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bothered that another parent copied my childs name

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catphone · 22/11/2023 17:03

This happened a few years ago when we lived in a remote area.
My child name was very uncommon and unique. I deliberately picked the name because it wasn't common and I didn't want her to share her name with a number of people. I don't want to say what it is because there are very few people in the world with it. As she got older, in assembly, she found out that someone in primary 1 had the same name as her and the parent had obviously heard of and copied her name. Subsequently, there were a number of others with the same name.
AIBU to be annoyed?

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SleepingStandingUp · 22/11/2023 17:47

You picked a unique name, which means you made a name up. Then there were a few people around the world with it (can't be other way round cos you said it was unique when you used it) so how did they hear about it? But the only one you care about is the Mom who was so desperate to be as awesome as you that she named her child in honour of yours? Did I get that right.

Yadnbu and if I was you I'd take it to Judge Rinder.

wokbun · 22/11/2023 17:47

She's a child not a brand

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 22/11/2023 17:47

Priceless

Teder · 22/11/2023 17:46

Where did you discover this name?

Mrgrinch · 22/11/2023 17:46

This is hilarious.

Crazycrazylady · 22/11/2023 17:45

Oh dear god. I'm actually embarrassed for you. Every name that you have ever heard has been 'copied' from someone else. I assume this child in not in your child's class and are years apart .
You sound batshit .

Aquamarine1029 · 22/11/2023 17:45

Unless they took your child whilst also taking the name, YABU.

infor · 22/11/2023 17:45

So embarrassing though when I call "Mercedes-Storm" in the park and a dozen kids turn round. There should be a law against it.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 22/11/2023 17:44

Hee he, this pissed me off 23yrs ago. I called my boy Caleb. Didn't know of anyone called this. He was at nursery with another wee boy and his mum had a baby and called him Caleb, I was outraged at the time, like I owned the name! Now it's just, nearly as common as Jayden, Jaxon and Chelcee, 😆

TheresaCrowd · 22/11/2023 17:44

You say there's very few people in the world with her name.

So do you suspect people in other countries copied you too?

steff13 · 22/11/2023 17:44

There is nothing new under the sun

YABU

Rosscameasdoody · 22/11/2023 17:43

I don’t think you have enough to worry about.

olivialennox · 22/11/2023 17:43

By that logic don’t we all ‘copy’ names when it comes to naming our DC, unless you literally made the name up

Draconis · 22/11/2023 17:43

I chose a name that I thought was pretty unique. I only ever saw it on one baby name site out of the hundreds I looked at.
I'd never heard that name before but now it's such a popular name in the cultural circles I'm in.
So annoying. Especially when I drove past a business with that name too.

SweetFemaleAttitude · 22/11/2023 17:41

GHSP · 22/11/2023 17:34

Is it Balonz?

You beat me to it 😂😂

VickyEadieofThigh · 22/11/2023 17:41

Homesweethome23 · 22/11/2023 17:26

If it was apparently such small place where everyone knew everyone how did you not find out that the other child had the same name until she started school at age 4/5 years?

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Indeed!

How come, OP, that in this very small place where everyone knows everyone, you only found out about this when your kid went to school?

SoySaucePls · 22/11/2023 17:40

OP copying is the greatest form of flattery.

The person loved the name and you've set a trend!

Why not try to enjoy it?

Mygosh · 22/11/2023 17:40

I think that rather than feeling annoyed, you should feel honoured, that somebody liked your DC's name enough to call their own child the same. Your DC is still unique.

thewreckofthehesperus · 22/11/2023 17:39

So she heard the name, liked it and used it for her child, the same way you heard the name from somewhere, liked it and used it for your child?

Why is it unreasonable when she does it but perfectly fine for you? You're not even close friends or a family member with this person! You have no claim here.

pinkyredrose · 22/11/2023 17:39

parent had obviously heard of and copied her name

You're just guessing. Are you upset that your daughter is no longer 'unique'?

Original poster
catphone · 22/11/2023 17:38

GHSP · 22/11/2023 17:34

Is it Balonz?

😂

OP posts:
housethatbuiltme · 22/11/2023 17:37

Aren't you the star of your own universe?

You where simply on trend love, thats how names work. I fell in love with my kids names AS a kid myself. I didn't know ANYONE with names like that. By the time I had my kids 12-25 years later guess what? lots of other people my age also picked the same names that where 'super rare' when we where young (so thus are not rare now, several in the school).

Its literally not about you. The world doesn't turn for you and no one is 'copying', you simply don't think as uniquely as you think you do and are unfortunately just as stereotypical as everyone else in your life choices.

NuttyGranola · 22/11/2023 17:36

CurlewKate · 22/11/2023 17:17

I chose an incredibly uncommon name for my dd 25 years ago. Grace.

Same here - except it was even less popular when I picked it for my DD 41 years ago! I'm sure that it was already picking up speed by the late 1990s, though perhaps only as a middle name at that point.

AbbeyGailsParty · 22/11/2023 17:36

catphone · 22/11/2023 17:19

It was a small place where everyone knew everyone, the parent knew of my DDs name and when she eventually had her own child she took it

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She took it so your child is left without a name? Yes I’m being ridiculous and so are you.
My friend named her dd from a name she saw on a gravestone, did she steal from a deceased person?
You need to grow up if you’re a parent.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 22/11/2023 17:36

MaggieFS · 22/11/2023 17:28

I bet it's Nevaeh.

Heaven spelt backwards xoxo