Telling someone you are too busy for a visit but they turned up anyway

Exactly. I'm sure if the neighbour had said, "our Trevor's walked out and I don't know what to do." Or "I've had a funny turn," or "I'm really struggling, do you have half a hour for a cuppa?" op would have helped.

Step back everyone, a martyr has arrived. Make way.

Don't be so bloody pompous. The woman was BORED not in distress, the OP told her she was totally busy and not a convenient time but the arrogant woman totally disregarded the OP!

It wasn't Ignorance and Want at OP's door - just a pushy person who doesn't take No for an answer.

Being Kind to your fellow man does not mean being an absolute pushover FFS.

Good for you for sticking to your boundaries OP! Hopefully she'll leave you alone from now on, she sounds awful, and not the type of friend you need at all!

Good for you OP telling her to leave. It’s unbelievably rude to come over after you telling her it’s not a good time for you.

WTF is wrong with people not respecting the word no?! Then they have the audacity to get pissy when you’re too busy to talk. The fact she always wangs on about herself is no surprise considering her lack of respecting your boundaries.

I had a friend who did this regularly...just turn up expecting me to drop everything...or say she would come and not turn up. I had it out with her.. said my time is as precious as yours, please let me know if planned to come to let me know you wont be coming so i can do something else and if ring couple days before coming. She carried on doing what she always did...so i told her that was it..it was disrespectful. Didn't see her for 8 month then she just turned up out blue!! I know!! Rude. Tapped on window as if i should be overjoyed...i invited her in , said thats exactly what i was talking about, just turning up without organising...i wasn't happy to see her.I showed her the door and not seen her for years...only in supermarket where she disappeared as soon as seen me lol...made me lol actually..she looked like she was walking down the stairs but behind the sofa sketch 🤣

Boundaries! Well done. She was very rude. You’d been abundantly clear.

Sorry in the minority but she was so close by, you could have said okay just ten minutes so, personally I think you were rider! Lot of very over dramatic people on this thread!

this is why im not over invested with neighbours-although you already said no

@cadburyegg
If I had been your neighbour I would have said I'd just seen you leave with your DS !

@Wilkolampshade
Oh, my goodness !! Reminds me of the '90's when my DH's aunt walked in our house via the unlocked back door,
" Anyone at home ?"
I was in bed with DH !!! He went downstairs to chat to her, as if it was a normal part of life to just enter someone's home without notice, I stayed upstairs, too embarassed, as it would have been obvs what we were doing, stayed there for 2 hours !! I thought it was funny during the first few minutes, not so when the auntie had left.

I was wondering the same- who leaves their front door open when having a bath and if the neighbour is so annoying and you gave them a key then thats kind of on you

If an annoying neighbour can walk into your home while you were in the bath, then a burglar or worse can walk into your home while you are in the bath.

Why on earth don't people lock their doors?

Did he apologize afterwards?

I completely agree.

People whom don't respect the privacy of others, and turn up anyway because as the OP clearly stated, she likes to talk about herself endlessly, are EXACTLY the type of people that add NOTHING to the lives of others, and are best avoided to AVOID drama.

I would have said well as you are so bored, do you fancy giving my kitchen or bathroom a good clean as I only have today to get the hole house done!! , or could you help he change all the beds!! But that me I have a brass neck!!, as brass as hers for coming across when you said you was busy!!

No but I would have made sure she was ok and didn't really need someone to talk to first.

I think on your position I'd probably have looked at her, puzzled and said, did you come to help?
Oh, I've got plenty you can help with!
Cheeky fucker turning up when she was told not to.

FIL did this once. He called in as he had seen my car parked outside. I answered the door and told him he couldn't come in because I had suspected Norovirus . He pushed his way inside anyway ( not unusual for him) and as I opened my mouth to object I threw up on his shoes.
Job done, he left.

Incredibly rude of her.

I don't thrive on drama at all and that's exactly why I would block someone like this woman. I don't keep people like this in my life.

@AllAroundMyCat back then we didn't have any other way of communicating though other than by landline which was expensive (only call after 6pm etc) but with the advent of mobiles etc the way we communicate has just shifted. Even back then, where I lived, people made plans to visit rather than just drop in unless they were very close friends/neighbours.

I'm pretty friendly with my neighbour and we have impromptu catch-ups occasionally but we both work and are single parents so just dropping in when you feel like it doesn't work today in the way it might've done when more women were SAHPs.

Brilliant! 😂

@Hairyfairy01 must be the irritating neighbour. 🙄