse case scenario and I would not be prepared to risk it.

This. You haven't got a leg to stand on when you previously did it. Really negligent behaviour. 8 is way too young to be home alone. You can start to leave your. 11 yo. e.g. when you go to the shops, but can't leave them alone with 8yo.

so you can both leave them to go out to a party at night for a few hours. But he can’t leave them where he’s only 15 mins away?

pot….kettle…..black

Of course they should not be left alone at all!! This is what the Government says:

The law on leaving your child on their own
The law does not say an age when you can leave a child on their own, but it’s an offence to leave a child alone if it places them at risk.
Use your judgement on how mature your child is before you decide to leave them alone, for example at home or in a car.
The National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) says:

• children under 12 are rarely mature enough to be left alone for a long period of time
• children under 16 should not be left alone overnight
• babies, toddlers and very young children should never be left alone

I thought leaving your child alone before age 13 is a no no. I didn't leave mine alone to go out in the evening until he was 14, yours are far to young.

There'll be plenty of time to party and go out when they've grown and left home. Until then, they're your total responsibility. Shouting at your partner is a bit rich. You should look at yourself.

Imagine if they woke up and nobody was there how scary for them! Did he lock them in? Do they know how to get out in an emergency?

This is awful 😱😱😱😱 8 and 11 years old is too young in my eyes to be left home alone at all!!!! I actually can't believe that there are parents like this out there

Are you actually having a laugh? 8 years old. Nights out and parties. I have no words.

She also said she thinks it’s ok to leave them in the day time while she went to the shops !
why do people have kids if they think leaving them alone whilst they go out is ok !!
totally irresponsible

Not sure what is meant by a safe area. I personally don't feel there is such a thing. We were burgled while we were in bed and lived in a small quaint village that most people would perhaps describe as a safe area (village neighbourhood watch, hardly any crime ever previously) soco told us the next day they'd been upstairs whilst we slept. I wouldn't have agreed previous to this that leaving 8 and 11 year olds alone was acceptable though, it's far too young and you were right to be mad at DH.

Jesus Christ. Mine are 8 and nearly 14 and im nowhere near leaving them alone except for a quick 15 min pop to the shop. 11 is WAY too young for this responsibility.

OP are you expecting everyone to side with you and call your husband an irresponsible parent when you are as equally irresponsible. You really didn’t think about this post did you?