To be so sad to find out I'm having another boy

Have you considered adoption?

I get it @PremiumRaa I had a son then second time round secretly hoped for a girl, ours was a surprise though and that probably made it easy because I was just so happy to be meeting him! He is wonderful and him and his brother have the best relationship 🥰 Wouldn't change things for the world now!

I have boy girl boy. When I went for a third I was desperate for a boy. My boys are amazing, funny, sweet, straightforward. They’re mid teens and 21 and they think I’m the bees knees. I’d choose a boy any day. My daughter is just as amazing but she’s harder work than the 2 boys put together, she costs me a fortune, her life of full of teen drama and I’m her nearest friend and worst enemy all in one.

I never understand the desire for girls. I didn’t have a strong preference but if I did I’d probably choose boys. Teenage girls scare me 😂 there just seems more drama.

Although of course in talking in broad terms of boys and girls we generalise a lot and you never know what kind of person they’ll be. Your girl might have been a tomboy who hated shopping and anything girly likewise you could have a feminine boy with your interests.

I have two boys, having wanted girls throughout both pregnancies.

Honestly I wouldn’t swap them for the world now. They are just the best and I can’t imagine having it any other way now.

I was apprehensive about how it would be as they got older but they’re tween/teenagers now and have been a delight throughout. The eldest is currently hugging me on the sofa as we watch Friends together and has just complemented me on my perfume! They have great senses of humour, are still hugely affectionate and the conversations get more interesting all the time. The experience really hasn’t matched all of the horror stories I heard.

I know exactly how you’re feeling, but it will pass.

Me to. Sorry OP but you should be grateful to be pregnant.

Boys are generally affectionately loving
So are girls.

from my own experience and my friends, boys are much easier in general

My friends and I have found our girls easy to raise.

it's true what they say about 'Mummy's boy, Daddy's girl'

What's true? Never heard that til this thread.

No doubt OP will get over her initial disappointment and cherish both of her sons but they're not better than daughters or vice versa.

I’m afraid I don’t understand you at all, but I dare say my MIL would. I’ve spent 15 years dealing with comments that suggest I should be sad to have 2 boys, as she was disappointed to be in that situation. No disappointment for me, just immense gratitude.

I wanted a boy. Got a girl. She's more like a boy. Then I got a boy. He's softer and more sensitive and more likely to live at home forever.
Boys are awesome and yes they'll hopefully be fab siblings

I can't get my head around posts like this at all. It's always regret at having boys, always, and I find it perplexing and really quite sad.

I have three sons, now grown. They are all awesome and amazing in their different ways. I wouldn't change a thing.

Boys are the best

OP YANBU to feel a bit sad, plenty of women have this but it will pass soon enough.
I have three boys and honestly I was sad when I found out youngest was a boy but I can’t imagine my family any other way, he was a the perfect last part of our puzzle.

My advice would be to leave this thread though because you will get a bashing, people love to say you have no right to feel like this but the fact that so many women feel it just shows it’s quite normal.

I’m sure that will pass when he’s born and you hold him. I doubt it’s usual.

I can relate a bit op. We also had fertility problems initially but ended up having three boys in five years. The only one I found out the sex of ( for various reasons) was my third. I remember going straight onto a night shift after having the scan and did feel a bit upset but soon got chatting to a lovely colleague who had three boys and was really positive. I think just as soon as you get your head around it you will be fine.

Jeez just be happy you are having a presumabky healthy baby. Don’t understand all the anxiety around boys. Worried you won’t be able to take them shopping and discussing make up? 🙄you did post in YABU so YABU!

Only boys here......and they are the best!! Much easier having the same sex op, I never got on with my brother but all boys together entertain each other and you may be surprised at their interests. One of mine wanted to learn to knit and a sewing machine for xmas one year, then proceeded to make curtains for our new house as a teenager, two can cook really well even bake bread and cookies. They are much closer to me than their dad (divorced) and the two youngest are best mates despite 4 year age gap and choose to live together.

It's ok to be sad and feel grief about something you wanted so much. It's ok to say that you want a girl. It's ok to feel what you are feeling. Try to separate the sadness you feel for what is like a loss from the joy and happiness that your new baby boy will bring. Try to find the time to keep this baby in mind, what you're excited about doing with him and imagining the first time you'll hold him in your arms, etc.

If my dd that should've said!

Also to add there is a lot of stress and worry that comes with having daughters that doesn't come with sons. The minefield is when ear piercing is allowed / make up etc. If my ds has her own baby then I'll be worried to death about her in labour. And when mine are teens it'll be dd I'll be worried about out on her own at night rather than ds. Don't get me wrong I LOVE having one of each and feel so grateful to have a daughter but I'm not looking forward to a future ear piercing argument! With ds there presumably won't be such an argument.

I think you should give you head a wobble. I bet there are ladies reading this who would chop a leg off for a healthy baby, girl or boy

That doesn’t make it reasonable though!

Tell me of all these "typical" things you can do with a daughter but not a son?

YANBU - the heart wants what it wants.

Yes this! It's always hating on boys!

OP in the nicest possible way you need to have a word with yourself. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

It's easy to feel disappointed or unnerved in pregnancy because any baby/ child is nothing but an idea. When your son is here you'll laugh at yourself and he'll be all you ever wanted. He is the right fit for your family. As all the other posters have said- your two boys will be friends and your boys. You are mourning the loss of an imaginary ideal that didn't exist. Don't worry about it. Feel how you feel.