Would you be ok with DP going on football trip when 34 weeks pregnant

My first came at 34 weeks with no warning at all, and a not very long labour and then wasn't very well. It was bad enough waiting for dh to get back from his meeting a couple of hours away and having to find someone to take me to hospital after my waters went suddenly. So it would be a no from me

It's hard to predict how you'll feel in later pregnancy so he needs to be prepared to cancel. By 37 weeks with my second I was in agony walking even the shortest distances and 100% needed dh's support and 34 weeks really isn't far from that.

@FMLife what the fuck is FM in your username? Can you not use words?

Yes OP I'd be happy for him to go! Off with him, plan a nice weekend for yourself while he is away. 😊

Are you new? This site has been around for 20 odd years and always used these acronyms.

They'll be limited chances for a trip away once baby is born so I'd say definitely go for it.

Same

I'd be fine with it. Yes, it's possible but also highly unlikely you'd go into labour at 34 weeks with a straightfoward pregnancy.

The only thing I would say is make sure he buys travel insurance asap that would cover if he had to cancel. It’s unlikely but if you do develop complications in the next few months then you don’t want to lose the money. This happened to us and my DH got the money back for a trip he then couldn’t go on

I went on a girls trip when I was 32 weeks. It wasn't abroad but it was quite a far drive so I wouldn't have a problem with DH going away at that stage.

It’s a once in a lifetime experience, so he shouldn’t miss it. I’m sure you can get someone else to be at the birth. 😆🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

Jokes aside, I wouldn’t mind. The chances of you going into labour are probably very low and as others have said he could probably get home fairly quickly if necessary.

It's an acronym. HTH

I think it's probably as late as I'd be happy with, but I would have been OK with dh going at that point. But equally I probably would have lined up a bit of extra support like having my mum come and stay for a few days, more for the company than anything else. I do remember staying overnight with family a few hours away at that stage because I had a work commitment that I needed to travel for and they lived nearby and crying on the way because I really just wanted dh nearby but I'd never have been bothered about that normally and didn't expect to feel that way. So I think go for it, but I think he needs to be aware and prepared that if the time comes closer and actually you really don't feel good about it, then he needs to cancel. So maybe would be worth him looking into insurance for the tickets and flights etc with a good cancellation cover just incase.

You can't assume but for most this would be fine. My DH works away a lot. In fact, he had a business trip to Australia when I was 34 weeks (we are UK based). It was fine.

He wouldn't have gone on a 'fun' trip though, only travelled for work, and only confirmed his place on the trip a couple weeks before when I had a private scan to check all still looked ok. He also had it in writing that if anything happened they would put him on first flight back.

Yep, absolutely fine. Potentially another couple of months to go still at that point!

Haha you again 😂

My baby came early at 34 weeks. Easy pregnancy, no complications. You’ll most likely go full term but I’d be thinking …’what if’! It’s quite close in my opinion!

I’d go with him 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’d be fine with that. You’ll probably be at work and doing normal things.

The only thing I couldn’t do very easily while heavily pregnant was tie my shoe laces but it will be summer time so you’ll be fine with flip flops.

Of course if the baby was born prematurely he’d have to not go/ come back, but that’s very unlikely.

I had a haemorrhage with my first at 32 weeks and Dd was born at 36 weeks after a 1 hour labour. You can't just assume that your baby will make it the full 40 weeks or that labour will be long. I wouldn't have wanted my Dh to have been abroad at that time, and I am normally a very independent and emotionally self-sufficient person.

Here you go @FMLife

www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms

HTH

That's the stage I'm at now - sorry to break the consensus but quite honestly I wouldn't enjoy being on my own for 5 days at this point. Not really in case the baby comes but because so many things are now hard to do (e.g. carrying shopping, anything round the house that involves standing for a long time). If DH wanted to go away for 5 days I'd probably ask a friend or relative to come for part of that time.

As long as he was prepared to cancel without sulking like a toddler if something unexpected happened, then I can't see a problem with it.

@FMLife are you new to internet forums because it isn't like MN does something different than you see elsewhere. MN has used DP, DH since all this were fields. The only time it gets confusing is when people use it for Dad so DD which should mean darling daughter. Pretty clear what the OP means on this thread.

My friend went to her normal midwife appointment at 34 weeks and went straight to hospital from there with pre-eclampsia. Luckily her Dh was just at work and could leave. She ended up with an EMCS. So I would say yes but see how your pregnancy goes

I had my babies at 34-35 and 36 weeks so it would be a no from me!