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Neighbours being a PAIN in the back

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IamOopsieDaisy · 19/11/2023 20:42

We have moved to a new place (first floor flat) in May (me, my partner and our 3 year old daughter). On day 3 the neighbours from downstairs came up to complain that we have been noisy (unpacking furniture). Recently we got another text message when we were taking a bed apart. And today we got a message in the morning because our daughter was noisy (she run to see her grandma). The neighbour texted “I suggest you take your child to a playground and not use the flat as one, it’s 7:50 am on Sunday”. A little background - my daughter is a pretty chilled child. And we as a family are very considerate, I’d like to think. AIBU to think that they are just super sensitive and a right pain in the a**???? Any ideas how to deal with it? We baked cookies after the first complaint but now I’m just fed up. The “stomping” is not consistent ever, my daughter goes to a nursery 5 times a week from 9 to 5! This makes me just want to move out tbh.
the neighbours have no kids and are probably in their mid 30s.

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AhBiscuits · 20/11/2023 06:54

I'd block them and then start house hunting. It's no way to live worrying about your every step.

Wonderously · 20/11/2023 06:50

Just block them. Don’t say anything. Ignore. They can make an official complaint if it’s that bad.

HannahTheBanana · 20/11/2023 06:47

What if the this neighbour suggests to the communal board that he wants them out? That’s a possibility.. I think I’d try to talk to the landlord and the neighbours and give them some perspective, so they could understand better?

Somewhereoverthersinbowweighapie · 20/11/2023 06:45

Just block the number. You don’t want to be dealing with complaints every five minutes.

ruby1957 · 20/11/2023 06:42

'They need to live and let live or get a detached house in the middle of no where so they can live in silence!!!'

Why is this trotted out so many times? It is a most unrealistic suggestion.

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IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 06:38

So done with them now. We live abroad and the neighbour downstairs is the member of the “communal board”. I think they got our phone number automatically when we moved in! We are definitely people pleasers, I didn’t even think about blocking them!!
additional info: we are renting a bigger flat that is made out of two flats so we have two sets of neighbours downstairs. Our daughter’s bedroom and playroom is actually above the other neighbour’s flat. And that neighbour has never complained or mentioned anything about us being noisy!

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thenightsky · 19/11/2023 22:21

How the hell did they get your number? I'd be giving the estate agent/landlord hell for giving it out. FFS

maximist · 19/11/2023 22:18

Text back "I suggest you move to a detached house as you are clearly not cut out for communal living." Then block them.

SleepyRich · 19/11/2023 22:08

I'd just block their number and think no more on it.

gofullpelt · 19/11/2023 21:57

Block their number for a start, then if they want to complain they'll have to go to the effort of confronting you.

Pussycat22 · 19/11/2023 21:37

Speak to your landlord, your neighbours want it always!

lesdeluges · 19/11/2023 21:23

How did they get your number to text you? Block them or you'll never be done with their moaning.

Speak to them face to face first though, and point out that flat living involves compromises. Tell them you do not complain about their music, and that you are doing your best to be a good neighbour.

If they insist on being pricks about day to day living, try and ignore and carry on, as long as it is reasonable noise at reasonable times, which I am sure it is.

Yummymummy2020 · 19/11/2023 21:18

They sound like absolute Moans! We are a ground floor flat and over time now I don’t notice or care about noise upstairs, they have kids and she does aerobics but we picked a ground floor because i wanted a treadmill and I am heavy footed 🤷🏼‍♀️ They need to live and let live or get a detached house in the middle of no where so they can live in silence!!!

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IamOopsieDaisy · 19/11/2023 21:03

Btw, we are renting. And yes, hard floorboards but with rugs everywhere already to minimise the noise. Still not good enough… we are on the first floor, they (two guys) are on the ground floor.

Exactly that too! It comes in a package of living in a flat… they sometimes play loud music after 10pm, I’d never say anything because I know our daughter bothers them so don’t want to escalate it to some sort of neighbour war!!

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EvilElsa · 19/11/2023 20:55

Ignore. Don't respond to anything by phone, don't answer the door. She can "suggest" what she wants. I suggest she doesn't live in a downstairs flat.
I would make sure I had decent carpeting with thick underlay/rugs down but it's not reasonable for them to expect people to creep around their own house.

fruitbrewhaha · 19/11/2023 20:46

What flooring do you have? Is it carpeted. Hard flooring can sound very loud. Perhaps you could ask to stand in their flat whilst she runs across to see what they are talking about. But ultimately you have to be able to “live” and as they are beneath you, they will be able to hear you.