To be so sad to find out I'm having another boy

Can’t get my head around it! I’m pregnant with a boy and love that he’s a boy so much. Was planning on another but know I’d want another boy.

I find these type of threads a little strange.

I have 1 child who arrived relatively late in life for me. When I was pregnant I knew they would be my only child and all I wanted was a son. I just felt that a boy would fit in so much better into my little world.

I was thrilled beyond belief when I found out it was indeed a boy that I was having. I now have a wonderful son and actually feel a little sorry for my friend who had a girl.

I suspect some of it may come down to personal experience. I know way more people with sons than daughters. My siblings and my DH siblings only had sons as did all bar one of my close friends.

I know it's a forum and I could scroll past but why? Why is it always boys, why can't you just process this in your own head and not annoy everyone who has boys or can't have children or have lost at all stages.

Just keep it in your head and move forward and pray he arrives safely for you.

I’m so sorry x your pain must be unbearable

People said I was lucky having one of each . I’d give anything to be able to hug my son again . The pain of losing him when he was 17 is unreal .
children no matter what are a blessing

Yes agreed

You can be a happy mum of boys without the girl bashing. I may have only sons but I have 6 nieces who are all without exception absolutely wonderful girls and young women who I love loads.

I can remember being disappointed when I found out I was having a boy. I absolutely wouldn’t change it, or him, for the world. We have an amazing close relationship.

It’s really important not to dismiss your feelings. Unreasonable or not, you need to work through them.

There are so many stories on here of wonderful boys, and mine is no different. Having already had a boy and then a girl, I found out I was expecting another girl. I was pretty terrified! My older DD has been hard work compared to my DS. My youngest DD is very headstrong, but so totally different to my older DD, and our relationship is completely different. I have a great relationship with all 3, and love them all so much, but they are all so different and my relationship with each of them is different, regardless of their sex.

It might help not to frame your expectations of your relationship with them based on their sex, but rather their personalities, once they are old enough to shine through. I am pretty sure once your son is born, your feelings will melt away and you will wonder what you were worried about.

I agree, we didn't find out the sex as we genuinely didn't care and people couldn't get their heads around it. Plenty still think we had found out and just kept it a secret. Now i have one of each and constantly get "oh the perfect family!" "You did very well!" "The King's choice, well done!"

I get offended every time, like my family wouldn't be as valuable, or my children as amazing if they weren't one of each sex. God forbid the second had been a boy! Stupid.

Of course YABU. But once you’ve got that beautiful baby in your arms you won’t care. Children are not just their sex. I have 2 boys now teens and I love them to bits.

@PremiumRaa I understand where you’re coming from. I was utterly convinced with my first that it would be a girl. We had a boy.

When I fell pregnant with my second, I was similarly convinced it would be a girl. During the pregnancy we found out we were having another boy. It helped, gave me time to adjust.

It never entered my head that I would have sons. I don’t regret them one bit but I have had to accept that I’d never have a daughter. I did briefly long for a third child but we couldn’t afford to, and there is every likelihood it would have been a boy.

They’ve grown into lovely people and I wouldn’t wish not to have my sons. But a very tiny part of me occasionally mourns the daughter I didn’t have.

You will find peace with having sons, be kind to yourself.

You're mourning for an imaginary relationship with a 'girl'. It may not have worked out the way you imagine, and your relationship with your son may be even better. You'll never know for certain what may have been with a girl. But the certainty of your relationship with your boy once he is born, will mean these thoughts slow down and eventually stop.

Take care OP.

The preference for a girl is so pervasive among women, nobody (even my own sons) believes me when I say I couldn't care less which sex they were.

It's ridiculous. Why would any sane person go into pregnancy if there was a >50% chance of being disappointed with the outcome?

Ugh. Always about boys.

Boys aren’t one homogenous thing. I have two boys who are very different to each other. Surely you’ve seen how awesome your current son is? The next one will probably be too, in his own charmingly unique way.

Surely your husband is a good, lovely male? Surely your son will be too.

@Quitelikeit

Your comment about girls turning into teen nightmares is untrue, and quite offensive.

I have two daughters which I was so happy about, I wanted girls, they are now 32 and 30, and have never given me, or anyone else a moment's trouble or worry. Neither turned into "nightmares", both were an absolute delight to raise.

My nephew on the other hand, he's been trouble from a very young age.

My dm spent my childhood telling me and my sister that she'd only wanted boys. She wasn't joking. Don't let it show.

I had the opposite wanted a boy as my first, I was convinced it was a boy too. I'll never forget the ride home after the scan, completely dumbfounded, saddened and in shock that it was a girl. It took a few weeks to come round and get excited. I'm glad I had the scan to give me time to mentally adjust.

It’s so sad to hear from someone who has suffered from infertility and IVF to say this. How would you feel if you weren’t pregnant at all? And could never be?

when I was pregnant with my second son, a good friend said 'theres only one thing better than a baby boy, and that's two baby boys'

I completely agree.

I came from a girl family, I was one of 3 and everyone had girls. Not a boy in sight.

Well my two boys are an absolute delight. They are 4 years apart, but are as thick as thieves.

Would not swap them for the world

When my second baby was born and they said It's a girl, I told them to have another look!

I don't know what typical girl things are. I have both, and it is my boy that I relate to better. He loves classical music, reading and drawing. My girl is amazing at sport and I never had that. I admire her a lot but we don't have similar interests.
Do you mean shopping and painting nails? You can do that with friends, you don't need a daughter for that.

I wouldn't worry, OP -

As long as things keep going much as they are, at least one of your boys is bound to decide he's actually a girl and change sex anyway. Then you'll have your wish.

@MaraScottie my apologies but to me personally the whole thing - make up / earrings etc is a minefield. I respect it isn't to you but to me it is. I'm 99.9999999% certain I won't have to think about any of this with ds.

I always saw myself as a mum of boys. I have 2 girls. I cried after my gender scan with my first. I was so upset so yes people feel the sane the other way around.

I totally understand. I am lucky enough to have had my son 1st followed by 2 daughters I then lost a baby I was convinced was a boy. When I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd daughter I was so upset I really struggled through the whole pregnancy too. I was desperate for another boy. The second she was born I just fell completely in love and was just besotted with her now watching how close she is with her sister 2 years older it all makes sense and I can't imagine them not being together! You will feel like this when you see your two sweet boys together and be so thankful they have each other and it will be a joy watching them bond