Husband left kids alone at home

Parents have been jailed for as much as you and your husband did. https://www.thetelegraphandargus.co.uk/news/19521261.mum-left-son-home-alone-knocked-killed-jailed/

Some people need to at least read all the OPs posts.

And besides legal age to stay home or baby sit is 12 years old.

There is no legal minimum age to stay home alone in the UK.

Just remember what happened to the McCann girl. Irresponsible, putting your own pleasure before the safety of your children, If I had known your address I would have reported you to the police and social services. What if the house had gone on fire, burglars etc. You should never leave young children alone ever, ever, ever.

My brother used to make his own sandwiches and go to school on his own when was 8 years old. I did it when I was 9-10 and it was more dangerous walking to and from school rather than staying at home. Nowadays, children are less likely to be left on it's own and parents are overprotective and most of now adults have mental problems due to this (their parents).
Your husband did wrong and should of let you know what he's gonna do. But still, should not of left them, he's lucky they didn't wake up.
You had this planned all week so you shouldn't feel like it's your fault. Head up.

Never allowed to play out ? I'm glad my childhood wasn't in today's society, children grow up and don't know how to be adults now

Social services. Selfish. Anything could happen to those children when home alone. Disgusting.

I'm 34, never came home by myself at that age. I also didn't let my DS play out either.

What do you mean by child left 30 seconds from parents?

Thought I would comment on this as I feel you are getting a bit of a battering here, and people don't know a single thing about you... So let's look at this rationally, there is no legal age limit for babysitting , it's at the discression of the parents, you know your children and how mature they are. So let people report you to social services, they won't do anything as you haven't actually done anything wrong in the eyes of the law. My eldest was more like a 30yr old woman by the time she was about 8, but my youngest totally different. Let's also think about at 10yrs old you are trusted to walk to school and back on your own....so all of these people here battering you have never let their child walk to school!!! Well that's either BS or exceptionally sad... Then People who go to work, there 10yr old will then be in the house on there own , at 11yrs old your in the first year of high school ... So let's leave that their . People are 100% missing the point here , you hadn't agreed to it, so I think a stern word to your OH is what's required here, no harm came to the children so discuss it, come up with a plan for next time and move on. Don't give yourself a hard time it's happened, they were safe. Life is tough enough as it is. Xx

Remember another child left alone about 30 seconds from parents? I know it was different in a lot of ways but its still young children npt supervised amd in this case given too much responsibility. Theres no legal age to leave kids but 8 and 11 would get you into some shit by some LA's

There are a few red flags for me in this situation.
Firstly that he straight out lied when you specifically asked about this exact possibility.
Secondly that he chose to go out drinking in the first place, when in charge of minors.
He has neglected his responsibility as a parent and endangered his children.
Even if his friend's house was next door, it's still not sensible to drink while you are the sole responsible parent in the house at that time.
You shouldn't have to be the only grown up in this situation.

If something had happened while he was away, he could be charged with neglect and child endangerment.

Jeez, everyone on this thread either has a short memory or are really young. I don't see anything wrong with the 11yo starting to spend short periods home alone if not destressed by it, 8yo a bit young imo but I had a house key and came home after school myself in primary 6 which was totally normal aand I'm only 33 now, somehow i survived 🙄 I mean no one blinks an eye about letting young children play outside out with where their parents can see them but being alone in their warm safe home is what's unsafe, yeah okay. Though OP very stupid to leave them at night hardly the time to practice if they can be left home or not.

your a much calmer woman than me, cause from the south , I would have already used him for alligator 🐊 🪤. Anything could have happened to those kids, I m sure you thinking 🤔 about all of that. And besides legal age to stay home or baby sit is 12 years old. You talk about in the dog house!

Kate & Jerry the second. Stop it before something terrible happens.

As a foster carer I cannot leave my children on their own in the evening until they turn 18. Most of their peer group would be left alone at 15 or

It is harm, I was that child 49 years ago and the terror has never been forgotten. It messed me up for years and made me lose all trust in my parents.

I think many people on this thread would say that waking up terrified and not knowing where the person is who was supposed to be there, is harm. I think it is.

I agree with you @Quartz2208 it is different, which is why I find it curious that inflated risk is the reason being lead with. I don’t think the children are likely to come to any harm but I also don’t think it’s a particularly nice or respectful way to behave towards them.

Whatever culture doesn’t matter though as it is all designed to give the child independence and do th8ngs for themselves, build themselves up for high school and beyond. Every decision I have made for DD (14) is around that and preparing them.

how many of us as adults would like it if we woke up and someone had disappeared without telling us? Because that is what happened here. Completely different to popping out for milk or walking to school

Ah apologies, I didn’t mean to ignore your questions. @eastegg but I’m not sure how to answer given in any two hour window it IS quite unlikely that a child in late primary would suddenly projectile vomit, spring up to use kitchen equipment they aren’t allowed to use, or be so scared by a nightmare they need their parents, in my experience/opinion?

What is it you are looking for?

Everyone assessed risk based on their own experience, so if you have actually have/had children in this age group or if you live in a particularly dangerous area then I would imagine that would impact your guess as to how likely things are to happen.

Yes, you’re right. And the majority on the thread seem to agree as well.

@eastegg don't explain yourself. I think you're right.

Scrap the exploration of what if they wake up and don't feel well etc. - it's as simple as this- what if they wake up and you're not there?! That, in my eyes, is enough. My children would be terrified to find us not in the house.

Was that aimed at me? I haven’t shouted and shamed at all, just disagreed with you.

I’ve tried to explore some of the claims you’ve made, ie that things like a child waking in the night feeling ill is very unlikely to happen, but you’ve dodged the questions. When I explored why you think a child vomiting on their own and looking for an adult they thought was there would be ‘manageable’, you changed the subject by asking how old my children are and whether I live in a dangerous area 🤷‍♂️. If anyone’s prevented ‘exploration of the situation’, it’s you.

I wouldn't leave my 8 year old during the day either.

They aren't old enough to know what to do if something goes wrong.

And an 11 year old can't be responsible for an 8 year old.