Single parents getting a hard time on here!

My mum would have said that we were a happy blended family that worked wonderfully too, except we weren’t really. None of the children were happy with the situation and it was not a positive experience.

But adults can be selfish and tell themselves that they deserve to be happy and shouldn’t be held back just because they’ve had children, so they convince themselves that their blended families are working well despite their children being unhappy. Step parents have very little benefit for children, even the good ones.

If I was a single parent I would be too busy focusing on raising my children to be in the dating game. Why can't women take pride in being strong and on their own rather than jumping into new relationships.

I’m a single parent with a new bf, well of 8 months. Wouldn’t have dreamt of introducing him to my children before now and won’t do for a few months yet.

I admit I do judge parents who introduce new partners to children after a few weeks or months. It’s certainly not for the benefit of the children? Why not wait a bit to reduce the risk of them having to meet multiple partners? Get passed the honeymoon stage and then you really know a person.

We had a very similar post last week, it was bollocks then and it's bollocks now

I don't recall seeing many, if any, posts suggesting single mothers shouldn't date. I have seen lots saying that if you are in a new relationship, give it time, six months minimum, before your children meet the person you are dating. Seems sensible to me.

there's a lot of judgement towards single parents in general, e.g. nasty comments about them "making the wrong choice" of partner, or having a go at them for claiming benefits or because some can't work full time or would find working full time incredibly difficult there is usually some horrible comment about those things.

The judgement is real unfortunately.

What gets my goat more is people saying they are like a single parent because their DH works long hours or travels.

I'm a lone parent, have been for 14 years, I'm like...yeah it's not though is it.

The combination of families etc definitely should be carefully considered though.

I think warning against introducing kids to partners too soon is a valid warning.

What I see is a lack of acknowledgement that being a single parent is hard - a lone parent even more so, but all single parenting is hard.

I don't know what threads your referring to specifically.
But I only see single mums being warned if they are introducing too soon, or there are already massive red flags etc... there is a massive risk introducing a new partner and very often it isn't done with the children's best interests in mind, I think that's what posters object to.