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Neighbours being a PAIN in the back

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IamOopsieDaisy · 19/11/2023 20:42

We have moved to a new place (first floor flat) in May (me, my partner and our 3 year old daughter). On day 3 the neighbours from downstairs came up to complain that we have been noisy (unpacking furniture). Recently we got another text message when we were taking a bed apart. And today we got a message in the morning because our daughter was noisy (she run to see her grandma). The neighbour texted “I suggest you take your child to a playground and not use the flat as one, it’s 7:50 am on Sunday”. A little background - my daughter is a pretty chilled child. And we as a family are very considerate, I’d like to think. AIBU to think that they are just super sensitive and a right pain in the a**???? Any ideas how to deal with it? We baked cookies after the first complaint but now I’m just fed up. The “stomping” is not consistent ever, my daughter goes to a nursery 5 times a week from 9 to 5! This makes me just want to move out tbh.
the neighbours have no kids and are probably in their mid 30s.

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NotThisShitAgain121 · 01/06/2025 21:53

How have they got your phone number?

Yummymummy2020 · 20/11/2023 11:55

@ruby1957 Well I think expecting silence when you live on a ground floor is even more unrealistic😂 they don’t sound suited to living in a communal building at all🤷🏼‍♀️ And they are selfish to complain about others while blaring their own music🤷🏼‍♀️

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IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 09:12

@mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork Sweden!

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mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork · 20/11/2023 09:06

What country are you living in? It isn't Switzerland is it?

Wishitsnows · 20/11/2023 08:40

@MrsElijahMikaelson1 this response is really good. Don’t let them get away with making stuff up when you were out.

Soontobe60 · 20/11/2023 08:30

ruby1957 · 20/11/2023 06:42

'They need to live and let live or get a detached house in the middle of no where so they can live in silence!!!'

Why is this trotted out so many times? It is a most unrealistic suggestion.

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As is the expectation that someone who lives above someone else keeps quiet all the time.

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IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 08:29

@MrsElijahMikaelson1 that sounds like a reasonable straight forward response. We will talk to the landlord too. They know each other pretty well is my understanding so we'll see.

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IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 08:27

@growgrowinggrown Ha! The grandmother is staying for a weekend. She was sleeping over so my daughter just went to see her first thing in the morning.

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 20/11/2023 08:27

Then block

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 20/11/2023 08:27

Unless someone broke in, we couldn’t have been noisy most of the day that you have stated as we were out. DC is also at nursery all day every day so I don’t see how she could impact you working from home. We don’t moan at you about your late night music we are forced to listen to. We are trying to keep the noise down but this is normal communal living. Please stop complaining to us; we are doing our best.

PinkRoses1245 · 20/11/2023 08:25

IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 06:38

So done with them now. We live abroad and the neighbour downstairs is the member of the “communal board”. I think they got our phone number automatically when we moved in! We are definitely people pleasers, I didn’t even think about blocking them!!
additional info: we are renting a bigger flat that is made out of two flats so we have two sets of neighbours downstairs. Our daughter’s bedroom and playroom is actually above the other neighbour’s flat. And that neighbour has never complained or mentioned anything about us being noisy!

That sounds like a possible GDPR breach. I’d ask the land lord about having carpets installed. Hard floors are a nightmare. But otherwise don’t worry it’s part of living in a flat

growgrowinggrown · 20/11/2023 08:24

The general noises are just something they have to live with, but 0750 on a Sunday morning is a ridiculous time to recieve guests and have a little one running around in excitement.

GaggleTheGoose · 20/11/2023 08:24

I don't understand how these neighbours magically get the mobile numbers of new neighbours.
I've lived in my home for donkeys years and not one of my neighbours have my number, nor will they.

FestiveSandman · 20/11/2023 08:18

IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 08:14

@FestiveSandman Yes. This time they added 'oh the day before you were very noisy too, all day'. We were out most of that day. I just don't like how dramatic they've been. The first time this happened the neighbour came upstairs to literally have a go at us because he cannot carry on working from home now, he needs to go into the office because he cannot focus. You know what I mean? Am I exaggerating, should I not be fed up? Would you not?

Yes you are exaggerating. It’s been 3 times in 6 months.

Maddy70 · 20/11/2023 08:15

You need thicker rugs or carpet noise travels

But I would send a text stating that you are doing everything possible to be accommodating there was noise when you were assembling furniture when you moved in.

You are sorry that the flat doesn't have better insulation as you can hear their music TV etc and it's all part of communal living and as such you haven't complained but you would be very grateful if they could keep it down particularly in the evenings

I would message your landlord and ask for better rugs or carpets

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IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 08:14

@FestiveSandman Yes. This time they added 'oh the day before you were very noisy too, all day'. We were out most of that day. I just don't like how dramatic they've been. The first time this happened the neighbour came upstairs to literally have a go at us because he cannot carry on working from home now, he needs to go into the office because he cannot focus. You know what I mean? Am I exaggerating, should I not be fed up? Would you not?

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FestiveSandman · 20/11/2023 08:06

So it’s been 6 months and it’s only happened 3 times?

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IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 08:04

@2jacqi that's why I think they are lacking any sort of perspective or understanding. It's not like we are letting our daughter jump and run around like a maniac, we tell her every day to be mindful of the neighbours downstairs. I am just fed up with them at this point.

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2jacqi · 20/11/2023 07:22

it is just daytime living noise! they cannot do anything about it. you, on the other hand, can report them for playing loud music after 10pm!! wait till they have kids!!

SkankingWombat · 20/11/2023 07:11

I would pop down and speak to the other neighbour who is underneath you. Ask if your noise has been disrupting them and explain you've had numerous complaints from the other neighbour, which is why you're checking in (in case they're just being very polite). It will give you confirmation one way or the other how unreasonable you are, but if the complainers are known PITAs, I would have thought the others would know and add that at this. It should give you some comfort you've done nothing wrong and allow you to block them safe in the knowledge the other residents are well aware of their unreasonable demands should they raise a complaint.
It is worth mentioning to your LL too though. Firstly as a heads up, but also to mention the floorboards and the possibility of carpeting. Flats often have a clause that anything over ground floor is not allowed hard floors.

AuntPru · 20/11/2023 07:05

Do not give these types one inch! Know your rights and do not pander (definitely no more gifts etc). You are not doing anything wrong. Make sure you know the local legislation on antisocial behaviour and reasonable living sounds. We went through this and our downstairs neighbour was an absolute bitch, slamming doors every time our toddler cried, no matter how long we'd been out that day, how long he was crying or what the reason was. She only stopped when we told her via text that we did not respond to bullying and intimidation and would lodge a formal complaint with the council if she didn't pack it in. This was 2.5 years ago; she couldn't be nicer to us now. Don't feed the batshit.

tinytemper66 · 20/11/2023 07:01

How do they have your number if you are new neighbours? This is what I have taken for your opening post.

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IamOopsieDaisy · 20/11/2023 06:58

We need to be here until May, one of the reasons why we try to get along… and failing 🤡

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CasaAmarela · 20/11/2023 06:57

I'm normally on the neighbours' side on these types of thread but these guys sound like cunts. I would record their music and send them the recording so it's on record with a time. Not saying it's necessarily a good idea but it's what I'd do 😂 Then I'd block and inform landlord if they continue to harass you.

boamorte · 20/11/2023 06:57

It amazes me the number of people that have neighbour issues and say that the neighbour has texted them to complain

We've lived on our street twelve years. We don't know anybody's surnames let alone have their phone numbers

Block them and ignore them

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